Telling people

Tamara - posted on 06/20/2009 ( 17 moms have responded )

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When do you tell family and friends that you are pregnant?

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Christine - posted on 08/16/2009

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my partner told everyone with seconds of finding out when i was pregnent with my first & luckily everything went ok, but trying for our second he done the same but wen i went for the scan i found out i had miscarried at 5wks but my sac was still growing empty at 18wks, it was heartbreaking for me and then having to call was worse,so when i did fall pregnent again i didnt tell him till i eas 4wks & this time he only told our closest friend & his mum & swore them to secrecy at the 12wk scan wen we found everything was fine we told the world!!! it is so hard to keep a secret and to try & lie for reasons not to do things but we learnt a lesson that dosent suit everyone but it suits us i guess wot i am rambling to say is tell them when your ready to that is the best time

Bobbi - posted on 08/04/2009

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We told everyone instantly w/ DD (now 7 mo old) and this time we waited a couple of weeks before telling family. We spread the news with everyone else after my last check up.

Of course the responses have been...do you know how this happened? Well, truly yes we know the answer, no it wasn't intentional.

Becci - posted on 08/03/2009

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We found out at what we think is 5 weeks and normal would have announced it then (I have been lucky and only ever had successful pregnancies so it seemed safe). However we got married on the 27th July (around 11weeks we think) and my husband decided to add it into his speech. Went something like "Oh and by the way, Becci's expecting again". It was very funny watching reactions.

Sherona - posted on 07/28/2009

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i have told a few of my friends, im 10 weeks, but i wont be telling anyone else until i am 12 weeks.

Erica - posted on 07/17/2009

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Today marks week 9...and we have told everyone! We lost a baby in February and were scared to tell people. But we wanted our friends and family to know so they could be our support and keep us in their prayers. We are very excited! Our 3 year old is excited to be a big sister!

Tamara - posted on 06/24/2009

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Thank you for sharing, my husband has read most of these and he feels a lot better about telling people. You've helped, thanks!

Lindsey - posted on 06/24/2009

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Quoting Kari:

We told everyone. Thought were weren't going too but we were just to happy! We tried for 8 yrs to get our first and the week we were suppose to start fertility treatments found that we did in on our own! So I guess we figured this next one might take awhile so better start now. Well here I am 7 weeks pregnant and a 10 month old. So anyway I figured share our good news and if it turns out badly at least we will have the support of everyone because I am sure we would need it.


That's amazing congrats! Im glad you were able to do it on your own and didn't have to go through the treatments!!! Congrats again and i hope for the best for you :)



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We told everyone. Thought were weren't going too but we were just to happy! We tried for 8 yrs to get our first and the week we were suppose to start fertility treatments found that we did in on our own! So I guess we figured this next one might take awhile so better start now. Well here I am 7 weeks pregnant and a 10 month old. So anyway I figured share our good news and if it turns out badly at least we will have the support of everyone because I am sure we would need it.

April - posted on 06/22/2009

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We told all our family at 5 weeks when we found out, and then once I saw the doctor and had it confirmed i told my boss and the others as it felt right. I have a big mouth so it's hard for me not to tell. I just pray the is a healthy pregnancy with no major problems. I am 8 weeks now, only 4 more to go till I am out of the 1st trimester:)

Lindsey - posted on 06/21/2009

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i told my mom the day i took the blood test that i think i might be...then my mom told my aunt..but then we kinda ended up telling a lot of people....but its always in the back of my mind..what if i lose it how do i tell everyone...its scary no matter what

the way i think about it is i know people who have miscarried..at 17 weeks...so its scary..all around..so i kinda live in the your'e never really safe..because with my first i was always told 12 weeks the risk is lowered a lot of losing it..but then my professor in college lost it at 17 weeks...very sad :(

Melissa - posted on 06/21/2009

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We have told a few of our friends. But we haven't even thought about telling our parents yet. DH and I are not close with either of our families. So we're waiting to tell them till atleast the 9-12 week mark when we know for sure.

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Last time we told everyone within a couple of days of finding out; friends knew we were having fertility treatment, so they would have started asking soon. This time, we will be waiting a few weeks. This baby is a surprise and I cherish the idea of it being "just for us" for a while. Also, due to our previous infertility our insurance won't cover maternity care, and I want to have everything in place (going to make payment arrangements with our family doctor) before we make the announcement. Additionally, my SIL recently sent us a very catty email, and so there is some family trouble, so it is not a good time for an announcement.

I think we will probably seek an ultrasound about 9-12 weeks, and tell people once we have a picture of the new baby to show them :)

Amy - posted on 06/20/2009

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I told people before I had even missed a period because I took the test 2 days before! lol My first pregnancy went fine, so we went ahead and told people about this one. There's always a twinge in the back of my mind, though, of the "what-ifs." It was just too hard not to say anything! I'll keep you all in my prayers, though, and ask that you'll do the same for me - pray for healthy pregnancies!

Lin - posted on 06/20/2009

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We told our folks right away - I'm emotionally and geographically close to my parents, and for some reason this time around I'm showing already, so they'd question it anyway. And we'd thought it'd be something nice for the grandpa's this Father's Day.

Jill - posted on 06/20/2009

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I know the feeling about losing babies. I have been there too. I have lost 3 babies then I had my twin girls. I had to start telling people at work because we lift alot of heavy things and I can't do that anymore. So I had to tell them. Everyone was shocked. I was just as shocked because me and my hubby weren't even trying to have a kid right now. But we are excited that this one is on the way. We can't wait until after the 12 week mark now. Onbly 5 more weeks to go!!

Tamara - posted on 06/20/2009

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I have told people at 5 weeks and waited until 12 weeks. We've lost two babies so it make us afraid to tell people that me may have to turn around and tell them never mind. With this one we've told our parents, but wont be telling anyone else until we've cleared the 12 week mark.

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