Why is it...

Kathy - posted on 12/19/2008 ( 20 moms have responded )

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That the breastfeeding group has like 21000 members but the formula fed one has 9 members?!



There are statisticaly more bottle feeders then breastfeeders in this world.



hmm

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Rebecca - posted on 01/12/2009

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In my experience, ( and this is just what I have seen) A lot of times when a group about feeding choices opens up; people who formula feed,  feed solids earlier than the academy of pediatrics suggests, or does anything alternatively; they often get bullied and critisized.  So lots of mommies won't publicly admit or join a group admitting to doing those things in fear of opening up a can of worms.  No matter how innocent it is, as soon as someone sees bottle feeding, it often leads to debates. 

Samantha - posted on 09/19/2011

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Formula feeding mothers do not need the support like breastfeeding mothers do. When you formula feed, there are no sore and cracked nipples, fear of under-feeding, and thoughts of embarrasment. That's why there are so many more people in the breastfeeding group. These moms need help and advice about what they are going through. That's what a support group is. Now if formula feeding were more difficult, there may be more need for a support group, but like I said. There are not as many difficulties with formula feeding.

Lorry - posted on 05/05/2009

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I've noticed that even within groups for bottle feeders, we feel the need to justify ourselves. It's so much worse in other groups! People have been duped into thinking formula is evil, and if we are formula feeding either we don't love our babies or we didn't try hard enough. News flash: it's not the landslide victory for breastfeeding that everyone says it is! It's actually a pretty close race, and there's nothing to be ashamed of about formula feeding, even if your reasons are "selfish." A happy mama is best for baby too. After being a miserable exclusive breastfeeder for five months, I'm now a "militant" who-cares-ist! lol I actually do both now, breast and bottle. That works for me, and that's all anyone should be asking for: doing what works for you!

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Leah - posted on 01/18/2012

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My (now 2 year old) boy was formula fed from about 1 week as he didn't seem to be getting enough when i tried to bf him. He's turned out fine

Maree - posted on 01/17/2012

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Most of these posts have nothing to do with the original posters question. Most are giving reasons why they bottle feed and talking about all the negative comments they receive,people judging them,why people shouldn't judge them,how much milk they could or couldn't pump..Why is this? and why do people who bottle feed seem hell bent on talking about all of this on a post that does not ask this question?

Jessica - posted on 01/17/2012

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Even my doctor gives me a "look" when I tell her I am bottle feeding, so I am a bit apprehensive discussing the subject. Most people make me feel like a bad mother for doing so, I always feel like I have to make excuses.

Isobel - posted on 01/14/2012

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There's a lot to talk about with breastfeeding...it's kinda a tricky business. But once you talk about how self righteous and judgmental some people are...you kinda have nothing left to talk about anymore ;P

Krista - posted on 01/12/2012

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I assume its because breast feeding is diffucult - hard to start, causes pain, need to live a certain life style (healty foods etc). Bottle feeding is as easy as it gets. Mix water and formula and put the bottle in the mouth. I bottle fed so I cant say I KNOW how hard it is to breast feed but I see and hear horror stories.

Lyssa - posted on 01/12/2012

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no one should criticize any mother who either chooses to bottle feed for their own personal reasons, or because breastfeeding just didn't work. as long as your baby is healthy is doesn't matter. i guess the breastfeeding mothers feel they need more support, although i'm not sure why. breastfeeding is not the easiest thing for some mothers, but it's truly not that difficult if you do it correctly. as a nurse, i don't see anything wrong with bottle feeding from the start.

Brittney - posted on 01/11/2012

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Most people may just say they like it and support it but when it comes down to it, they'd prefer to formula feed.

**Jackie** - posted on 01/11/2012

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I formula fed for a year and my 13 month old is perfect and healthy and has never had a cold! I say do what is best for your munchkin!

Maree - posted on 01/10/2012

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I guess there are more breast feeding members because so many people in the "real world" are formula feeding so if breast feeders want support they are sure as hell not going to get it from the rest of the population.

There are places to get support but as far as "support groups" or people to talk to that will understand them....well they are pretty much non existant so i guess people are getting desperate and resort to getting info and support from people online...

Vicki - posted on 01/15/2010

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I have 6 kids my first 4 were breastfed then along came a set of twins! My daughter took to the breast right awy turns out she has a dairy allergy - so switched to soy formula. My son refused the breast from day one and I am proud that they are healthy, growing kids because of the milk I chose to give them - FORMULA- thankful it is available and I must say I have as good of a bond with them as I have with my breastfed babies!

Michelle - posted on 01/12/2010

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I formula feed, and my baby girl is happy and healthy! That's what really matters!

Deanna - posted on 11/12/2009

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I am so happy to read comments like this! I felt so horrible for not being able to continue breastfeeding my baby. I tried for three weeks, including pumping. My baby would either fall alseep (despite trying to wake him for several minutes) or he would just scream for 20 minutes because he couldn't get enough. I couldn't produce enough and had to give my baby formula. If I am "selfish" for wanting my baby to have any nourishment I can provide him, then so be it. I would rather give my baby formula than be selfish than starve him. Thanks for the support!

Colleen - posted on 10/27/2009

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Quoting Lorry:

I've noticed that even within groups for bottle feeders, we feel the need to justify ourselves. It's so much worse in other groups! People have been duped into thinking formula is evil, and if we are formula feeding either we don't love our babies or we didn't try hard enough. News flash: it's not the landslide victory for breastfeeding that everyone says it is! It's actually a pretty close race, and there's nothing to be ashamed of about formula feeding, even if your reasons are "selfish." A happy mama is best for baby too. After being a miserable exclusive breastfeeder for five months, I'm now a "militant" who-cares-ist! lol I actually do both now, breast and bottle. That works for me, and that's all anyone should be asking for: doing what works for you!



Thank you Lorry! It was great to read this! I have a healthy and happy 5 month old who I chose to bottle feed form the beginning, and  all I ever get asked is why. You're right - we dont need to justify ourselves!

Megan - posted on 04/21/2009

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Awe ladies you have no idea how happy I am to finally have found a group for formula moms!!! I am constantly being bullied about breastfeeding and it will be so nice having some ladies I can talk to (even if there is so few). Breastmilk does not equal being a better mother and I refuse to let others keep making me feel like a failure for not joining their ranks.Thanks for making this group!!!

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I caught a lot of grief for formula feeding both of my children.  I tried nursing both of them (or pumping, then feeding) for about 2 months and was only producing 8 oz. a day, and it just didn't seem worth it to pump for 45 minutes for 2 oz. (or less) each time.  I was told by a few people, "Keep trying.  Nursing is hard."  I completely understand that nursing is hard, but it's not like I was giving up, I was just trying to keep my kids fed!  I've had complete strangers ask me if I nursed, which really catches me off guard.  I totally don't mind if friends or even acquaintances ask me that.  But people who stop me in the grocery store and say ,"Oh, your baby is so cute!  Are you breastfeeding?" just really creeps me out!  Does it make babies more attractive?  No!  Does it make babies healthier to breastfeed?  According to all the studies, yes, but both of my children are amazingly healthy.  I've actually been ostracized by some people in a Mom's group and told that I was doing my children a disservice by not breast feeding.  It makes me really sad that people can be so judgmental when we are just trying to raise our children to be the best people they can be!  

Kathy - posted on 01/18/2009

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Wonder post Katherine,



 



I am originally from Quebec, moved to Ontario in 2001. You are a wonderful mommy, and you will meet the mature moms who don't judge. Some woman are so sick.

Katherine - posted on 01/18/2009

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I agree with Rebecca! People are so fast to judge mothers who bottlefeed calling them bad mothers! We are just afraid to make ourselves known. I was reading a few posts from another group, Militant Breastfeeders, and they say that they are in the minority. I understand that they are very proud of themselves for their hard work...I would be too! There is so much more support for breastfeeders these days! When I decided to bottle feed my baby in the hospital, I got a cold reaction right away (they wouldn't even bring the bottles...I had to ask for them). Here, they actually post a "constitution" on the wall concerning formula. They are not allowed to offer any support. Women have many reasons not to breastfeed, but not all those reasons are selfish ones. In my experience, I agree that the breast is the best...oh how I wish I could have done it (I probably could have too, I do have breasts), and I did try. As soon as I meet new friends or chat with other moms, they usually ask right away if you breastfeed (trying to size you up)....oops!...I then tell them I use formula and the atmosphere turns cold. Anyway, with 70% of moms breastfeeding here in Quebec, I feel definitely in the minority! I wish I were as good of a mom as they are...jk...I know I am!

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