Transition from being care-giver to needing care!

Rosemary - posted on 07/29/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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This is not a time for sissies! Here I am, 59+, and I am beginning to need my children's assistance! I have always been the one helping. So, another phase of life begins... I would be interested in comments on this.

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Vicki - posted on 04/05/2010

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If your children are willing to help you, realize how great a job that you did in raising them to be so kind. Accept their help.
I know how hard it can be to adjust to this, though. I became blind and mobility impaired while my kids were in grade school. They learned to be more self-sufficient and caring than usual. My older daughter has 4 kids of her own and asked me to come and take care of the 3 older ones while she had the last one. So, remember that they still need you.

Vanessa - posted on 01/10/2010

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Rosemary,

Within the last year I have been the adult child needed by their parent. My advice to you would be to sit down and talk with them about exactly what you need. I know I have had many conversations with my husband about how I should help so that it is helpful and does not feel intrusive to my parent. They readily admit that they need some assistance right now, but as the adult child it is a slipper slope as to how to offer help while still giving the parent their indepence and privacy when and how they want it. Communication is the key in this situation.

Good Luck,
Vanessa

Prophetess Denise - posted on 08/20/2009

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Hi Rosemary - Sorry it took me so long to comment. But let me say...receive their love and assistance with joy and gratitude. You not only deserve it, but you've earned it!

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