Kerry - posted on 11/11/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )
My husband and I are foster parents to our almost 5 year old neice who was not taken care of my her grandfather. She has been with us since early July, and oh my god the lying she does. For example she will be jumping on her bed, and you will see her, and she see's you, and when you ask her if she was doing it she fires back no. So far she has lied about something every day and it's extremely stressful. We have tried explaining to her how much lying hurts and how easy it is to tell the truth. We have even asked her about right and wrong. We've asked her how it makes her feel when she lies to people and she says it makes her sad.
Now she does have ptsd and reactive attachment disorder, so I am not sure if what I am doing isn't the right way to approach it for these types of issues. The lying wouldn't be a problem except my 7 year old gets annoyed with her always blaming stuff on him.
She was babied a lot and now she is not the baby since we have a 1 year old and she seems to take a lot of anger out on her by actually trying to hurt her. Not sure how to handle this in the way that gets to her so this can stop. She has no guilt for the things she is doing, and when we try to explain it she smiles and acts as if there is no problem.
We don't yell at her, and we normally send her to the time out chair or take away a toy. Don't know if there is something better.