Dance Class for Boys?

Shauna - posted on 01/03/2011 ( 28 moms have responded )

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Me and my husband were having this Convo: I said i would like to sign my son up for dance classes as soon as he is old enough to join. I want him to be in all activitys and he can decide for himself what he likes, and what he wants to stick with. I also plan on signing him up for matial arts etc. If he doesnt like it i would gladly pull him out. IMO its good to get experiences of all kinds to know what you like! My husband does NOT want my son in dance classes thinks he will be made fun of etc. I have been a dancer my whole life up untill i was married. I have seen several boys in dance, and in my expeience the girls were attracted to the boy that has the dance moves! What do you think would you sign your boy up for dance?

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Lucy - posted on 01/03/2011

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Both my kids go to ballet class, my 4 year old daughter and my 3 year old son, and they both get a lot out of it. It's a great, healthy, expressive hobby, and actually a very demanding sport as well.

Many male athletes such as footballers and boxers include ballet as part of their training as it is a great all round work out and develops strength, control and poise which are useful in most sports.

As for the "it's a girls hobby" attitude, there are still a few meat heads around who will stick to that view, but on the whole I think attitudes are changing. There are older boys at the dance school, most of whom are very sporty "popular" types, so I think the stigma of boys and expressive arts is lessening.

Having said that, I did have one of the Dads ask me whilst our kids were in their dance lesson "don't you worry that it will make him gay?" To which, after I stopped laughing, I made some smart comment about the power of dance not being THAT great :P

You can't win em all, but whilst my son enjoys his ballet, I'll keep taking him.

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My mom used to be a professional ballet dancer and she now owns her owsn dance studio. My sister, brother and I all took dance classes for years. Yes, I said that, my brother did. Let me tell you, that kid was SOOO popular with the girls in high school because he was one of the few boys with any rhythm! It's also helped him with his coordination and his drill ergent in ROTC at college is always saying how light my brother is on his feet and how it's one of my brother's greatest assets.

Also, did any of you know that most professional football players are contractullynrequired to take ballet classes? My mom used to teach classes to the San Fransisco 49ers when she was dancing professionally. :D

LaCi - posted on 01/03/2011

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Dance is a fantastic foundation for athletics. It's useful regardless of what sport they may end up liking.

My son will be in dance classes this year. He's 2, will be 3. He'll also be in tumbling and gymnastics.

When he's old enough, he'll be in T-ball, little league, peewee, etc. I want him to try everything. He doesn't have to stick with it, but the only way to figure out what you like is to try it all.

As for being made fun of, he'll probably be one of the only boys in an all girl class, imagine all the little "girlfriends" he'll end up with. That's always something he can throw back in anyone's face if they say anything.

Shauna - posted on 01/03/2011

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yeah he knows about the football players taking ballet. Hes just weird. "tough guy" my boy isnt going to be made fun of. ..... i agree he can get over it.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 01/03/2011

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I have danced for MANY years with male dancers...they LOVED Ballet...not just for the girls in tights either. If my son wants to dance, dance he shall!

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Calelavarhunter - posted on 02/23/2015

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My son is 10 years old a great dancer so I can please get your number to make sure I call u and he will be there soon as possible
thankyou

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Both of my brothers were in ballet and the girls loved it but if they did get made fun of they would just tell all the guys what they got to do. I think my older brother got to cop a feel quite a few times in his dance class.

I loved dancing and I wish I never would have quit ballet:(

Lady Heather - posted on 01/03/2011

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I totally would if he wanted to do it. I probably wouldn't if he didn't show interest first because it's expensive and time-consuming (like most of these sorts of things). My brother was in dance classes until he was 13 and was never made fun of. He quit in favour of music and sports in the end, but it wasn't because of any teasing. I have many good friends who are male dancers and it certainly didn't hurt them any. The ladies definitely love them. Ha.

Sherri - posted on 01/03/2011

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If he got to be school aged and was still in dance he would be tortured in school. It really is a stereotypically woman and although I think it is great for boys too. They truly are just tortured over it. So because of this I would never do that to them.

Bridget - posted on 01/03/2011

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if my little boy wanted to dance i would let him it would be a great experience for him

~♥Little Miss - posted on 01/03/2011

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My mom was a professional dancer, and has owned her own ballet schools over many years. I grew up with Ballet, and I see nothing wrong with men dancing. At that young of an age, it is just really movement. You really learn your body and how to truly move at about 7-8. Your husband can chill out...it is not going to make him into something is is not. Plus, proffessional athletes take it for better coordination, and more graceful moves. Does he have respect for football players?

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My nephew went to a dance class with 2 of his male friends when he was 5 and there were plenty of boys in it, it was split about 50/50 girls and boys. I don't think that is a problem nowadays, as hobbies are becoming less girl hobbies and boy hobbies and more if the child wants to do it let them - they allow girls to join cubs, beavers and scouts now and that was only ever a boy thing, likewise boys are allowed to join rainbows, brownies and girl guides now - everything has to be gender neutral. I would tell him it won't be an issue!



Editd to change an 'it' to 'him' duh!

Shauna - posted on 01/03/2011

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I told my husband you dont have a say... when hes old enough hes going into dance class ... My husband asked so if Drake comes home and asks the question: Why am i the only boy in dance class what would you say? I really didnt know how to answer .. did any of you that have sons every have that asked of you what did you say? And has any of your sons ever felt like other boys were making fun of him for being in dance?

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If Ethan wants to he will take dance classes, it doesn't bother me or my hubby, our concern is that our son is happy and contented!

Bonnie - posted on 01/03/2011

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There is nothing wrong with a boy taking dance classes. Look at all the male dancers that perform when musical artists perform live. There is nothing wrong with it if that is what he would enjoy.

Corena - posted on 01/03/2011

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I can't believe this is even an issue. Then again, our family is made up of artists, musicians and dancers. :)

Shauna - posted on 01/03/2011

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I will sign him up when hes old enough, so he can at least try it out and say for himself if he likes it or not. I just have to keep my husbands mouth shut. If he hears dad saying its stupid most likely my son will believe its stupid! .... Thanks for the advice everyone its very encouraging to know others would do the same!

Becky - posted on 01/03/2011

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I would put my boys into dance if they wanted to. Actually, Zach loves to dance, so it might be something that interests him. He's a little young yet though. I want to put Cole into gymnastics, and Jeff doesn't even like that idea. He's so wierd that way. :( But, if I want to do it, I'm going to do it whether he likes it or not. :) I don't see a problem with it.

Krista - posted on 01/03/2011

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I would totally sign my boy up for dance!

Perhaps your husband would feel better about a more "manly" dance class, like hip-hop? And then once he's more used to the idea, your son can explore other genres?

If all else fails, tell him that dancing is obviously good enough for Jerry Rice, Emmitt Smith, Jason Taylor, Justin Timberlake, Usher, and a lot of other guys who definitely have lots of admirers.

Lindsay - posted on 01/03/2011

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Neither of my kids take dance classes as of yet. But I wouldn't be opposed if my son wanted to try it out. As of now, he's just excited to start Football this fall.

Jocelyn - posted on 01/03/2011

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I am planning on signing Conner up for dance. He's all arms and legs and has huge feet, so I think it would REALLY help his coordination lol. I also want to try him in gymnastics, maybe tumbling. He has excessive energy and a bunch of sensory issues, and dance helps you to get in tune with your body. So win win. The guys that can dance always get the girls anyway LOL

Sharon - posted on 01/03/2011

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Tell hubby you're signing the boy up for popular dance class. If it includes some classical - so be it.

I think both of my boys would enjoy popular dance. I think some classical ballet would aid in mastering some of those moves.

Sara - posted on 01/03/2011

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I agree, Julianne. I have no problem with whatever interests my daughter. I try really hard not to try and press traditional gender roles on her. I love her for who she is, period.

Nicole - posted on 01/03/2011

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I put my son in dance classes, I was also a dancer/gymnast back in the day.

My son loved it but didn't have the discipline for it yet. He did a summer program, then we tried one drop in lesson and decided to wait until he's older.

Now he's in gymnastics and swimming and loving both.

I think boys, especially boys who are going to be tall, should take dance classes to get improved coordination.

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yea sara im signing gabby up for martial arts training when shes old enough, also dance classes i figured i would go both routs until she finds out who she is. I buy her unisex toys as well as boys and girls toys. I dont want her to feel like im pressuring her to be a girly girl or a tomboy. Whereever she fits she has my support.

Sara - posted on 01/03/2011

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I would totally sign a boy up for dance lessons. I'm planning on signing my daughter up for martial arts and other "traditional" boy activities...I don't think that will make her a lesbian.

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