Dont judge me because my baby has colic

Fiorella - posted on 05/10/2011 ( 25 moms have responded )

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my wee boy is 2 months old and still has colic. He is settling slowly but surely. What I hate is other women reaction to a crying baby when in public. they stop and stare , some even tut and in their eyes they carry judgement. I just feel like screaming my baby has colic have you a problem with that. I walked out of a super market recently because i could not take any more stares.. I would love to see these judgemental people think ouside the box for a change and see not every baby is a bold one and not every mother is a neglectful one.

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People are terrible. I generally ignore them.

As far as the colic goes, I had a daughter with it, and an old school pediatrician. The pedi told me to find a goat dairy and put her on raw goat milk. So at 2 months, after trying the whole spectrum of formulas, I found a goat dairy an hour away. I traveled every Sunday and bought enough raw goat milk for 2 weeks. I kept 1 week fresh and froze the second week worth (they stop producing from November to February around here.

She stopped crying when I gave her the FIRST BOTTLE, and she was the happiest baby I have ever seen.

Kellie - posted on 05/10/2011

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Hi Fiorella I have a 6 month old who luckily never suffered from colic, how ever the first formula we had her on was I don't too harsh for her. Her last feed in particular were pretty shitty, she'd squirm and carry on etc etc, by week 8 of her little like I was like this isn't right and was beginning to suspect she was lactose intolerant. There were other signs, such as regular constipation and very very smelly poo's. So I switched her to Lactose free formula, and it worked a treat :)
Unsure wheather this would help u but maybe give it a go for a tin and see how it goes? though constantly changing formulas can upset their little tummies too.
As for the judgmental people, ignore them. It's their judgments without knowing the issue. You know what's wrong and what you are doing and i'm sure you're doing the best you can :)
poor little mite :( do you massage his belly? just pressure you can withstand on your eyelid so not much at all going from left to right, and 'running' his legs may also help to get that nasty trapped air moving.
No idea if any of this actually helps so i'll stop rambling now.....LOL

Louise - posted on 05/10/2011

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I understand what you are saying completly my third child had colic and she screamed all the time until I could stand it no more and took her to the doctors. I gave her gaviscon powder with every feed and it changed my life and hers around. It was amazing stuff from the very first dose. No more crying baby. Go to the GP and see what they can offer you. It will make a huge difference to both of you.

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Marjorie - posted on 08/20/2011

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I have to say I am at the point where anything that helps him I am on board with: you want to puke all over me, you want to be sick on my floors, you want to lie on my neck and then puke on my bed - GO! Do it babe because anything which makes you feel good is ok with me!

Marjorie - posted on 08/20/2011

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Wow - that post hit the nail on the head. My boy has finally started to take a dummy but I was feeling like every time we went out people were looking at me with a 'what the hell is wrong with him' look. It is hard enough to struggle with the issue (and the not sleeping, and stress BECAUSE of the issue) without people giving you dirty looks! I'm like: sure I abuse and neglect my child - that is why we are out in public doing it! GRRR!

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I so know the feeling! They look at your like you're abusing your child! My baby wasn't colic (we thought she was) but she had a super severe case of acid reflux (worse case her drs ever saw) she didn't gain any weight for 6 weeks because she literally threw everything she ate back up and would scream for 6 hours straight sometimes longer. I fed her in the drs office and this lady was starting at me and wouldn't let her children come near me to see my baby because of my child screaming and she glared at me the whole time. I know how you felt!

Brittnie - posted on 08/07/2011

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Go to a Specialist not a Pediatrician, try a Pediatric Gastroenterologist. We went through the same thing with our lo, they kept telling us it was colic, we knew something wasn't right and it wasn't, it was Reflux. The Specialist put her on medication and it changed our lives almost immediately!

Theresa - posted on 05/26/2011

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Try Colic Calm, my baby didn't have "true" colic but some stomach problems and this helped us. I hope it gets better.

Fiorella - posted on 05/18/2011

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hi mary thats the kindest thing that anyone has said to me in awhile. i feel like i struggle as i hve no outside support barr my husband. i am readin these posts while rockin in my chair with the baby in my arms. i hve become immune to the screams and excellent at typing with one hand lol. i hve been to the doc and not only is he colic he is now teething. the heslth nurse has asked me to wait 2 more weeks and then start to introduce food. this baby is adorable and i am extremely blessed to have him as it took 6yrs to concieve . i have a 9yr old and he is feeling left out as i dont have much time as before but he understands it is only for a short while. thnx to everyone and to you ffor your kind advice and words of encouragement it is keeping my head up. xxxxxxx

Mary - posted on 05/18/2011

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I just want you to know that I have so much respect for mom's who go through what your going through. I have a 3 and a half month old son and a 4yr old daughter and neither were colic. THANK GOD...You are my HERO...any mom who can cope through that and come out of it with her sanity is AMAZING...If no one has told you lately that YOU are doing a GREAT JOB! please accept this from me. I know that when I see a mom in public struggling with either a crying baby or a pre-schooling throwing a tantrum My heart goes out to them...I would never think of judging them.

Diane - posted on 05/17/2011

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Hi Fiorella,

I know what it's like when your son has colic. My son did too. It's horrible when they can't settle or get comfy. I was breast feeding and had loads of people tell me he couldn't be colicky and breastfed! You try telling him that! Two bits of good news:-

1. There are drugs out there. gaviscon works great for some babies and others need another drug - ranitidine. the two in combination worked great for sam.
2. They do grow out of it! He won't be like this all his life (although it does feel like it now)! My DS is now 16 months old and absolutely fine! He still occasionally gets a bit bloated and full of wind and now I just find foods that help him get rid (a banana quite often helps) and wait for the explosive poo!!!! but it does get better and better.

I know how frustrating it is being the mum of a baby who can't get comfy and won't shut up. It's hard and particularly difficult dealing with everyone else who thinks they know better. Ignore the ones who are tutting and just remember a lot of the ones who are looking at you are looking in sympathy, not criticism. Many of us have been there and whilst we won't interfere we equally want you to know we share your pain!

Definitely make your doctor give you something else. No baby should have to go through that unnecessary pain.

Tonya - posted on 05/17/2011

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Ladies, I SO feel for you! I had two children with reflux and food allergies and would love to recommend a book to you called Colic Solved by Dr. Bryan Vartebedian. He provides the insight into the mysteries of colic and how to get your bany the help he needs. There IS a way to fix it for your baby and neither of you has to suffer like this. Please get the book so you can help your baby and you. Oh, and this doc is a pediatric GI doc, so he knows his stuff! Good luck!

OH, and the goats milk worked for us also, but I was able to buy it at the grocery store.

Bonnie - posted on 05/16/2011

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Sorry to hear about the colicy baby! Mine was 9 weeks when my doctor (not pediatrician) said to add a spoonful of rice cereal to each bottle and one drop of mylecon. The first night he went from sleeping 1 hour at a time to 4 hours in a row! I thought there was something wrong with him - instead he finally got full AND the mylecon relieved some of the painful gas! After that, rice cereal and mylecon in every bottle seemed to really do the trick!

Fiorella - posted on 05/15/2011

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hi amanda, its def hard going. my son is beibg bottle fed as i was unable to breast feed. i have duds lol.. i remember though being told breastfed babies dont get colic how wrong are they.....lol..

Amanda - posted on 05/15/2011

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Hi Fiorella, I was unfortunate enough to have 2 coliccy babies. My son grew out of it at 9 months and my daughter was 7 months. It's horrible but I became a pro at baby massage.
Both my kids were breastfed and I found with my daughter that if I drank camomile tea it helped ease the pain for her.

Fiorella - posted on 05/15/2011

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Hi Ladies thank you all for your comments.. Gabrielle you have been blessed with an angel What you have been through is far more rough than me and I applaud you and your family especially your baby boy for being strong during hard times. There is no such thing as a bold baby.. I cant wait for my boy to be over the pain it kills me to see him in pain as it would any mother .. One thing I keep tellin myself is that I have been blessed with this wee soul and I am gonna enjoy it through the rough and good times as they are not babies for long I waited 9 years for him and it has been worth it. I just find it so sad that in this day and age people well women more so that have no doubt had their children could be so narrow minded.. All they have to do is not stare and continue on with their business. Sometimes its not what you say to someone that hurts , its how you express yourself through body language that does.

Gabrielle - posted on 05/11/2011

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My favorite question when we're out in public is "Is he a good baby?" First of all, what am I supposed to say? "No, he's a bad one. Looks like we got a dud!" I don't think so! My son can't help it if he has reflux. So I always say yes, he's a good baby. Because he is. He just spent those first few months miserable much of the time. =)

And secondly, my dear son had the top half of his left lung removed when he wasn't yet 6 weeks old. It was an emergency surgery, and prior to it, he nearly died. So the other thing I tell people is that he can scream all night if he wants to. I'm just happy to have my baby boy alive and well.

It frustrates me that the measure of a "good baby" is how much they sleep or how quiet they are.

Lindsy - posted on 05/11/2011

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I can't imagine anyone who has had a baby tutting at another mother.Babies cry , none of my kids ever had colic but I've gotten dirty looks when my baby cries , and I feel like walking over to the looker and saying 'hey you were a baby once ,and trust me , you did this too , so grow up'.
Just ignore the looks dear , anyone that is so self centered as to not understand that judgement isn't the way to go , isn't worth worrying about anyway.

Jaime - posted on 05/10/2011

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Sorry to hear you are having a hard time. Both of my kids had colic and acid reflux, my second child only 3 months old yesterday.....it is rough to go anywhere, I understand. At some point I think both of us need to take a deep breath and ignore others. I actually had a stranger come up and ask if she could help me the other day- no one understand unless they have been through it

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Your Welcome. I tried peppermint sticks for her to suck on off and on and it seemed to help. My 2 3/4 month old son gets a fussy time usually once a day and I give him water with a touch of peppermint extract (2oz of water with a drop of peppermint extract is strong enough)and he loves it. But I don't give him more then 1oz a day. I find that it helps his bowels cause he seems to be constipated sometimes so this keeps him regular. And if all else fails with him and he is still fussy I give him a 1/2 tsp of alcohol free Gripe Water and that usually kicks in within 10 minutes.

Fiorella - posted on 05/10/2011

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Thanks Carolyn its one of the toughest things a mother could go thru, knowing your child is in pain and there is sweet FA you can do but try comfort them.

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My daughter was colic for about the 1st 6 months of her life and I was so happy when it was over, but I do understand what u are going thru.

Fiorella - posted on 05/10/2011

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Hi Kellie, thanks a mil. Its hard to explain but jamie is so different to my other son he hates being disturbed lol.. but ya have tried the belly massage the pushing his legs up etc. he definately isnt lactose intolerent but if it goes on for much more we might just try the milk. In saying that he has been getting better.. he now takes 5 oz which he hasnt done before. his bowel movements are regular thank god. I put him in his cot at 9pm and he sleeps til 3 or 4am which he wasnt doing and we get up at 6am then.. so i cant complain too much most of his crying is during the day I just feel so sorry for him and I cannot wait til I get to feed him solids as this might help it did with my first born and he was worse than jamie. now I remember why I left it 9 yrs to hve my second haha. no worries on the rambling as u can tell i am one too hahaha..... I hate narrow minded people I think its more annoying to see that its the women that do it I mean there are a huge number of women that have this prob. its so mind boggling .

Fiorella - posted on 05/10/2011

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Hi Louise, thnx . I have been tothe doc and all she offered was the norm. change the milk, use infacol,colief etc but as u know none of these made a difference so on my second vist she advised to change the milk again and to hang tough lol.. so jamie went from SMA Gold To Aptamil comfort to now Cow and Gate comfort which has worked a little bit.. so with your suggestion I am definately going to follow up on. thnx again

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