dont take care of myself & living unorganized life...any help

Yasmine - posted on 06/21/2012

Thanks Luoise for your answer,actually my husband come very late from work almost 7 or 8:00 pm which is already the end of the day,I have a baby sitter in the morning to sit with my baby girl(4 month old) & also she helps with some house chores but I still feel very tired all the time,I guess the secret for my problem is being unorganized,I mean everyday I dont kow what we will have for dinner & in the very late night I decied what my toddler will have with him to his nursery,I feel my life need to be organized,like making a weekly plan,like making a fixed time for myself,like sleeping early & waking ealry,like a lot of things which I feel the day start to end,without I brush my hair or change my clothes,I only wear nice to go to work,but I really dont care of my skin by putting some cream ,I even take the shower in a hurry before the baby sitter leave in the late night,I know that most of people will feel that I am lucky to have a baby sitter but belive me,that I am the one who still worried about everything ,she only bottle feed my baby & sometimes doing the laundary & dishes if she has time.Just want from all moms to give me a practical steps to organize my life more so I will have more time for my family & myself,any ideas???

Louise - posted on 06/20/2012

You need to take some control in your life and ask for help. Your husband is going to have to help you organise your daily routine so that you are getting some me time and down time. There is no reason that your husband could not bath the kids or cook the tea or take the kids to the nursery, you cant do every thing! You need to sit down together and talk about sharing the housework and the parenting and tell him straight how you feel. He must realise how tired you are and may be he is waiting for you to ask him to do something to help you.

Tell him what is going on in your head, he will try and help you I am sure. Then ask one of the grand parents to baby sit once every two weeks and make an effort to go out, even if it is just to the pub or a restaurant or the cinema. Just some adult time to remember that you are not just mum and wife but you are you!

It is very common to feel overwhelmed by being a mum a wife and a full time employee. If you can afford to go part time at work you may find things easier, if you cant then your husband is going to have to step up and support you emotionally and physically with the daily chores.