should i be worried about RAD

Cara - posted on 10/08/2010

that is an awesome book! We got to meet him at an foster/adoption conf and learned a lot. Another great author on RAD is Nancy Thomas.

Aubrey - posted on 10/07/2010

Parenting the Hurt Child - Gregory Peck-is a good resource for RAD. I reccommend you reading this; wish I had prior to placement. It would have prepared me a little better for the attachment issues that can be re-patterned in a child's life, and where & when we needed to get help. Our children were 5&6 when we adopted them(siblings). My daughter had RAD in a very classical way; 7 years later she has moments of challenge whether we really love her. But we all handles it and then moves on to the next crisis. Right now that happens to be "boys"...yikes!!! My advice is to the love them they way they can accept it; not how you want it to be. You build trust that way, and that seems to be how the attachment can change for the better.

Cara - posted on 08/31/2010

My children came to us at 2 and 4 both with RAD. After attachment therapy and changing my parenting methods to match the attachment issues for the last two years both are doing well. My oldest still struggles some (but due to things she can rememember that happened in her prior environment), but my youngest is doing so well we don't consider him having RAD anymore.

Your child is too young for the memories. All children that age are insecure in unfamiliar environment or unfamiliar people. I think the fact that this was diagnosed so early and both you and the FP are working to help this child will be paid back to you ten fold. I have no doubt she will become a healthy, happy little girl.

Nessie - posted on 07/30/2010

hi thanks i am positive that she will be on the milder side of things due to her faboulus foster mum taking great care of her for six months and that she is happy to be held, touched giggles when tickled, approached her foster mum for hugs and kisses, so has got some attachment, she gives eye contact, crys went hurt etc but has little ways and signs of attachemnt issues. but we will get there.. currently i am seeing her for 3 hours per day and she lets me feed her and bath her...she is very vocal with babbling and squeling with delight in the bath so good signs but yes am aware of RAD and knokw that i will be alot of work but that it can work out not all chn dont respond alot of them do improve......going to take her to get cranal scaral work to readjust the flow of the brain, do brain gym to help switch things back on and lots of sensory expereinces..like swimming as she loves water and it will make her have to rely on me to hold her inthe water etc

Jessica - posted on 07/30/2010

Yes this is something to be VERY concerned about. I adopted 2 children and before I got them they were a sibling group of 3 - their youngest sister had this and had to be seperated from her siblings because the 3 of them were jus too much for any 1 person to handle. However there is always hope, it will just take a lot of love :)