over whelemed

Theresa - posted on 04/20/2010

I completely understand your overwhelmed feeling. I am a single mom of twin toddlers (they will be 2 next month) and a 14 year old. If you need to talk message me, I'm up for a good talk with someone who feels my stress! LOL....Believe me, we definitely have our crazy moments, but you have to learn to make time for yourself, and stick to schedules! Hang in there!!

Sienna - posted on 03/12/2010

You CAN do this Mama. Be kind to yourself. Ask for help whenever you fell comfortable and take as many little breaks as you can.

Michaela - posted on 11/29/2009

I get you! I have 13 month old twin girls and a 25 month old girl. My husband works 2 jobs so i can stay home with them. Some days are so frustrating i could cry. Nap time is my only savior! I agree with the other moms though...it does get easier. Now that my twins can play with their older sister it is less holding and rocking and soothing and crying. The only thing that is a negative is that there is MUCH more fighting. I joke that we host baby UFC fights at my house. The best of luck to u!

Sarah - posted on 07/24/2009

You're preaching to a rather large choir! I have 14 mo old teething twins right now.



I must admit to losing my mind on a regular basis for the ENTIRE first year!



With 3 older step-children to monitor as well, it's hard to have your own time/space.



It will get easier the more the babies learn to interact w/ each other. I have to hide a lot from their view in order to see them in action. They stop what they're doing when they see me, and let me know just how "horrible" things have been while I was away.



The teething thing is the most difficult thing for us right now.



I would like to re-iterate upon what the mothers before me have already said:

"Give it time, it will get better".

Susan - posted on 06/14/2009

I think the advice is right to take it one day at a time. But also - it could be post-partum depression. With the huge hormone swings of having twins and then delivering, your body is out of whack for quite a while. If the feeling doesn't pass, just call your OB/GYN's office. Nothing new or surprising to them.
All the best to you!

Marie - posted on 05/14/2009

wow they look really close together...whats the age difference? I have three boys. My twins are going on 4 yrs old my oldest is going on 5 yrs old. I know what you mean about being over whelmed. My boys keep my hopping all day. None of them takes naps anymore so its a full day in our home. If you ever need to talk your welcome to share....your not alone :)

Megan - posted on 05/11/2009

I totaly understand. I have 4 month old twin girls and I get overwhelmed at times myself. I just try to remind myself of all the extra sleep I got in my early twenties and my teen years to make up for the sleep I don't get now that the girls are here. It is nice to know that there are other that know what its like.

Angela - posted on 05/06/2009

Quoting Brandy:

hey I have twin 5moth\\nth old girls and I feel overwhelmed too! I have no help at all .

Hi Brandy! I was a single mom of twins and a 8yr old with NO help at all either!! It is really hard when you have no help...mentally & physically! I couldn't work...what I made went to sitters and after working all day....I still had to make 20 bottles and get my older daughter ready for school the next day. Not to mention...lack of sleep!! Just keep in mind...this too shall pass! It does get easier! Put your faith to work...pray...and watch the miracles happen!! Zoloft helps too...lol!! If you need to talk...I'm here! ~Angela :)

Angela - posted on 05/06/2009

Quoting Brandy:

hey I have twin 5moth\\nth old girls and I feel overwhelmed too! I have no help at all .

Hi Brandy! I was a single mom of twins and a 8yr old with NO help at all either!! It is really hard when you have no help...mentally & physically! I couldn't work...what I made went to sitters and after working all day....I still had to make 20 bottles and get my older daughter ready for school the next day. Not to mention...lack of sleep!! Just keep in mind...this too shall pass! It does get easier! Put your faith to work...pray...and watch the miracles happen!! Zoloft helps too...lol!! If you need to talk...I'm here! ~Angela :)

Brandy - posted on 05/03/2009

hey I have twin 5moth\\nth old girls and I feel overwhelmed too! I have no help at all .

Angela - posted on 04/29/2009

Hi Tiffany! I sooooo know how you feel! When my twins were small, I was a single mother. I think I stayed in my pj's for 2 years straight...lol. My twins are 9 years old now and I can reassure you...things do get easier!! The only thing you can do is to take one day at a time. Take lots of pictures now...cause it don't last...and you'll be wondering where time went. Definitely take time out for yourself!! You have to do this! It's very important for your sanity and mental health. Best Wishes!! I'm here if you need to talk!....Angela

Suzanne - posted on 04/16/2009

hang in there.  it does help so much to talk to others who know exactly how hard it can be.  try searching and then joining your local twins club from the nomotc.org site.  no one else can truely understand but these ladies.  good luck and prayers to you.

Nicole - posted on 04/01/2009

This too shall pass......... and one day you will look back laugh and wonder how you did it.  My twins will be six in 2 weeks.  I babysat my nephew the other day who is 20 months and he wore me out!!  I still can't figure out how I did it with 2 that age and a brother who was only 2 years older.  It gets easier, hang in there.

Shelly - posted on 03/29/2009

I have a 2 year old and 10 week old twin boys! My husband travels...he is actually leaving in the morning for 2 weeks. I totally understand how over-whelemed and frustrating it can be.

Chris - posted on 03/26/2009

I understand that feeling of being overwhelmed. My twin girls are now 9 yrs. old and I also have a daughter that's 12 yrs. old and one that's 8 yrs. old. All girls!!! I remember those early days when I had four 4yrs.old and younger. I've always said that the days are long, but the years are short. I have many stories of things my twins did and at the time I would be in tears, but now I can look back and laugh. To me one of the most important things to try to do is make sure you have time for yourself. If you don't take time for yourself than it will be hard to keep giving out to them. Hang in there and just take one day at a time!

Jodi - posted on 03/26/2009

It definitely helps to talk to other moms of multiples because we understand! My boys are almost 14 months and it is just now getting a little easier. I think the key is to always try to keep them on the same schedule.

Alyssa - posted on 03/22/2009

I think the part that makes it hard is the lack of sleep in the begining. Although I have my sons on a schedule from day one and they were ALWAYS great sleepers. It was still hard for me to sleep. Thinking about all the "what if's" really made it hard for me to sleep. Now that they are 1yr & 3mths I find it a lot easyer. My boys now sleep from 9pm to 9am and tak a nap from 3pm to 6pm.... Rest time for mommy! With that said, The key to twins is a schedule for nap and feeding. Good Luck!

Trisha - posted on 03/16/2009

have you just found out ? or how old are your twins?