Siobhan - posted on 01/20/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )
I have a nine year old with HFA. He is very big for his age so people may think he is an average 11 or 12 year old boy. When we travel and have to stop at rest stops, I try to find a family bathroom but those are usually locked. So I have to take him into the womens restroom with me. I take him in the stall with me. He is scared of automatic flushing toilets and would wet his pants rather than go without me covering the sensor so it won't flush. He is also scared of certain types of hand dryers. I have had several women comment on him going into the women's restroom. Since I am single, we rarely ever travel with a man who can take him into the mens restroom. If we are in a small local place that isn't crowded, I have him go into the mens restroom himself but there have been times when something has gone wrong. One time they had turbo hand dryers that were extremely loud so he hid in the stall afraid to walk by the hand dryers to get out the door. I had to go in there and get him out after waiting for a while and then sending a stranger in to find out what was going on. Should I be taking him into the bathroom with me? What are my other options? What should I say to negative comments? Suggestions?