It can be very Flustraiting..

Mary - posted on 09/27/2010 ( 1 mom has responded )

ok 3mos.ago daughter n sil decided to call it quits after 3yrs.having trouble off n on.they've cheated on each other,neither one really knows how to manage money,clean house or how to pay attention and raise kids.the daughter graduated in"03"went off to school in nc six mos.later was pregnant.she's never really boned with little man(robert 5yrs.)and I've been there right from the start.i've always taken care of him with couple exceptions where I went to work and we had bad expriences(twice)she just doesn't seem to have that mother's six sence so to speak.
in and out of relationships always putting little man last.couple yrs.ago she met sil and I really thought they had something.little man started calling him dad after 2wks.I questioned it but they kept saying it would b alright.couple months later they came to me telling me she was pregnant with abigale(not married).In anycase they were both fresh out of relationship and 6mos.or so after meeting they were married.
the last year has been the worst and came to a head in june.at first he left then came back n made her move out.her n kids moved in here and 2nights later she was in florida with a guy she's met in school but hadn't seen in 5yrs.she left kids here in my care and sil came whining bout what she was doing.things exscalated and we told him we'd help cause we thought him the better parent boy were we wrong.she was supposed to b back that sunday ended up missing work.monday when she returned from work her n I got into bad and she hit me several times.well she spent the night in jail,we told sil what to do but he had better things to do and I went for emergancy custody and got it.by the time all was said and done sil expected me to just hand them over to him and got upset when I didn't and judge ruled they would be with me at least 5yrs.now they have visitations to my discreation and neither are happy.but since these kids have been here the are totally different kids.but their parents still expect me to let them come when ever and that's now how it works.my little man is in school this yr.and has to get up at 6:30 so I try having him in bed by 8-8:30 latest.I've changed visitation with sil to go with our schedule.he bucks with me,he's not little mans bio.I let them visit cause that's the only dad he knows and I don't want to just tear them apart.just gets flustraiting cause they think of no one but theirselfs..sorry so long I've held in long enough.....