Connie - posted on 08/21/2010 ( 16 moms have responded )
I live in Arizona and would like to get custody of my youngest grandchild...she is 15 months old. The mother has two other children(boys -9 & 6 yrs) and is in the process of moving in with her brother(who does drugs & drinks heavily at times),his girlfriend,their two children,her mother(who has been in and out of jail & also abuses prescription drugs) & her sister(who had all 4 of her children taken away from her by CPS for drug use). The mother does not work and depends on the state check she gets for her children as well as child support for her younger son. My husband & I have the baby every weekend and weeks at a time in the summer. I work for a school district, so whenever I'm off we have her. I worry about that child all the time.
The mother is in the process of trying to get disibility aid through the state for her mental conditions. She has been diagnosed as a manic depressant as well as being bi-polar.
Just last week she sent me a text stating that I couldn't get the baby that coming weekend and she would let me know when I could get her....but it wouldn't be anytime soon...she called me at work the next day and said "hey,do you want to get the baby this weekend or next weekend?" For the past 3 weeks in a row, when I get the baby on friday she has a diaper rash. I get her a healed up and by end of the week when I get her she has it again. I have tried to talked to her about agreeing to give us guardianship so that the baby has a stable & happy childhood. She always says that nobody is getting her baby ....that she is hers.. my 34 yr old daughter tried to reason with her and told her that her child is not a pet....This woman sleeps all the time. She takes meds for her mental condition as well as pain pills. I have gone to her apartment to pick the baby up and found her fast asleep, her 9 yr old asleep & the 6 yr old playing video games , while the baby was playing in the room @ 4 in the afternoon... The baby was soaking wet , her feet were dirty and she had on dirty clothes.She has no beds for her kids they all sleep on the floor. The baby sleeps with her on a futon mat on the floor. She had beds but flipped out one day and threw them out because she said they had bedbugs.....I would like to get CPS involved now that she will not have her own apartment. BUT I have been told they really don't help and in the state of Arizona it is hard to prove a mother unfit...