Advice on giving my grandson back.

Kelly - posted on 05/04/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I am 36 years old and have had my 14 month old grandson living with us for the past 3 months. His mum, my 18 year old daughter, moved to WA 2 months ago with her 16 year old boyfriend and is now apparently 3 months pregnant. She says she will be back in early July and wants to have her son back full time when she gets settled. Child Protection was involved until I took my grandson so the case has been closed. I am worried for my grandson as this is the first real stable home he has lived in, since he has lived in about 5 different homes in his short little life, and he is now starting to gain weight. Can anyone please give me some good advice. We cant afford to go for legal custody, sadly.

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Larry - posted on 01/13/2013

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go to department of chidlren and family they are the best i am raising my grandson who is five now i have full custody he has been with me three years now wouldn't change a thing the only thing i find hard is not having a woman involved in his life full time i am 62 male it is not easy but the rewards of his love is all i need so be patiant and give him lots of love if you like my email is aleiii@msn.com i wish you the best larry

Cynthia - posted on 02/23/2012

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You have the right mind-set and appear to know what is good for the child. Stick with it and fight with all your might! Do whatever it takes to try to keep this child in your stable home. Stability is so important for a child to be emotionally healthy. Fight for full guardianship. Your daughter obviously does not have the maturity or responsibility level. Getting pregnant again proves that. Going thru the court for legal guardianship is not costly and can be done without a lawyer. My experience is to have a licensed specialist (counselor or mental health worker) involved with the child on a regular basis. The courts take their recommendations very seriously and it will help with any issues going forward with the child's mental/emotional state. Good luck to you!

Amaryllis - posted on 05/14/2011

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You really should try to find an agency that advocates for childrens rights. I am a grandparent who has raised my 2 grandchildren who are 8 and l0 years old since they were born. I know a little on the subject, because of my own experiences - a good place to start is with someone who knows and works with childrens rights and see if you schedule an appointment. Good luck Amaryllis

Barbara - posted on 07/18/2010

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wow...I am 36 and we have our 2 year old grandson with us. Mom decided she had a problem with drugs and asked us to take him until she gets into treatment, we love him and her, and want to help, but also want to know she can manage him when she gets out. He doesnt talk yet, and uses sign language to speak, she has never taken the time to learn much of it and she has a very short fuse,and not much patience...I love her but I am worried she wont be able to handle him when she is done....

Victoria - posted on 05/22/2010

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Get Child Protection back involved either now or when she gets back. When she returns tell her for her son's on good that you think she needs to find a home,get settled and at least one of them have a decent job. Don't threaten just sound helpful. Keep putting her off until you see how they are doing with one child and bills to pay.Keep putting her off until she refuses to listen then threaten her with OCS.If you have to get them involved it won't cost you a penny. You just have to be able to prove to OCS that the child is better off with you and they will do the fighting for you. Go to every class and keep every appt. they send you too. Oh yes, start keeping a diary right now of every thing you spend on him(receipts) also, any money,cloths,and times and dates and how long she talks to him. Hope this helps.From , Been There x's 3 granddaughters. P.S If OCS says it will be better if they take custody,not physically, thats o.k. They don't have any place to put him so will want you to keep him.He will be eligible for medicaid (different from regular medicaid, much better). If you and your husband start Foster training now and pass, they will pay you to keep him until everything is settled.Hope all this helps.

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