Should I be their foster parent or just continue playdates?

Dawn - posted on 10/28/2010

I would love to know if Lisa took in the children please update and let us all know what has happened. God Bless

Maureen - posted on 09/24/2010

What a difficult decision! An impossible one, really. I'm assuming you'd be eligible for some kind of subsidy if you take the children in. If you get a subsidy that includes medical, that may be enough to get by (obviously you can't work). The logistics of housing ten children will be a huge hurdle. You are just ONE person. But you love these children, and after the trauma your own kids went through at the hands of your husband, there is comfort for them in having everyone together. I say go for it. If you don't I imagine you'll be asking yourself "what if." If it is way too overwhelming for you, you can take the next step to have them moved. I know it stinks to think of uprooting them, but try your hardest and walk down that road when/if you get to it.

Natasha - posted on 09/23/2010

You do God's work Lisa....I have a family member that has 10 kids I have her last four which me and my husband are in the process of adopting, also we are taking the MAPP classes to foster to adopt a baby at this time and we still haven't had kids of our own I have fertility issues. This isn't a question I would have to second guess on because I am a mother know I don't know how it feels to have a child I have never went through birth never been pregnant my husband doesn't have any kids outside our marriage....so I support you in making the decision to get them all the state will help you even with you fostering and adoption the aide doesn't stop until they turn 18.....i know you want this life you never had but maybe this is God plan for you right know and the reward comes in the end....Be Blessed.

Lisa - posted on 09/20/2010

thank you.

Bonnie - posted on 09/20/2010

You are the only one who knows what you can and can't handle. It seems like a lot to handle. I also am a foster mom and I understand that it is hard especially since these kids have lived with you and you are mom to them. Unfortuantely, due to circumstances beyond your control this situation has come about. Being that you have 3 on the way and that would make a total of 10, if I am following the story correctly all under the age of 8 what the question needs to be is can you handle this number of children on a daily basis? You would have to have a vehicle that holds 11 people, also daycare etc., you should be able to get some state aid; however, that will only be enough to barely get by. It is a big decision and I will pray for you. If you are a religious person pray about it your heart and head will lead you in the right direction. God bless you and all the children.