How to deal with the ex?

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So I haven't been on COM since February because I left my husband and have finally got to the point where I'm almost on my feet.

I have 2 exes that are on a mission to drive me crazy!!! I've never been one to restrict visitation with the kids even though I could, in fact we have split custody. Things have gone back and forth for 5 years with my oldest and her dad and she has suffered because of it. I see my exhusband doing the same things, times 10, and I don't want to see my son go through it.

I'm a bartender and I work every friday and saturday night because thats what I could find for a job. Neither of them have been consistent about taking the kids when they are supposed to which leaves me paying for a sitter while I'm at work. They both have decided to pretty much gang up on me for full custody of my kids because I filed for child support. I had to for childcare asst. and medical.

I would love to have my kids all the time but I'm not sure how to go about it without starting world war III and I happen to be dealing with two very controlling men.

I posted this here because I'm more familiar with you ladies and even though we may not always agree I love a good debate:)
Any suggestions???

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Carolee - posted on 10/12/2011

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I've been in and out of court with one of them a few times. As far as my ex husband goes, our divorce was final as of August and quite frankly the man scares the shit out of me. I have a restraining order against him but thats a joke and I've seen what he can do.

I can't afford a lawyer or things would probably be a little less scary right now.

Carolee - posted on 10/12/2011

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Let them take you to court. Counter-file for full custody and child support. If you think they'd do anything to/with the kids (my ex threatened abduction), file for them to have only limited supervised visits as well. Stop letting them bully you.

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