What do your grandchildren call you?

Mary - posted on 02/26/2010 ( 23 moms have responded )

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My husband and I have always called ourselves Mamaw & Papaw to our grandson. He's 2 yrs old now and has recently began calling me Mom. I think he should be able to call us whatever he wants (within reason! lol) and whatever he's comfortable with. No matter what he calls me, I'll always answer!

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Faith - posted on 01/31/2011

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Weve had our granddaughter who is now 6 since she was 11 mos. She calls me mama and my husband papa. Drives our daughter crazy to. She calls her mother "mommy". She knows were her grandparents but to her we're still her mama and papa. I think it's just natural for children to call which female they'e closest to mama and that's ok because it's the child that has to be comfortable and happy, not the biologoical parent who should have been responsible enough to take care of the child to start with.

Tandy - posted on 08/29/2013

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I guess I am missing something here, Are you raising this baby? I earned that right to be called mom when his parents abandoned him 1 and 2 kids have to have someone to call mom 3 a mom isn't someone who pushes a baby out... it is someone who is there day in and day out selflessly caring for the children and loving them. I will someday likely adopt these babies and I will be their mom but for now I fill that roll. I am going to allow my grandchild to have a "mom" regardless of the poor choices their parents made.

Happybutnotsolucky - posted on 07/13/2013

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For those who think its perfectly fine. Imagine if your grand kids only call your children's in laws that but call u grandpa n grandma.

I m very sure u will not think its endearing anymore. Wake up

Happybutnotsolucky - posted on 07/13/2013

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Some of you guys(with the exception os those whose children dump their kids to to u)are just plain selfish.

Yes ... U get a thrill when your grand kids call you mom or mama. Perhaps it makes u feel like a new mom or feel young again. But have you ever considered the toys of the real mom? She carried the child to full term n u deny her of a status by claiming it to be yours n even have the audacity to acknowledge instead of correcting a young child.

You already had your fair share of being called mom/ mama with your own kids. Give others a chance.

On your part, have some manners n learn to be a gracious grandma or grandpa. If you hate being called that. Your grandchild should address you by your first name. So that you can feel even younger

Respect. Earn it. Do not demand for it

Rita - posted on 04/14/2014

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I'm pretty sure everyone is talking about grandchildren they are raising as their own, the other 13 grand children call us Grammy and Grand dad, but the one we have has started to call us mom and dad and has no other mom, dad, or grandparents. It also helps the other grandchildren understand why we have a different relationship with this one

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Maria - posted 2 days ago

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Spread my word PLEASE
Please help me I'm looking for people to help me I'm tired of being in these dark walls I need to find out how an no one isn't listings to me please help me cps is destroying my life an my family just cause of these parents don't want to grow up an take care of the kids I had them for six years an they were babies an cps took them from me an place them with the mom an boyfriend and then they were getting abuse an I made serval report and call cops but no one isn't doing nothen. So I'm trying to do it on my own an cps is covering them self with the same blanket an trying to cover up for my daughter an her boyfriend and the father and the girlfriend an they all abused my grandbabies I have proof please spread the word I need yalls help i stand in front of my flag but they said it's just a saying well not to me so please someone help me
I am writing u this letter from the bottom of my heart an while I'm writing you this letter my tears are falling an getting a knot on my throat I'm saying the truth I would never hurt my grandbabies or not even Mr Victor Dominguez we love them so much I hope you all would give us a chance with our grandbabies the parents will never change they never had my grandbabies we had them science they were babies an they both were in there own little world doing drugs an doing other stuff when Naomi an Edward had problems we were still dealing with our grandbabies twin boys they were gone an it was so hard for us all Naomi an Edward lived with us for years an then when they had problems an they got separated it was hard Edward never left my home in bandera county he was sleeping with my niece's an Naomi was in san Antonio I didn't know there were seperate but Naomi was doing drugs with my niece's an at that time it has happen before but now sister an my niece's were all in drugs I got a call from Mr Morales jose an he told me what was going on an all along I thought it was a joke but it wasn't I told cps the story how we had cps case an it was false allegations an we told them the story an cps said how come we didn't fight it an to be honest Jenifer we didn't know we could fight it if we knew we could we would be doing it but no one ever told us an we never got letters an if we did the one that could steal them letters was my sister an her daughters an Naomi an Delilah an like we tell ev1 our story we don't hide from the truth but Jennifer please give us a chance with our grandbabies they are happy her with us my daughter an Edward does not deserve them at all they will never change they love what they are doing in there time an I am begging u all please understand we have rights to them cause there mom an dad didn't care or didn't bother to see them an now they want to act like they were good parents look at everything please I have proof of everything even when they called cps on us if u can sit with us an let us explain our story u will understand more but we love our grandbabies if we didn't we wouldn't be going thru this but it shows u that were gonna do our power to fight for them I can't give up I pinky promise them an I know They are going to court cause Emily told me an I want to go an be there so I can tell the judge my side of story an tell him why we deserve our grandbabies but amber let me show u pics of what I have an please don't take me wrong I love Naomi she is my daughter but I need to disown her N Edward they play to much games with me an I cant handle it I needed to protect Bella an Annamay cause Edward was too busy spending his money on drugs just like Naomi ..Naomi an Edward destroyed my home in bandera county an Naomi went a stoled everything from my house they both put my grandbabies in danger please Jennifer investigate it further u will see an cps said when ever I fight for any child I have to explain my story an share some pics an I will do that I can't afford to support someone eles habits drug habbit I can't help them if they can't help them self I try to help them but they all kept doing the wrong choices so I'm gona show u what I have ok some are few months back an if u have questions please let me know but please don't leave my grandbabies in Foster I beg u Jen I can't tell you the whole story cause it's alot to write on here but I'll show u some ok not all of them some of them are recorded an some are videos an it won't let me send them to u on my phone they were happy here in our home I will show u pics of everything please don't break us up don't break that bond an our love they miss us the way we miss them so please I pray everyday an every night I cry cause I'm telling u all the truth I would never muniplate them or say anything bad about them or there parents look at my Facebook I can give u my password an u can loon thru it an u will see I never did nothen wrong to know one all we are doing is standing an fighting for our rights I'm tired of hiding in these black walls u don't know what I'm going thru

Hauteswanfashionboutique - posted on 07/06/2016

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My grandson is shared by both grandparents in a joint custody situation. My son is bipolar and though he thinks he can probably raise the child he can't- he also moved away the opposite coast and we have not seen him in a couple years though he does occassional call and once sent a toy for baby but no child support. The mom was messed up with drugs and alcohol through out the pregnancy and did not tell her parents until she was 8 months pregnant that she was having a baby. After having the baby there is not much of a connection to his mom but she occassionally sees him though she has done nothing much to raise him and has been completely irresponsible with the child in her custody i.e. the roommate called me to tell me that both parents left him alone in a playpen while they went to 7-11 to buy smokes. The other grandma and I stepped in swiftly to take over because of the poor care he was getting from the parents. They were leaving him with us anyway and not coming back or doing anything to be responsible. I always tell him I am grandma and my husband is grandpa but he calls me mom and grandma. He calls my husband grandpa or by his first name. I feel as if we provide a good portion of care and all his medical, we provide all his food, diapers, clothing, etc. The parents are never around. I don't feel bad that he calls me mom though he probably does the other thing with other grandma. We both work hard together to be the parents his real parents are not quite being. We hope some day they might snap to and be responsible but so far nothing. Nothing at all. This child deserves good parents and we are going to make sure he gets them. I don't really feel guilty that he is starting to call me mom. He is practically my child and other grandma's child in every way except that I did not birth him. I am so sad that one day he will realize his real parents are not there for him. I wish that day would never come!

T - posted on 05/26/2014

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Yes, only if the mom is stable in their life, if you raise your grandkids from birth and adopted them that a whole different story.

Tina - posted on 12/10/2013

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Thanks Faith, we also believe that. We did try for years to graft them together but my son had a drug problem and we moved 10 hours away.
He is six now and since then my son spent a couple months in prison and we heard is trying to do better. He is thirty yrs old and my grandson is now six and I pray everyday for God to give me wisdom.

Faith - posted on 12/10/2013

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Tina, I know what you are going through. We went through a similar situation. You need to let your grandson accept him on his own time and terms. Just keep giving him and your son the opportunity. You might try doing some recreational things and asking your son to come along also, so he can play with his son on his son's level. I don't know where you live, but if there is a Monkey Joe's or Chuck E. Cheese or something like that nearby, that is always a good option. I know you want what is best for your son and your grandson, whom you love as your own. Keep that thought in your mind as you try to help them build a strong and mutually benefiting relationship with each other. Most of all, trust in God, and prayer will be your greatest help and bring you the greatest peace of mind.

Tina - posted on 12/09/2013

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I've been raising my grandson since he was a baby and is now six. We have adopted him a couple years ago. He has always called me Mommy. My son just got out of prison and was calling him every now and then and my grandson knows it's his biological father but refuses to call him Dad. My son has never done one thing for him. He won't have a relationship with any of us because he hates him calling us Mom and Dad,not sure if he's making excuses?
It's weird cause I'm not sure how to graft my son back into his life. I've never lied to my grandson but he has always considered us his parents. It's sad.

Crystal Ann - posted on 01/21/2013

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If that is what he wants let him make that choice. There is nothing wrong with it. May 3 & 4 year old son and daughter were our grandkiddies and they have called us mom and dad since day one they got hear and its ok.

Zontia - posted on 01/21/2013

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Myself: granie (Bogan), gammy (American TV) , oma (Germanic) , odu (kadazan) or nenek (Malay) bibi (Indian)

My aunt calls herself emba (Indonesian)

My children calls our lovely Italian neighbour nona & nono.
They call my mum nana & my dad grandpa.

My hubby - opa (Germanic)

My kids to call their baby boomer cousins (my parents siblings & their better half) , grand uncle gradcule & grand unt gruntie. All my generation of people/family- chosen etc. aunty & uncle. Strangers up to the individual. They call godparents godmai (Vietnamese twist I coined for my tots), kaima & kaideh (Cantonese) In our Vietnamese family ba for the non teen ladies.

For grandfathers: atuk (Malay), baba (India) dado (Bolcans) , nunno (Italian) & grampi (American TV) sounds kool

I feel it is simply disrespectful for young kids to call regardless of origin- step etc. old folks, grandparents or parents by their first name. So many different languages words for grandparents to pick from to get one that suits the recipient. In China they get very specific on this matter. You'd know where you sit in the family tree & society.

Crystal Ann - posted on 12/31/2012

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Let them call you what they disside to. Our lettle ones where very young and they just started to call us mom and papa.

Susan - posted on 12/10/2011

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Our 4 yr. old grandson/son called my husband Daddy, from the beginning. However, he called me BABY. Don't know why, maybe cause I always called him baby. Now lhe calls me mommy. When the other 6 grands are around he occassionally slips and calls us grammy or pop pop. Any and all are great with me, and they are all true!!!.

Lynn - posted on 09/17/2011

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I have my grandson back for the second time. He is 18 mo old now. My daughter got pulled over and charged with a DUI. She's had three before when she was younger. I don't know what is going to happen with the courts but it doesn't look good. Anyone been through this?

Barbara - posted on 07/18/2010

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I have a 2 year old grandson, he has been with us off an don most of his life, and full time since October 2009. We call ourselves mommom and poppop but he doesnt speak yet, so mah and pah is what he can say..so i cant honestly say yet..he calls his mother, mah too..lol. it all translates as loved in my book

Gayle - posted on 07/12/2010

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We have our nearly 2yr old grandson living with us, his dad was with us too but just recently moved out. His mum hasnt had any contact since he was 9mths old. He calls me mum i use to say no its nanny.. but my husband said let him call u whatever he wants, so now its mum and i love to hear it and would not have it any other way.

Cheryl - posted on 06/08/2010

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We have two we are raising..the oldest called us mom and dad from the day he was placed with us .... he knew he would be adopted and had already been in foster care for 16 mo before we got him.. the 4 year old calls us mom and dad following suit with the older one...drives his "birth mom" crazy as well as that one is permanent custody instead of adopted ...and that I am the "step" to start with..he also calls her mom or mommy or mommy 2... we have less of a problem sorting that one out then what is relationship to the older children and to the other grandchildren...the older ones became siblings....sisters and brothers (instead of aunts and uncles) but the other grandchildren are they nieces and nephews or cousins..not to mention we are not only his and hers, and ours by adoption..I also had 2 former chilren of choice before I meet my husband who we are mom and dad to.. and grand children we are poppz and grandma or ana to... and that is the diffence to me..grandparnets send them home after the visit... my little boys well I am the one that is there 24/7, take them to the doctors, do there medications, give them there baths, meet with the teachers, do the homework etc.. thats a mom and that is what they choose to call me..and like someone else said, we discussed it with the counselor as well

Kay - posted on 03/16/2010

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I have 8 grandchildren my oldest started with mamaw and papa they all have followed sometimes they call me mom but its just a mistake.

Janet - posted on 02/28/2010

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I call myself Grammy and my husband is Poppy, but my grandson calls me Mom by his choice. Drives his birth mom crazy!

Wendy - posted on 02/28/2010

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I have been raising my granddaughter all her life (7 years). When she was a baby I referred to myself as grandma but she got a certain age and started calling me Mama. I was concerned and went to a counselor who told me to let her call me whatever she wants. She still calls me Mama and knows she has a birth mother and also knows I'm her grandmother but says I am her real mother.

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