Want to homeschool my 1st grader

Amy - posted on 08/29/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Hi, I would like to homeschool my daughter who is in 1st grade. I am dealing with opposition from her father because he feels she needs the social aspect of school and the outside influence of another other than myself. Also, so that I can spend more one one one time with our just about 4 year old son. My daughter and I feel completely different. She wants to be homeschooled and has been asking daily since she started the new year 2 weeks ago.

She is very intelligent and has incredible social skills, as she is very outgoing. So I do not feel she "needs" school for that reason. During the first four days of school she had come home complaining that she did not really care for some of the kids in her class, some kids were picking nose and eating it(eewww,sorry), and another girl made fun of the hair on my daughter's arms and embarassed her, another said that she was prettier than her. Seems to me like the other kids need the "social skills". Also, she is constantly sick with something she picks up there. She comes home extremely irritable everyday. I think that these are good enough reasons to keep her home as I see them squashing her spirit.

I need some advice and support regarding this matter. Thank you!

~Amy

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The socialization thing is a big farce. They couldn't get us on academics because we beat the pants off them so they tried to say our children would not be "socialized". Tell me how many kids at a public school do you want your children to mimic?? Here are some awesome articles for you to read. I have been home educating for many years now and I guarantee that is is the best! :)
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Here is something that I found years ago and I love it :)
“When my wife and I mention we are strongly considering homeschooling our children, we are without fail asked, ‘But what about socialization?’ Fortunately, we found a way our kids can receive the same socialization that government schools provide. On Mondays and Wednesdays, I will personally corner my son in the bathroom, give him a wedgie and take his lunch money. On Tuesdays and Thursdays, my wife will make sure to tease our children for not being in the ‘in’ crowd, taking special care to poke fun at any physical abnormalities. Fridays will be ‘Fad and Peer Pressure Day.’ We will all compete to see who has the coolest toys, the most expensive clothes, and the loudest, fastest, and most dangerous car. Every day, my wife and I will adhere to a routine of cursing and swearing in the hall and mentioning our weekend exploits with alcohol and immorality…. And we have asked them to report us to the authorities in the event we mention faith, religion, or try to bring up morals and values.”

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KAREN LYNN - posted on 08/24/2012

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I really would like to home school my daughter, she's in the first grade. and i really dont like the things going on, to start with the teacher and principal really got on her hard on monday cause she hadnt eat breakfast and the lady in the lunch room told the teacher she had already eat but i walked her to class that morning so i knew for a fact she had''nt and to avoid this all they had to do was call me.... and she is scared now so she wants me to walk her to class and this morning the principal runs me down and would not let me take her, i dont see the big deal if that makes her have a better day then what is the big deal!!!! PLEASE IF ANYONE CAN TELL ME HOW TO GET HER SIGNED UP FPR HOME SCHOOL PLEASE LET ME KNOW... MY EMAIL IS dagnankaren0@gmail.com THANKS SO MUCH!

Tonya - posted on 11/27/2010

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I too am considering homeschooling my child. He's is in the 1st grade and has been attending public school since Pre-K and every year I hear "I'm bored" over and over. This year he is in the gifted class and he is still bored. They are rushed through their work and there are days he brings home unfinished worksheets because they didn't have enough time to finish them in class. Plus, he is not as excited about learning and reading as he once was. I haven't mentioned HS to DH yet, doing as much research as possible first and getting all my ducks in a row ;) Here are two books I've read and thought they were very helpful, so you might want to give them a try. "The Everything Homeschooling Book" by Sherri Linsenbach and "The Homeschooling Option" by Lisa Rivero. Good Luck!

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Our oldest went to public school for 2 years and learned nothing. When they decided to start combining grade levels we pulled her out. That was what my DH's trigger was. We are now in our 4th month of homeschooling and have done half of the school year's school work and that was even letting her skip a grade. I agree with you on wanting to homeschool and your reasons. My reasons were pretty much the same if you take out the facts that the school lunches made my child gain weight, and that fact that she didn't learn anything for 2 years.

I say keep at DH and do a lot of research before you force the issue. i.e. costs, socialization, and so on. (you can check with your local community center for homeschooling classes and such.)

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I had a tough time the first year homeschooling my 1st grader. Now we have play dates all the time and get out to pulic places for events... its not as hard as you think unless you yourself are anti social. I also have to recomend a new site my kids started... called Headsprout... its amazing... my kids love it and are using it well on their own. My 2nd grader has a learning disability so its especially helpful to find stuff he enjoys!

Misty - posted on 09/10/2010

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I have homeschooled my 8 yr. old since the beginning & she has more friends & does more than I ever did in school! ;) She had 20 girls at her last b-day party, we go to homeschool playgroups, she is in Brownies, softball. I think her socialization is better overall, because she interacts with so many different ages all teh time. She went to a sleepover last Friday with a friend from public school & the mother could not stop commenting on her behavior & how well she acted. So I think it is a plus to homeschool for socialization. :) If you think about it, how are they 'socialized' in school, they are not allowed to talk to each other during class & now I have heard they keep a reign on that in the cafeteria too, & since recess has been cut back to almost nothing they get a whole what 15-30 minutes a day to actually play & socialize???? Just my opinion.

Ixchel - posted on 09/03/2010

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Hi, My family and I are starting into our 2nd year HS a 4th grader and a 1st grader. Our oldest went to public school till 2nd grade. The horror stories are so familiar and the scene is Deja Vu. We always said that the kids needed to have social skills taught as a class. That was our argument for many in our family who opposed our HS. Well we did not care and did it anyway. Both of our boys are very outgoing and have no problems with socializing. You will find and can find many homeschool groups online that plan many trips and activies at discounted rates. We are doing well with school and our kids love it. It feels like a daunting task at first but once you get in a routine, it is great and you must remember that you are the only person that cares about your childs education. Most education systems have taken away the resources of teachers to deal with the problem children who cause your child distress and interupt their learning. My children are socialized with my husband and I and do not learn the bad behavior I see on display from most other kids. When we go places we always get comments about how well behaved they are. They know when they can be rowdy and play and when they need to behave. I am sure that you would not want your child to pick up any of the behaviors that most of the kids display in public school anyway. My husband and I always called the school that my little one had to go to the free babysitting factory for all the scum and degenrates who did not want to watch their children for 10 hours a day. Good Luck I am sure you will find HS a rich and wonderful experience.

Tara - posted on 09/02/2010

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I agree with Tanza,
I have homeschooled now for over 8 years. My oldest is 17 and is completely auto didactic (self-taught) as is my 14 year old son.
We use a curriculum to satisfy my ex husband's need for structured learning at home. He would like to see them go to school if they choose to, so I make being home fun and entertaining as well as educational so they don't want to go ;)
Kids at school lack social skills because they spend their whole day with kids at the same level of emotional intelligence. Kids at home have the opportunity to engage in true social situations on a daily basis, with emotionally intelligent adults setting the example.
For instance when we go to get the mail, the kids go in to collect any parcels from the post master woman. They are polite, articulate and social.
When we go grocery shopping my 10 and 8 year old daughters have a list, they go together through the store to get the items on their list. They do this with confidence and without a case of the sillies.
My 10 year old daughter has recently started booking her own dentist appointments. My 8 year old daughter rides her bike down the block to the library every day it's open to do her math work or read a book or use the computer, the librarians are always telling me how mature she is, how polite she is and how articulate and intelligent she is. They can't get over her social skills, they think she is the most socially normal child they know!!
Socialization is the "s" word in hs'ing circles! lol
There are usually homeschoolers hiding in the woodwork of most towns and cities. Joining a group or co op where you will be able to do field trips, skating, swimming, crafts, music, art etc. is an excellent place for your child to socialize. My experiences with homeschooled kids is nothing short of spectacular. They have all been polite, social, respectful, talkative, interesting people.
Your husband's worries are founded on the old notion that kids need to be toughened up, or that they need to learn to stick up for themselves etc.
The problem there is that no matter what you teach them at home about being kind, turning the other cheek, or being empathetic, they will come across situations where those wonderful skills will not do them one ounce of good, simply because too many children don't have them, so it's like swimming upstream for kids who do.
It's far better in my opinion to expose them to real life social situations with mature adults or siblings leading the way.
I have 6 kids, we get out a lot, wherever we go my kids are socializing, on a real world level. That's what's important in childhood.
Bullying, ridicule and assaults on your child's spirit or emotions are NOT necessary elements of childhood!

Tanza - posted on 08/30/2010

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Hi, Amy - we are on our 2nd year of homeschooling and have friends who have homeschooled their kids successfully on to college. It is a common misnomer that homeschooled kids are isolated and don't socialize. Depending on where you live there are large homeschooling groups out there providing opportunities for field trips together, days at the park, lessons , etc. I chose to homeschool after getting laid off from a job where I worked 60-80hrs/week for the last number of years because I felt the schools could not adequately accommodate my kids within the gifted programs. They were still bored and the school's answer was that they could do more work once they completed the regular 'gifted' work. What a way to kill a kids love for learning! I love the freedom to work longer on a subject that is harder, to spend more time on things that interest them, and to go at our pace. Your 4yr old could join in homeschooling - hearing history, etc. My kids will be learning the following subjects this year: Ancient history, Math - pre-algebra and algebra, Art, language arts, literature, science:human body, environment, weather, etc; Tagalog (Philipino language), karate, vocabulary, etc.

It's said that what a child learns between k-8th grade can actually be learned in 2 yrs and the same for the high school materials.

To help get yourself and your husband on the same page, I would research homeschooling groups and programs in your area. The more information and logical discussion - probably the more he will support this effort. My husband is completely onboard and has squashed any thought of me going back to work so I can work with our 2 kids ( 4th grade and 7th grade).

Good luck and feel free to write if you want to talk more. Tanza

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