Candy - posted on 11/14/2008 ( 13 moms have responded )
Hi, I'm Candy, mum of a highly sensitive child. I just discovered this about 2 months ago.
We've always thought A was a bit "different" and had "strange" and strong reactions. There were also problems at school and we had him turned inside out by a team of psychiatrists and psychologists: he was tested for ADHD, autism, Asperger,....but all turned out negative (luckily!). The psychiatrist said that indeed he had reactions that were "different" than what he would expect from children his age (8), and the result of the IQ-test was not surprising to us: he turned out to have an IQ of 130.
But that didn't help us with dealing with some of the "problems" A had: tantrums when things didn't turn out the way he expected/wanted, difficulties in accepting rules that didn't seem "fair" to him (just because "we say so", or "that's the way it's done")...he has strong opinions and strong emotions; and the very strong fears.
In september I was talking to a friend of mine about her daughter (and the problems she's having). I had recently heard about HSC's and thought it might be usefull information for my friend. So I looked up information about HSP's and HSC's....and the more I read, the more I realised that this looked so much like "my" A....so I went to the library for the book "The Highly Sensitive Child" from Dr. Elaine N. Aron. 2 days later I bought the book.
We are now at the stage were we're going to have a meeting with A's teacher, and school psychologist (for the people in Belgium, the person from CLB), in order to find out how we can help our child in avoiding "over-excitement" and tantrums; how we can react when he does get over-excited. It's a learning process for all of us.
I started this group, so that we can help each other out. Maybe you have found the perfect tip for your child? Maybe something I do can help you too?