How do you Mum's out there deal with your toddler hitting. Mines 3.5yrs???

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Tori - posted on 08/21/2010

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Fortunatly for us, our son has'nt started hitting yet. He does throw things when he's mad though. We take the object away and make take a time out. Sometimes he gets his lil hand smacked, but only if he hits us or his siter with the thown object.

Melissa - posted on 08/03/2010

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I am in the same boat! All of our babies (mines a boy) are the same age (this is a January 2007 group). But just like Lisa A. said, my son John has only girl cousins and he is the youngest of his cousin as well. And he is also an only child so far so it all comes together and he just gets so frustrated he just wants to hit. But my thing is he doesn't hit anyone else but me. His friends come over for play dates and he gets mad at them and runs to me and just hits me. When this started at the beginning of the year I started the time outs and he is a good kid after the time out. But he just keeps hitting and again it's always only me. Not even my husband (John's dad). Anyways, like you all say be consistent!

Aimee - posted on 07/31/2010

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depending on the situation with your child, hitting can be a communication tool resorted to if the child doesn't have the right communication skills. My son is on the autism spectrum, and at 6 sometimes we still have issues with hitting. I can, however, usually tell what the precursor was and talk him through it. He knows it's wrong, but it's one of those things he is struggling with getting control of. And we make sure to praise him when you can see he's frustrated and wants to lash out and hit but makes the right choice and uses his language instead of his hands. At age 3, it was a much bigger problem than it is any more...now if I could just get his 3 year old sister to stop instigating it... LOL

Samantha - posted on 07/21/2010

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my boy hits as well he also 3 and a half i hink its a stage and ive also realised he does it for attention distraction works or removin what he hittin and not sayin a word to him so ignoring it it hard work i have this problem every day at least some one in the same boat as me good luck x

Tiffany - posted on 07/13/2010

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corner time!!!! lol I make him stand in the corner for 3 minutes or until he calms down then when he is allowed out he has to go to the person, look them in the eyes say hes sorry and give them hugs and kisses.

Rebecca - posted on 07/09/2010

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Seems like it's just a phase. Already subsided. I think he was just getting frustrated with his little brother walking now and having his first birthday, not that much "special" attention was on him so lashed out the only way he knew how. It's a lot better now. I have also attempted the time outs, naughty spots and taking away ALL of his toys till he had nothing but books in his room. So thanks for all the really helpful comments. My advise is stay constant repeat, repeat and repeat again... It sinks in EVENTUALLY... xxx

Lisa - posted on 07/04/2010

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It is good to hear other boys are having a problem with hitting. I started to think my boy needed to see the doctor about his aggressive behavior. All he has are girl cousins and no boys around to compare behavior with. Hopefully this fall when he starts preschool it will help, because just like you ladies I have done the time outs, expressing to him that other kids are not going to want to play with him if he keeps hurting them; even others and old timers have said spanking and have tried. I think its just a phase, their excited and don't know how to express themselves. It does make you feel like there is something your missing, that you should be doing.

Emily - posted on 06/27/2010

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For hitting (or any other kind of hurting), my son gets an immediate time out (3 minutes). Then after the time out he has to apologize to the person he hit. He also has to clean up all his trains for the day (his favorite toy). Because usually the anger and hitting has something to do with the trains, like he doesn't want to share. I absolutely do not tolerate hitting.

Esther - posted on 06/27/2010

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My boy is also 3 and a half and he is going through this hitting thing too. I tell him off immediately and explain to him that its not a nice thing to do and that when other kids do it to him he doesnt like it. Basically I think its gonna take time for him to get the idea but as long as he knows that its wrong and that I keep disciplining him for it I think eventually he will stop.

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