Being stubborn with potty training

Kimberly - posted on 08/02/2010 ( 13 moms have responded )

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My boy is 3 years old. He will wet or stinky in his pull up and come tell you. I believe that it's a comfort thing. He will do good one day and the next day it's back to square one. We have already tried stickers, cheerio's, etc. I'm really out of ideas and about to just give up hope and let him do it on his own. any ideas?

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Amanda - posted on 08/07/2010

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My first piece of advice is get rid of the pull ups, I do understand that if he goes to daycare he has to use them, but if he is home with you there is no need for them. You may have a few messes to clean up but a pull up is no different from a diaper. With my step son we made a big deal with going underwear shopping, he picked out his favorite character (Cars and Spiderman) undies and when he went #2 in them (only one time it all it took) I made HIM throw the in the trash. He was heartbroken that his Cars underwear was getting tossed. But we had him potty trained in 4 days. And this was after his biological mother had him put back into diapers after being potty trained once before. The key to potty training is being consistent with them, once mommy and daddy start slacking, the child will follow. We also went to the dollar tree and picked out 5 toys, and a the end of the week if he did well with no accidents he got to pick out a toy from the bag. But we didn't drag it out too long because we didn't want him to think that he would get toys for something that he should be doing. I hope this helps!!!

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Kelli - posted on 09/17/2010

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i agree with karen with my son we took away the diapers and started using underware kids dont like being in wet underware

Dawn - posted on 09/08/2010

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My son Craig Jr has been potty trained since he was 2, but was still having issues until he turned 3. Now he sleeps thru the night with no accidents. Diapers and pullups didnt help, cause they are sooo absorbent that he never felt it. The underwear makes them feel it and they dont like it. Jr was pretty difficult and eventhough I was consistent on it he told me WHO WAS BOSS.........HIM! Plus he liked to do art projects on the wall with his poop, thats how difficult it was for me. Some children can pick it up in 4 or 5 days, but with my son it took almost a year. The more stubborn they are, the harder its gonna be and that was my son. GOOD LUCK! I know how difficult it can be, but you are doing a great job.

Rachel - posted on 09/03/2010

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Go back to square one. Just take a break. I also agree that you should get rid of the pull-ups. Diapers are sooo good and absorbent, there's a theory out there that pull-ups and diapers are actually keeping kids in diapers longer because they aren't uncomfortable like our stinky cloth diapers were.
My son wasn't reliably potty trained until 5 1/2. Even now, he still has the occasional accident.
I think your idea is best: let him do it on his own. Make him change himself. Make him wash his own undies. Eventually he'll figure out that using the potty is a LOT easier than cleaning up after himself.
I also recommend patience, a high-efficiency washer, a carpet shampooer (those things are directly sent from HEAVEN), and a LOT of booze for yourself. :-)

Tabitha - posted on 09/02/2010

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oh that is a great idea about throwing the underwear away. My son loves his underwear but refuses to go poo on the pot. I am going to try this and see what happens. It seems like we have tried everything else. Thanks!

Michelle - posted on 08/26/2010

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I put our potty in the living room real close to where my daughter would play and we would sit on the potty every now and then and read books etc until she would go. I would ask her if she has potty power which means staying dry. My daughter didnt care about rewards, she really liked picking her panties out at the store and wanted to keep them dry. Do NOT use pull ups, just put them in undies except for at night.

Annaleigh - posted on 08/26/2010

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there are various reasons kids don't want to give up diapers. my son at 2 and a half told me that he wanted to wear diapers so he could still nurse!! that's when I decided with logic like that he wasn't wearing diapers anymore. however he REFUSED to go potty in the toilet for me. it was a control thing. with the help of my sister-in-law (she was scarier than momma, lol) he was in underwear and staying dry all day within a week! do you have anyone else who will help? or maybe if you put him in underwear and tell him he will keep them dry? (worked for 2 boys I had at daycare) usually a pull-up feels like a diaper so it feels ok to pee in them. stay positive (hard I know), and don't let your son think he's in control. haha, its like with a dog, don't let him smell your fear! you are in charge, he can control his bladder, and he will wear underwear! You can do it!!

Michelle - posted on 08/23/2010

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i have heard it resolves itself. My 4 yr old still wears pullup at night. I am not sure how to break her of this, but hoping eventually it will resolve.

Emmerentia - posted on 08/23/2010

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My little boy turned 3 in January. At first he did his no 1 in the toilet, but used to do the nr 2 in his undies. That passed and during the day he now does both in the toilet, but at night he still wets the bed. I have now again started putting on a diaper at night when he sleeps, otherwise the bed is wet almost every morning. Don't know if I'm doing the right thing. We're not making an issue of it. Don't drink that much during evenings. But he does not wake up when he has a wee, sleeps through it! maybe this will too resolve itself????

Janelle - posted on 08/20/2010

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my boy has struggled with the potty training also but in the last week my husband took his pull ups away and they are for sleeping only; we also have told him since he will go to preschool in a week that he has to use the big potty and that has helped too. I had tried toys, stickers etc. and those worked for a day here and there. But I also think Dylan finally decided he likes to be a big boy and is excited to tell us that he has gone peepee or poop in the potty and he counts how many times too.

Michelle - posted on 08/11/2010

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I bought the dvd potty power and it is excellent! Now we say do you have potty power which means staying dry. I bought potty books and we sat on the potty reading books until she pottied in the pot. Once she realized how to do it, she caught on really fast. We also just used panties, no pull ups, also teach bye bye pull ups or diapers. use stickers, small prizes etc. Try to stay home as much as possible while they are learning.

Karen - posted on 08/04/2010

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my son toilet trained at 2.5yrs, he was fine with wees, but wouldn't do poos in the toilet. so, when the packet ran out, we simply said to him, "there's no nappies left, you'll have to go in the tiolet". This meant that we had to leave him in undies, even at night. But it seemed to work for the poos. We still get a wet bed in the morning sometimes, though. :)

Skyee - posted on 08/02/2010

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we started training our son when he was around 2 and wouldn't go no matter what we tried until about a month and a half ago, his grandfather told him that if he starts using the toilet he will buy him an alphie robot toy, that day he started using the toilet and hasnt looked back (and scored a new toy in the process)

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