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Is there any way to really know...

Lisa - posted on 02/23/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I have a 16 month old son and I really believe he was supposed to have a twin. I feel it in my heart but I have no idea how to ever find out the truth...or if I even can. During the beginning of my pregnancy with him my hormone levels were doubled what the normal range was for how far along I was at the time. My doctor actually made the comment about twins when he noticed how high the levels were. Well at about 6 1/2 weeks I started bleeding and thought I was having another miscarriage (I'd had 3 previous losses before). I went to the hospital and they did some bloodwork, did a pelvic exam (where they took a sample from the bleeding), and an ultrasound. The ultrasound showed a perfect little jelly bean with a beating heart. After the ultrasound they sent me home and said since the baby looked okay that I was fine but to come back in a few days to repeat the bloodwork to "be sure". When the blood work was redone the hormone levels had dropped down to what would be "normal" for how far I was. My son was born after a very difficult pregnancy with pre-term labor at 31 weeks and him being born at almost 35 weeks. I still however can't get over this feeling he was supposed to have a twin born with him. I went back a few months ago to get my records from that hospital visit but I suppose since they saw him on the ultrasound they just discontinued doing the rest of the tests with the clots/blood from the pelvic exam because there is no record of it.......Am I completely crazy? Is there any way of knowing the truth? Or should I just listen to everyone else and be glad with my son and forget about it?

Sorry for the long ramble! I just don't have anyone else to talk to about this....Thanks! ♥ Lisa

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Claudia - posted on 01/10/2011

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I know what you are going through. My husband and I have been triing to get pregnant for 5 years with no result I was diagnosed with PCOS and had to take fertility medications to get pregnant. We knew pretty much right away that we were pregnant and was elated the only doctor appointment I had was to confirm pregnancy didn't have a ultrasound or anything. Then at 8 weeks i started bleeding (like a period) and we went to the hospital, they did blood work and urine work, And then they did the ultrasound and seen the heartbeat and seen her on the screen and everything was fine. I was told that it was a threatened miscarriage, and then nothing else was said about it. My husband, I and our family all beleives that I miscarried a baby. I don't think there is anything in my case to find out (but I keep thinking about it all the time also). And then I delivered at 31 weeks gestation and she weight 3 pounds 7 ounces and she was 16 inches long. She spent about 2 months in NICU. But it scares me to even try for a second child.

Danielle - posted on 03/24/2009

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hi Lisa, I had my first scan at wat the dr's thought was 12 weeks pregnant and turned out i was only 9weeks due to the fact i was preggers with twins, but the radiographer and the dr both informed me that until 12 weeks gestation they were to be known as "viable twins' meaning one of them could still dissapear up until 12 weeks. They gave the statistics and it was something like 25-30% of woman could have been carrying twins but because of the "viable twin' thing, but hardly any of them even knew it because most don't have a scan till approx 12 weeks.They also explained that if one was weak or had a problem it's not uncommon for your body to re-absorb the cells and no-one is none the wiser. This is all i can help with explaining wat i got told, hopefully it may shed some light on your worries. tlk soon X Danielle

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