Margaret - posted on 10/21/2012 ( 20 moms have responded )
I need help. I adopted a 7 year old girl and she is now 10. We fostered her for 1 year and then adopted. she is the typical DCYF child with multiple disorders and multiple placements. I have 3 older boys 18,16,13. We thought we have so much love to give that we could change someones life. We thought we would always have room to love anyone. .... My family, my marriage, my health my job and my life are all suffering. I am at a loss. Our lives have become about surviving the day without crying or fighting. EVery day is a struggle and I cant believe such a wonderful thing has turned into such a horrible thing. My husband and I are educated, middle class people with 3 loving sons that are now forced to live in a home where everyone is fighting, crying and upset. I go to counseling, I take her to counseling, I spend my whole life taking her to specialists, activities, tutors, changing and filling prescriptions... etc....and I get in return aggrevation, mental and verbal abuse.. I feel sick about failing her and my family....I feel like the worst person for not being able to do this. But I swear on everything I have that I have given this my all. WHat do I do???