When is a good age to take away the pacifier?

Christina - posted on 12/01/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 9 months old and her daddy and I have been debating lately when is a good age to take away her binki... I know a lot of people disagree with even giving it to them in the first place but she was a finger sucker in the beginning....still is if she doesn't have her binki. We talked about it when she was a newborn and decided we could take away the binki but not her fingers. Also her ped. told us that they reduce the risk of sids for babies under a year. When are you thinking of taking your baby's away? He thinks maybe a year but her bottle is going on her 1st birthday and I really don't want to take both then. I don't want to traumatize her. I think only one at a time.

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Felicia - posted on 12/01/2010

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my son only used his at nap time and bed time. then i only used it for bed time. then the day he turned 9months is the day i took it away. he does fine without it and is completly off it. if you want to take it away just limit it first that way you dont just take it away.

Sarah - posted on 12/22/2010

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My dtr had hers until a few months after she turned 2. When I first had her I said she would give it up at one... she only used at night time and nap time at that age. the only reason she had it so long was because we went through sooo many changes I did not want to change that too. It is up to you when you take it away. My advice is wait until she has given up her bottle and there are no other major changes going on. With my dtr I told her for a week she was going to have a bye bye party for her binky (pacifier) and she was going to put htem in the trash. She did it on the specified date and was only upset at night time for 1-2 nights. She got a cupcake after she threw them away. With a slightly older child you can do things like that a little easier than with a baby.
It seems though that maybe you and your partner need to discuss when it can and should be given to her. But at 9 months I would let her have it when she wants it. If you are worried about her teeth talk to a peditric dentist. Also your child's doctor may have more suggestions for you.

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Lara - posted on 12/28/2010

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my son is 10 months old and still has one although we try to keep it to only bedtime/naptime and when he is upset. but he already has 5 teeth and more coming in. He also only has 1 bottle at night, the rest of the time uses a sippy cup. I am expecting again the end of July so hoping to get him totally off it before then and hoping he doesn't regress after new baby is born. It all depends on your own child's situation. If it really bothers you her having it, try to only give it at bed then take it out once asleep, but if she acts like you are torturing her after a few days of trying I would give it back and try again in a few months.

Laura - posted on 12/27/2010

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We have a really similar question. My daughter was never very fussed as to whether she had a dummy or not and it was always just there incase she was having HUGE problems going to sleep or she was very upset. Since I've returned to work and chloe has started in child care, she's developed a HUGE attachment to her dummy. Now she very rarely takes herself off to sleep without it and relies on it more than she ever used to. As to when to stop??? I wish I knew! All I know is like many people who have commented, Chloe will not be one of those 3 year olds happily running around with a dummy in her mouth - it's just something that I personally don't like. I'm stuck too. If you come up with a solution I'd love to hear it.
Best of luck to you
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Robyn - posted on 12/22/2010

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It actually does do them a bit of harm. It can really screw up their baby teeth. I think every baby should have their soothers taken away before 2 most definitely. However during these holidays while my hubby and I are BOTH home.. we are going to try to just take it away 'cold turkey' as she only uses it for naps, and bedtime. She shouldn't need it anymore.

Stella - posted on 12/21/2010

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My son has his dummy, but I actually hate them, so I only give him it for bed or when he's really upset.

I see kids going around of 2 or 3 in supermarkets with dummies in their mouth, that will never be me. I don't give him a dum in public at the moment unless he's upset.

I hope to have him off it completely by 18 months max, but I know people with kids as old as 4 who still took one at night. End of day, it's not actually doing the kids any harm, so as long as they are happy, it's up to the parent to judge what is best for their child (hasten to add, there's no way mine will still have one at 3 lol)

Robyn - posted on 12/21/2010

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@ Sonya, since your boys never took them you wouldn't realize how hard it really is to take them away after 9 full months of having them. Also, there is nothing wrong at all with soothers in the beginning. Its a babies favourite hobby to have suck time, and sooth themselves as its really all they can do for the first few months of their lives. I have a 10 month old daughter still taking the soother for naps and bedtime. She could careless about it during the day as she is busy with other things, but I am in the same boat... its going to be quite the transition I am sure getting her off the soo and cherishing something else....

Sarah - posted on 12/16/2010

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My daughter is 10 1/2 months and she still has hers. I was the same way, I didnt want to give one to her and the hospital and Dr. encouraged it due to reducing sids. I am planning on the same thing. Taking her bottle at a year and then working on the binky. Good luck!

Kimberly - posted on 12/15/2010

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My daughter is 9.5 months and still uses a pacifier. She doesn't have it all the time, but does have it when she is sleeping, and when she is fussy. I honestly don't see anything wrong with it at this age. They are still very young, and if my daughter finds it soothing, then I don't have a problem with giving it to her. I think after a year, I will try and wean her off of it, but for now, I think it's totally fine. Good luck hon. :)

SONYA - posted on 12/15/2010

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BOY THAT SHOULD HAVE BEEN GONE ALONG TIME AGO HOW DID SHE END UP WITH IT 9 MONS INTO HER AGE MY KIDS NEVER TOOK THEM MY MOM SAYS THEY WERENT GOOD I HAD TWO BOYS AND I NEVER HAD TO USE THEM THEY WERE OFF THE BOTTLE AT 10 MONS AND WALKING,....SOME BABIES TAKES LONGER BUT IT IS UP TO THE PARENTS THOUGH

Kristy - posted on 12/09/2010

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I only let my daughter have hers when she is reallly tired or falling asleep. I am hoping by her first birthday I can take it away...We will see how that goes....

Holly - posted on 12/07/2010

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I wanted to try taking my daughter's away at 6 months. She wasn't really attached to it so I was just going to do away with it. Then my husband started giving it to her more. Now at 9 months it seems like she has one a lot of the time but I've noticed it seems to help soothe her when she's teething and I'd rather do a pacifier than tylenol if we don't need the tylenol. Not sure what to do from here.

Saira - posted on 12/06/2010

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I took my oldests sons away completely at age 2. When he was about 1 we kept it on the dresser in his room and he knew when he got out of bed it went there and he got it when he went down for bed and nap. I was going to ween him earlier than 2, but things happen, I had another baby and 2weeks later my husband deployed and i figured it was too much on him to take the bink away at 18m with all it happening. Good Luck.

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I am in the same boat as you. I just started keeping the binkys in the bedroom. As of now, my Lily only gets it for sleeping and car rides.

Before she was born I had it all figured out. I was going to have her off of it by the time she started getting teeth. Funny how things turn out.

Good luck to you! I think both of us will need it!

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