Tammy - posted on 06/14/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )
Hi! I'd appreciate any input you'd like to offer. I have a child who just finished the 10th grade. She's been doing the Abeka DVD program (the one where you send in their grades and they keep the records for you) for the last two years. My problem is that she is TOTALLY unmotivated. That is really her personality and, sadly, it's also mine. I'm not very organized or pro-active about things and I'm busy trying to school the younger ones so I do not have the energy (nor do I think I should have to) follow her around every day and nag her all day long to do her school work. The problem is that she really doesn't care about school work, hates it and just fails those subjects that do not interest her or seem important to her. I recognize the attitude, I had one just like it at her age, but I always made minimally good grades because I didn't want to be a failure. She seems not to really care if she ever graduates or anything! Nothing I say or do to her seems to help. I've tried rewarding her and she doesn't care. It's not worth it to her. I've taken away her beloved volleyball- she was supposed to be on varsity next year but I told her if she failed any more courses it would be gone. Well, she failed 3 courses that semester. I'm at my wits' end with her. Any suggestions?