Does any one else feel like their husband treats their kids like a chore?

Lorraine - posted on 11/07/2009 ( 1 mom has responded )

My husband would be the first one to bring up the fact that for sure he wanted kids. When our first daughter was born then I don't know why it seems like all that changed. First he did not even hold her for like the first month that she was born, didn't play with her, and help me if he changed a diaper. After I had been trying to put the baby to sleep for two or three hours, so I woke him up to help me. He actually told me well you don't have to wake up in the morning and you get to sleep all day. That got me so mad. Here I am breastfeeding, doing most of the diaper changes, waking up in the night, but I get to sleep all day apparently.
Of course I never get any time to myself, but it does seem that my husband has all this time for video games, when sometimes all I want to do is unwind. Now I keep on fighting with him cause he never wants to play with our baby girl. As soon as I leave them two alone together, he puts her to sleep. Even if she had just woken up from a nap. I don't know how you can dislike playing with your own kid sooo much. When I say anything he just rolls his eyes, but why should I be given the full responsibility when she has his last name.
Another thing, if he does something wrong to her then he blames me. He has almose dropped her twice. He put our girl into a car seat and then didn't strap her in. When I realized it when had been driving for half an hour. My husband places her into the car, he should strap her in or at least tell me to. No he just covers her up and starts to drive. Then when we left the zoo going to the car, I told him to be careful cause she was not strapped in the stroller cause I was gonna change her. What does he do pick up the seat and there she goes and rolls out. Thank god it wasn't on to the floor. Then he goes and blames me for not having the handle on right. Well duh he should check it before hand and take some damn responsiblity.
I hate the fact that he blames me instead of saying oh I'm sorry. What do I do with this apparent man-child? I am really uneasy leaving him alone with her. If I don't remind him, he forgets to feed her and bathe her. I don't wanna see if I leave him with her alone all day.