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mother in law hell!!!

Rebecca - posted on 04/02/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

my mother in law keeps tellin me what to do with my kids. when her own kids are far more worst than mine. she keeps telling my partner (her son) to give the baby chocolate, put rusk in his bottles, give him cups of tea and coffee, interferaing, constantly picking him up wen hes settled or wen hes winging or crying, telling me not to let my daughter go to her nans all because 9-20 yrs ago dats what she done!!!! the baby is 5 months old and she is on the verge of becoming an alcoholic so 2 questions really shud i let her near the baby n shud i listern to what she says??????? help me please i dont know what to do any more???

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Whitney - posted on 06/20/2012

You are the mother of your child. You should not feel bad about what you choose to do with your child. As I feel we should all respect our family members even when we dont agree. Sit down with her alone and let her know that you understand that she raised her kids that way but you choose to do things a little different and ask her to respect that. If she is a alcoholic I would not leave your child alone with her, but to cut her off completely i feel is not needed. Unless she is drunk. Hope I helped good luck love :)

Melissa - posted on 04/21/2010

Putting the "family" relationship aside, I think you should go with your instinct. You are the mother of this baby, not your MIL! Things are done alot different now-a-days. Dont let her make you feel like you "should" be doing something. I would be more stern with her and let her know that she can hold then baby when he wakes up (instead of her taking it upon herself to pick him up) Control the situation when and where she is around your baby. If she keeps making suggestions on things to do for your baby, explain to her that you thank her for her suggestion but that you want your doctors advice before deciding on something. That way, you can let her "tell" you what to do but you don't actually do it. Hope this helps! Good Luck to you!