Sarh - posted on 07/07/2010 ( 1 mom has responded )
I had my daughter when I was 16yrs old. Her "sperm donor" has never been there for me during my pregnancy nor during her life! I have taken him to court to put him on child support, but I haven't seen a penny!! She has seen him a little bit, he comes around for a month then disappears for months on end. He thinks visitation should be when he has time. I told him when she was a baby to set up a schedule with me for when he can see her, but he didn't want to. I don't trust him at all. He has a felony charge for having a sawed off shotgun. He has a domestic violence charge, he has 6kids that he knows of, I have caught him selling crack out of his mom's house, he was selling weed out of his home when he moved out which he thought I should bring my daughter into. He thinks that she should be in the car with him, he is a "gang banger", I'm not having the most precious gift of mine around that! So, he finally laid off of me on seeing her and he keeps going back and forth on signing his right over (his own decision). Now, I am happily engaged to a wonderful man, in which I just had my son with. Jada and Dan (my fiance) get along as if they were father and daughter! My daughter however will not call him dad or daddy, she says she cant because he's her baby brother's dad. I don't want to force her to call him dad and I will not. It does hurt my fiance though when she mentions her "daddy david". We just tell her that he is not much of a father, and what has he done for her. Is this wrong of us? I don't know what to do anymore. And I don't know what to do when she asks about the sperm donor. We just tell her that Dan is her dad now. But she says that he's not. It kills me because I forced him into her life and now I'm older and I dont want him in her life, this is my fault how do I fix it???