how many years or months should your first and second child be apart?

Ellie Richardson - posted on 04/10/2012

My oldest two children are 11months apart and are the same age for two weeks. As a matter of fact my middle daughter is turning 10 April 19 ,2012and my oldest will be turning 11May the 1st 2012.

Ellie Richardson - posted on 04/10/2012

I think that this is one of those trick questions. There is not right answer. Do what's right for you and what u can handle.

Casden - posted on 04/08/2012

well my son is nearly 14 months and i am 14 weeks pregnant. so i get what i get we planned to have it like this and it ended up working out as planned so thanks for the opinions and feedback.

Neerja - posted on 04/02/2012

Good question, sorry there is no 'right' answer. Only what is right for you. I have 3 years, 2 months between my boys and am now am planning baby number 3 with 23 months between if I'm successful (last chance with IVF). I was more freaked out about the 3yr age gap than the 23month one. Best of luck with your TTC.

Sarah - posted on 03/03/2012

My daughter and son are 17 months apart. It was hard at first, but is getting easier. We are now expecting number three. My daughter will be 3 when the baby arrives, and my son will be 20 months, pretty much 3 under 3- expecting it to be a lot of work at first- but worth it!

Heather - posted on 02/27/2012

Mine are 17 months apart. Ummm...don't do that. Lol! I'm just kidding. I actually like them being so close together. I planned it that way because I am hoping that they will always be extremely close. I realize that they are going to be enemies half of the time, but I really see a bond between them that I don't think would be there is they were too far apart. That being said, I think that my life would be a whole lot less hectic if I had waited and had 3-4 years between my kids. My house gets pretty crazy.

Heather - posted on 01/28/2012

It really depends on you. My boys are 3 years apart and I love it. At first I was worried because James was my baby for so long and I was worried about him being upset. I also was scarred on how can I treat them the same and everything but once you hear that first heart beat everything changes. James was such a big help with his brother and still is. I think God will tell you when you are ready for another one also because I tried and tried a year after I had James with no luck. I think God deals you the hand that he knows you can handle plus you have us on here to help you along the way =)

Brenna - posted on 12/07/2011

is there really a right answer?? I have a 2 year old and almost 10 mo old and they are 22 months apart which we planned for. After my second was born it was hell for me literally for like 5 months. I hate to say that but it was probably the most difficult time of my life. Once my baby started to become more independent it changed for the better completely. But even saying that I am considering getting pregnant at the end of next year which would make it about 2 1/2 years from my last baby...I must be crazy LOL but god will never give you more than you can handle...

Mary - posted on 11/18/2011

I didn't know there was a risk in having babies close together i am 11 weeks pregnant and have a 9 month old. that would be the most devistating thing in the world to me.

Aniesha - posted on 11/18/2011

Whatever you are comfortable with:). Everyone told me not to leave more than a 2 yr age gap between mine, but I just know that I wouldn't have been able to cope, physically or emotionally if I'd done that. As it stands, there will be a 3 yr age gap between mine, and I'm really happy with that:)

Brianna - posted on 11/17/2011

just remeber having pregnancy's less then 18months apart increases the risk of low birth weight, premature labor and miscarriage. I no this because when my daughter turned 12 months i concieved and then lost it 10 weeks later.. i didnt no there was higher risks to having them closed together until i lost the baby and learned the risks the hard way.

Casden - posted on 11/17/2011

im planning on having mine like 20 months apart

Mary - posted on 11/16/2011

I think every situation is different. I know woman who are soooo happy having them all back to back and i know woman who prefer to have a few years gap. if you and your partner agree on it then that's all that matters. people will make their judgements but who cares:)

Laressa - posted on 11/16/2011

Mine are 17 months apart. I love the way they play together already. One thing to think about, can you physically handle the demands of parenting two children that close in age. honestly I did not mind it till recently. I have been pregnant and/or breastfeeding for 3 years straight now. Our children have not been the greatest sleepers so we have had over 2 years of broken nights. I am so exhausted. But at least I'll do this once and be done. I'm not dragging out caring for babies over a number of years. My doctors were OK with me having them that close, but one receptionist was not. She kinda reemed me out in front of the waiting room for having my babies so close. I was pretty ticked at her. So that might be something to consider too, what people are gonna say.

Jessica - posted on 11/16/2011

It really depends on what you want. I couldn't ever understand why people would have 2 in diapers, but now that I have 2 I understand it a little better. Mine are 6 weeks shy of 6 years apart. It is crazy for me. My son loves his baby sister, but they are at such different stages that it is very difficult at times. Having them closer together you would be use to sleeping regularly and all night for 4 or 5 year like I was. Also you can use all your baby items again which is awesome. You can get through bottles and diapers a lot sooner. My son hadn't been in diapers for 3 years. For myself personally now that I have been through a 6 year age difference I would say 2 or 3 year age difference would be ideal. I couldn't handle a year or 18 month age difference though. My niece is a year older and when I have both if them it is difficult for me, but that is me personally.

Brianna - posted on 11/15/2011

i think a 2 or 3 year age gap is perfect

Kimberly - posted on 11/15/2011

I believe there is no 'right age' to have kids apart. My brother and I are just under three years apart and we've never gotten along where my sisters are 18 months apart and get along great and there is 11 and 13 years between myself and them. It all depends on how your handling things and how much work your up for. I always thought 18months was ideal but when the time came there was no way that I could have dealt with another baby. I have friends with big age gaps and little age gaps they both have the benifits and struggles

Casden - posted on 11/15/2011

just need opinions