crazy!

Denise - posted on 04/06/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My future mil isnt quite as bad as some that i have read on here but she drives me crazy none the less! it all began the first time i met her. this was 3 years ago when i was only 19 and her first question was when am i getting grandkids! that should have been a sign! well three years later i get pregnant and Future hubby and i are thrilled. the whole pregnancy she felt the urge to tell me what to do or not do. she is legally insane and has been hospitalized for her paranoia. the whole pregnancy all she could talk about is how she would be babysitting ect. i told the future hubby over my dead body will my child be left alone with her. well of course she got all mad when we did not call her as soon as we left for the hospital when i was in labor! we waited only because the doctors werent positive they were keeping me! we didnt call my family either! my aunt practically raised me and they helped us out a lot with getting ready for my son. they threw my baby shower bought our crib, my other aunt made me scrub tops to wear during my pregancy. i was always welcome for dinner if i didnt feel like cooking ect. his family did none of that. as a matter of fact a month before my due date his mil decided she needed to move up the road from us! whatever at least she doesnt drive i guess! well at the hospital i wanted my aunts to be the first ones in the room after to see my son. his mother barged in first! keep in mind my family is who brought cameras and things to take pictures for us! visiting hours were over in like 45 min at this time so the doctors were nice enough to allow everyone in at once because of this. now my family recongnizing that i was tired after being in labor all day and knowing that they would have to leave in a few min anyway left. plus they had to work unlike his family because they are on fixed incomes. well they say goodbye and i assume yay shes leaving! nope. somehow she got my room number before i knew where i was going and there she is waiting! of course the nurses then kicked them out becuse they had to go over a ton of medical stuff. so they came back in for 5 min before they had to leave. i was so annoyed by this. i made my future hubby call them and not let them come the next day untill he got there (he had to work so he could spend an extra day at home with me).



of course now that i have him she is always trying to guilt us into visiting her. this is after she bullied her way into hubbys grandmothers first visit with her great grandson. we stopped there on the way home from the hospital. during this visit while i was holding my 2 day old son she hit me on my arm hard enough to make hubbys uncle turn around and see what happened! i flipped out at that point! i outright told my future hubby that i do not trust her and i am not leaving him alone with her. he doesnt see all that i do. im at the point where i am not even really nice anymore.

lately thou i have to be because if i am semi nice hubby speaks up for me more often. !



sorry so long but i had to vent. she drives me nuts!! i know shes not as bad as some but i can only see it getting worse! she made me give my son to her when he was fussing because he had just gotten his shots and wanted me! of course he screamed and she didnt understand why! we had to go out to eat because it was her birthday. grrr!

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Nichole - posted on 08/21/2010

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I know how you feel! My MIL/FIL both. My husband and I got married 1 1/2 year ago....before the wedding the in laws loved me and since money was tight for them and us soon to be newlyweds they suggested we stay living with them for a few more months (I lived with them for 3 months priar to the wedding). Well a month after the wedding I find out I'm 2 weeks along...they were all excited. But instantly starting trying to tell me how things would be done. I told my husband that we were moving ASAP and we did. Well MIL kept tryng to visit unanounced to show off our nursery or whatever, so finally I got my husband to tell her to call and ask first. (I had a rough prego, so I hated when she just show up and I looked awful). When my son was born she was good in the hospital until the day I was checking out. My husband couldn't be there, so she and my family were helping. Well it pissed me off the way she did things. She made it seem like a huge rush to get out. I wanted to take my time and make sure I had everything and just enjoy the idk experience of taking my baby home. But we were out of the room in like 5 minutes. She wouldn't even let me hold my son's carrier while they pushed me to the car...GRRR Why did she get to hold him??!! He's NOT her baby! Then she constantly had things to say about how things were going with "my parenting"....I overfed him, he's too gassy (didn't you burp him), and all that kind of thing. Then we moved from the same town as her to another for my husband's job, well she was less involved then, because of the distance, and things seemed better. Then that home got infested with mold, so without the means to do so we moved...which forced us back into living with them...the inlaws. I've been here for 5 months of HELL. Everything I do is wrong. They want to give my son (11months) endless amounts of water even during meals, which is going to lead to either water intoxication or at least malnutrition. But they dont believe me. (Hubby yelled at them, now they agreed to stop with the over giving of water). Then they complain that I'm not giving him enough liquids if he gets constipated...he has 20-40 ounces of milk a day, plus 10 ounces of juice, and 10 ounces of water....The constipation is from new foods, or the fact some of his favorites tend to do that too him if he is allowed to eat too much of them. Then they say they will call SRS on me for not giving him a paci...I'm trying to find other means of calming for him so I can start weaning sometime. Oh and they say it's neglectful if he cries/fusses for more than 5 minutes... When he's gassy, teathing, or fighting sleep he tends to cry for a lot more, and they blame me. And I haven't been able to stop night feedings, cuz my son cries if there is no milk given and then I get in trouble.... He's almost 1, I think it's time to start cutting out the night time feedings if possible. They say no cuz the almanac says he isn't showing signs of being ready...he'll stop when he is. Then a baby gate broke and I tried to throw it out, told them it was trash. THey put it back up, and said it probably will hold. I"M SORRY BUT PROBABLY IS NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR MY BABY!!!! When I got upset about it, they told me to leave. My husband don't need me, and that I should be institutionalized! WTF?! Oh and if my husband doesn't do something they think he should be doing with our baby, they say it's cuz he's "afraid" of me. Which isn't true at all, he just don't agree with there methods either. Oh and I'm suppose to raise my baby based off the almanac and how she raise my husband, but not off of my experiences because he's unique...which don't make sense but whatever. Well needless to say, we (my husband, son, and I) are finally moving. After all the things they have said lately I don't know that our relationship will after be back to the way it was before I married their son.

Kristina - posted on 06/22/2010

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OMG!!!! I FEEL FOR YOU GIRL!!!!! I freaking LIVE with my inlaws!!! And mine is JUST as bad as yours!! Of course, its mainly my Mother in law!! I am currently pregnant with my first (its a girl!!) and I have a stepson who is 3... we currently live with my inlaws because I have NO family here where we live, and we can't afford to get a house right now due to car note, student loans (mainly), and child support :( It is literally hell!!! I have a story of my own to share with you that happened just the other day!!!

So Monday made the first day in a year that my Mother in Law AND Father in Law kept my stepson (Toby) ALL day... (we get him for 2- two week periods every summer) well husband and I had to work today, so he was watched by my MIL and FIL... we come home and Toby is in the guest bathroom, had gotten on top of the counter top, got into his medicines, dumped them all over the floor (thank GOD most of them were the childproof tops, but some were little Mucinex packets that my MIL got for him). He had the hand soap all over the floor, as well as toilet paper and such also scattered.... and where were my inlaws?? Well FIL was in the living room watching tv, and my MIL was in her room on the other side of the house watching her tv!!!! NOBODY was watching him!!! THEN, if that wasnt bad enough, I noticed salt ALL over the coffee table when we were eating... they said he had gotten ahold of the salt and dumped it all over the floor, table, and couch in the living room (Again, where was the supervision??) Then my MIL after dinner was asking where Toby's other shoe was since she found one in the outside dog's mouth!?!?! It was outside far away from the trampoline where it was left! What in the HELL am I going to do for the rest of the 2 weeks we have him!?!?! I can not trust these people, theres no telling what will happen tomorrow!!!! I am LIVID!!!!

I am so relieved to see that someone else out there is just as sick and tired of their mother in law as I am!! I know that sounds awful, but gees, I will NOT let my daughter be in her supervision EVER!!! I do NOT trust her, and on top of that, both my inlaws smoke like freight trains!! Ugh, they just make me sick, and I have to be "appreciative" of them because they are giving us a place to live.... but trust me, they definitely take advantage of us :( Ugh, that feels so good to finally vent out!!