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Lisa - posted on 08/21/2009 ( 1 mom has responded )

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My mom died of ovarian cancer on Aug.4,2008. I am the second of five children. All my siblings had kids except me. My mom was so happy when I told her I was finally pregnant at 37 yrs.old (after IVF). However, my mom's cancer got worse and worse. The closer I came to my due date the sicker she got. She spent my last two trimesters in the hospital. She died and the next day I had my beautiful, healthy, and happy baby while her rosary services were going on and the next day during the funeral and burial, I was still in the hospital. It was so sad, but we got to say our goodbyes and she said she would always be with me and she was going to be my baby's guardian angel. It was so difficult for me as a new mom without my mom. I had a c-sect and lost lots of blood. I felt awful and so so sad. I prayed everyday for God to help me get through the days and nights. I usually go to my sister for advice, but I miss my mom so much every single day. I think I'm still grieving.

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Diane - posted on 01/29/2010

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Hi Lisa, I'm so sorry to hear your story. Grief is never an easy road to travel but time does slowly heal the heart. I was pregnant with our first child when I was 36 yrs old. This was in 2007. She was the result of 9 IVF cycles. In early December my Grandmother died. Since I lived in Adelaide and my family all lived in Melbourne, I made the trip over for her funeral. I had been given the OK from the Dr to travel since I was 28 weeks pregnant. Upon returning home I discovered that things were quiet in my tummy and sadly to say it was soon discovered that our baby had died. At 29 weeks and 3 days we delivered our daughter, Emily, asleep for always. This grief on top of losing my Grandmother was absolutely devastating to us. It took me a year at least to get the courage to move on. We have now had 15 cycles of IVF and now have a beautiful daughter who was born in September 2009. Dreams do come true.

I'm not trying to make your grief seem any less than mine. Grief is grief and it's never easy. But be comforted by those who love you and be gentle on yourself. Time will help with the pain. Hang in there and if you ever want to chat, I'm here for you.

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