is it normal to want more kids when you have given birth to four?

Edryss - posted on 07/22/2010 ( 16 moms have responded )

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i have four kids i gave birth too and i want more but my husband says he is too old. what do i do??

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Candace - posted on 09/10/2010

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At least you have 4. you have to look in terms of "how old will i be when so and so is this old?". Plus, i think that your husband has been kind to you to have that many. Remember, it's not just about "you" it's about "him" too.

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Susan - posted on 11/28/2011

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I see nothing wrong with having more kids. If you are financially able and love kids, why not? I know people with 8 and 9 kids who are doing great. Look at the Duggars. They have 19 and another on the way. Their family is wonderful! The kids are happy and well cared for. Go for it. Have more!

Angel - posted on 10/22/2011

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I think it's natural for women to want to have more children. Almost like an inborn instinct or something. I have ten and wouldn't trade it for the world.

Erica - posted on 10/14/2011

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I have only 1 and my husband would die if he knew I wanted more - be grateful for what you have and spend more time them.

Valerie - posted on 07/13/2011

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Well I think it all depends on if you can afford to have another child more than anything. I am currently having my second child and my husband is telling me that we do not need another one after this for many stupid what if reasons. In the end what happens happens but you would be the one carrying the child and do not see a problem with it as long as you can afford it. I have always wanted to have 5 children, but I also come from a large family too.

Christina - posted on 03/08/2011

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Um, I think you accept the fact that you can't have any more kids. Or you do foster care. If your husband is dead set against having any more children, the only way you are going to have another baby is to trick him, and I do not respect anyone who does that to someone else.
Is it the baby phase you miss? If you figure out what it is exactly you are wanting (whether that is an actually another child or just the sweet baby phase) then you can proceed accordingly. If it is the baby phase, just get one of your friends to let you babysit for a few hours every week :)

Heather - posted on 01/29/2011

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There is nothing wrong with wanting more kids even if your husband is on board or not. In this day and age it only takes one to make a baby and a frozen popsicle. Think about the options though weigh the pros and cons and see what age you will be when your kid is doing certain things and if you are either going to be the parent cheering the kid on or the parent in the wheelchair on the sidelines because you were too old when you had them and just broke a hip :) Weigh the options, like many people have said you can adopt or foster or invest in cardboard cutouts of small children or just babysit alot and rent other people's kids. My sister has five, my brother has one, I have one. Do I want more sure. Probably three max so I commend you on having four and wanting possibly more. Check out the options :) I rent four other children from time to time.

Carole - posted on 10/07/2010

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With four kids...............wait for grandbabies. Really, if hubby doesn't want more, do you want to make him unhappy or even ruin the marriage? I had two children because of health issues (Rh) and they in turn had 6 grandchildren for me. But only two are biological. 3 are adopted and one is a step. Now there is a thought. Would hubby be agreeable to adoption? There are always children needing loving moms and dads.

Kelly - posted on 10/06/2010

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I understand I have 5 and want more and me and my hubby are having the same arguement there is nothing wrong with wanting more i would discuss all the options and pros and cons with ur husband and make a choice together

Lanna - posted on 09/30/2010

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I would love another to make it 4, because 1 I love being pregnant, I love children and 3 I dont believe in odd numbers. If your healthy then go for it....

Pamela - posted on 08/27/2010

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having a baby takes two and there is a lot to think about but i do understand that the thought of not have any more kids is hard i have 2 boys and i would love to have a girl but 2 is hard enough and we can't afford to have any more but my mom had six kids i'm the middle out of five sadly Vanessa was lost shortly after birth she would have been 16 last month

Nicole - posted on 08/20/2010

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Enjoy raising the children you have. There is nothing wrong with wanting more children (I have four and would like more but financially just can't). You should respect your husband's wishes, but make sure there won't be any resentment from his not wanting more. You can always wait a little while and talk about it again.

Jelica - posted on 08/02/2010

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There is nothing wrong with having more than 4 kids, if you like kids and enjoy being a mother.. have as many as you like.

Kendra - posted on 08/01/2010

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You're still young. You could have another child later on in life, who knows maybe your husband will change his mind. Men can have kids MUCH later in life than women can. I say just live it day by day. Four children is a lot to me. I think I only want three max.

Darlene - posted on 07/23/2010

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I have five kids of my own and had a still born daughter at 28 weeks and i still want to have more kids. I had a hysterectomy and so adopted two kids. I still would like to adopt one more someday Lord willing.

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