CPS plays God to much

Diane - posted on 05/17/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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We were called and said that this adoption was a sure thing, They said that the mother didn't want the baby and she was going to sigh her rights away the next day, But she decided that she wanted 30 days to make her decision. Which we had, had the baby for 2 weeks by then but we had to wait 3 more weeks until the 30 days were up. (which I didn't blame her I know how it feels to have a baby). The 30th day she said she wanted her baby back so we brought him to cps and when she held him she decided that she wanted us to have him. ( I was prepared to give him back). I was getting on a airplane that night and ONE of the supervisors of cps said that if the mother wanted him she was to take him that day and if the baby got on the plane with me he was going to be mine. Well the baby got on the plan and all the paper work came back and said that the baby was free for adoption, untill few days later and the mother and grand mother came to cps and said that if they don't get the baby back they were going to press charges so cps gave the baby back to the mother the day I got off the plane 7 days later because they say that "it was in the best interest of the baby" And the people involved with the decision to give him back didnot tell the supervisor who told me that he would be mine if he got on the plane. Just want to warn people that cps likes to play God and they just do what is best for cps and not the kids. And there isn't anything any one can do. I wish there was checks and balances in that branch of gov but there isn't. Don't ever think that it is done until you get that judge sighed paper saying that they are yours

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(zilla) Eddie - posted on 07/12/2010

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amen, and amen! cps put my husband and myself and our three daughters thru FIVE years of hell. our marriage did not survive. i tried to hold the family together anyway for the sake of the kids. that was the biggest mistake i made. i had no guide book on how to proceed, i did the best i knew how. but all did not end well. i'm afraid we all need family conseling but my daughters are adults now and not receptive to the idea. instead of putting the bad behind them and building on the rest they cling to bad feelings and need someone to blame...guess who is the bad guy? i pray regularly that things will work out and we can get back the closness that we once had. our broken family has so much potential. we really need professional help with no invested interests to help us. i pray that they will someday agree to family counseling. we, as a family have so much to gain, and i now have two young grandchildren to consider. they need their family to be whole and healthy. its not fair to them that the adults are so broken. our future, their future and their children's future depend on this. our small family will continue to grow and we need each other. my daughters need to see this. please if you read this...please pray for GOD'S hand in this. i know he values family. please pray for divine intervention. zz

Jolayne - posted on 05/19/2010

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I am so very sorry you had to go through something like this.
Since being in the foster care system for nearly 7 years it took us over 5 years to discover that the system is set up for the bio parents.
It's the worst feeling in the world when people in the cps make promises to potential parents then say "oops sorry my bad" when things get torn apart.

I hope things turn out for you stay strong

Micaela - posted on 05/17/2010

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So sorry to hear you had this experience. CPS is very difficult to deal with at times and they really don't seem to have any clear and specific guidelines that they're working with. You are definitely right, never believe anything until the judge has signed the finalization paperwork. I hope you'll get your baby soon.