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Brenda - posted on 03/08/2011

Hi everyone, I am so glad to find someone who understands. My daughter is 15, and we had to pull her out of school because of depression. I knew she was different since she was small, but I didnt know what it was. It got really hard in junior high, but she could manage it because she was in the advanced class , they traveled to each class together. That made it better for her. When she got in high school, it all fell apart for her, she had mixed ability classes, they were noisy, and didn't display the discipline for acheviement my daughter possessed. She was totally overwhelmed, by yelling, sarcastic teachers, and classes where she had to do group projects. She basically had a nervous breakdown from it all. She felt like a outcast most of the time, because she could nothandle the teenage politics. I am so glad i found out about this information. She is in counseling, hoping to find some relief for her. Thanks for listening. Brenda from Louisiana

Brenda - posted on 03/08/2011

Hi everyone, I am so glad to find someone who understands. My daughter is 15, and we had to pull her out of school because of depression. I knew she was different since she was small, but I didnt know what it was. It got really hard in junior high, but she could manage it because she was in the advanced class , they traveled to each class together. That made it better for her. When she got in high school, it all fell apart for her, she had mixed ability classes, they were noisy, and didn't display the discipline for acheviement my daughter possessed. She was totally overwhelmed, by yelling, sarcastic teachers, and classes where she had to do group projects. She basically had a nervous breakdown from it all. She felt like a outcast most of the time, because she could nothandle the teenage politics. I am so glad i found out about this information. She is in counseling, hoping to find some relief for her. Thanks for listening. Brenda from Louisiana

Brenda - posted on 12/02/2008

Hi Patty and Candy,

in answer to your question Patty we've known since he was 2. we have a great peditrician who noticed it. I just thought he was fussy about certain things. our dr pointed us in the right direction and we learned to parent differently. HSC, in my opinion, is a broadspectrum autism. Many of the "tricks" we use we got from parents with children with autism. They work for the most part, we still have our days though. Since we started meds for the OCD and Anxiety parenting has gotten easier.

As for school, he still gets frustrated but he has started to learn that not everything has to be perfect. He is still an overachiever but at least now, thanks to his teacher, he is learning to accept that as long as he tries his best that is all that we are asking.

Candy - posted on 11/21/2008

Welcome in this group, Brenda!!! I know there's a lot of mum's like us out there, hope they find us here sooner or later ;o) .

My son arrived home really frustrated yesterday: he had a math test and it wasn't good, because he didn't understand the question. I asked him if he asked his teacher to clarify, but he just got upset, instead of asking her. And now he was down because of his "bad points"...he had 49/60. When I told him this wasn't bad at all, and that if he didn't understand I would never be upset with him, he just said: well, it's not enough!
He had several other tests home yesterday and I really told him how well he did them all, like a 100 times ;o) . And after that he felt a bit better.

Patty - posted on 11/21/2008

Hi Brenda! If it's all right to ask, how long have you known that your child was an HSC? My daughter is 10 and I've always known that things affected her much deeper than most, but it has only been in the last month that I've heard of HSC. Just knowing that we aren't alone in this as parents has been very uplifting for me personally.



It's nice to "meet" you!!!



Patty

Brenda - posted on 11/21/2008

WOW thank you!!!! I thought I was the only person in the world with a HSC child. My son is now 8 and wow the battles we go through in a day. Everything from socks to underwear to pants and shirts not "fitting" right (although he wore them before) to food touching and colouring.

The only advice I can give to anyone with a child of this nature is if the child goes through a traumitic experience watch out for OCD. He was recently diagnosised and is on meds to help curb the behaviour (just until we get it back under control).

My husband and I have been dealing with this for 8 years and realize that as bad as it sounds cater to them. for my son it's a matter of only buying certain types of clothing, he eats of sectioned plates and never let him see food if it's been cooked together.

As for school, we have a soundfield system in place in his room. It makes it easier for him to concentrate. My Dr says that most HSC children will have a CAP (central Audiatory Processing) problem and the sound field system seems to work. Like most HSC's he is highly intellegent but gets very frustrated very quickly.

Again thank you for this group. I hope more moms of HSC's find it.

Patty - posted on 11/19/2008

I totally hear you on the patience thing. I've always worried that I was letting her get away with too much or not pushing her hard enough to do things that are beyond her comfort zone but, and this has been going on since before the book, I've found that she's more apt to try things after I "hear" her objections. Having probably been a HSC myself (well...definitely one), it's like pieces of a puzzle fitting together now.



P.S. I definitely have had reasons to *blush* ;)

Candy - posted on 11/19/2008

And we don't have to walk nore feed it ;o)
The book is great, it already helped me a lot to understand my son more. I'm more patient with him now, and when he has one of his tantrums I just let him be for a while and talk to him when he's cooled down again. Instead of getting nervous and starting to yell (*blush*).

Patty - posted on 11/19/2008

Robot dogs are the best! You can turn them off and they're easy to house train!! We have a MioPup (I think that's what it's called) and it can just go in the toybox at bedtime. :)

Patty - posted on 11/19/2008

Hi Candy. She is 10. We live in a pretty rural area so there are no specialists around here. I am actually looking forward to conferencing with my daughter's teachers. I decided to finish the book first. :0-)

Candy - posted on 11/19/2008

Oh, animals are a big NO for my A...he's affraid of every animal....cats, dogs, horses, flies, .....
He now wants a dog for Christmas: a robot dog, because he's not affraid of robots lol!

Candy - posted on 11/19/2008

Nice to meet you too, Patty!
How old is your A?
My A is not as sensitive physically, although sometimes he can be frustrated with his clothes, but not all the time. He's more emotionally sensitive.
We had a meeting with the teachers on Monday and it was a very positive one. A's teacher is just the very best he could have!!! She's doing all she can to make him feel at ease in the class and to motivate him to take part in certain class-activities, without stressing him though.
Today I made an appointment with a therapist, specialised in children generally and HSC's as well. My husband and me will see her next Monday to talk about A, and then we will see if she can help us to better understand A, and help A to react less emotionally when he's overexcited.

Patty - posted on 11/19/2008

Hello. I'm Patty and am also the mother of an HSC. I've always known that she was very sensitive but thought it was due more to a stressful home situation. My mother actuallly bought me the book "The Highly Sensitive Child" by Dr. Elaine N. Aron as well, and I am amazed at how my daughter is described in there.



A is highly physically sensitive. If her socks aren't on just right, or if the tag on her shirt bothers her she gets very frustrated. Tastes, smells, sounds, touch, all very sensitive. She is very emotionally sensitive as well. I worried for quite some time that it was hard for her to relate to people so I got her a cat. It was the best decision ever. She seems to have a "sixth sense" where animals are concerned. Little children love her and she seems to understand them very well.





A's high sensitivity affects her in school and it is something that her teachers and I will soon be discussing. She is having a really hard time with comprehension although she is a smart girl. She says that the classroom is too loud and her teachers have observed her with her hands over her ears during class time.





Thank you, Candy, for starting this group. I've only been aware of HSC as an actual "condition," for lack of a better word for a week but my outlook on my child and how to help her deal with life has completely changed. Nice to meet you!