My Daughter is talking back and won't stop!

Heather - posted on 02/05/2013

I 6 yr old started this last year and we just tell her that it doesn't work to talk that way and its not respectable to talk to adults that way. She is an angle at school but back talks bad at home, we got told to try vanilla instead of soap cause its safer and still taste nasty. It has worked some for us cause she does not like the taste. Hope that it helps you guys some or any other methods would be nice also.

Lybah - posted on 01/29/2013

hey there you are not alone my son talks back but in a very i do not know what to call it manner he makes these brrrrrrrrrr sounds and mocks me when i talk to him about anything he puts his hands next to his head and does this mocking thingie which highly irritattes me i love him to death but hes like one in his own world he just never listens......... He tends to nagg about toys all the time lol never gets enough, if i say no says pleasssseeeee mummy!!!! hes soo sweet and clever but trains me now already for the next one hahhaha ... I think i will just enjoy him with all the talking back and the mocking hes six what to i expect lol a soldier??? just keep enjoying these moments while their still so innoocent sometimes all i can do is laugh at ma son for being so much trouble and being adorable,only kids can manage to do that.... enjoy ur lil teenager while shes still lil i have no advice with the whining and all that just a mom that knows what ure going through goodluck and enjoyxxxxxx

Natasha - posted on 09/10/2012

my 3 year old doesn't listen and it drives me crazy & i feel like sometimes i cant deal with it, but I have to thats my child, and I refuse to have my child grow up & not respect me, it will get worse as they get older if you dont nip it in the butt now! I'm still tryna figure out what to do with mines, wen yu figure it out please let me know the solution

Merrick - posted on 09/08/2012

Not to make light of the situation, but I am so glad that I am not the only one! I don't know what else to do. He can be the absolute sweetest and most polite little boy, and then WHAM!, devil boy! I know that is an exaggeration, but is closer to the truth than you could imagine. I seriously feel that I am out of choices with him...

Gineen - posted on 09/08/2012

Merrick, that sounds exactly like my 5 year old daughter. I am at wits end with her. I can get to the point where I am actually scared of myself, but it doesn't phase her and she keeps running her mouth and cannot stop it. I have tried choices, doesn't work, time outs, don't work, taking things away, doesn't work. NOTHING works and she is constantly nasty and sassy and can't seem to listen to anything. Constantly whining and is never happy with ANYTHING. Even then nice things she will complain about and always wants more.



I am literally losing my mind over this. Her father and I am divorced and have been since she was a baby. He has her about 2 days a week and is re-married. He deals with some of this, but I get the brunt and its just me and her and I simply can't control her and I am losing it.



Sorry to Hijack, i just feel your pain and I am at wits end and can't really take it anymore.

Merrick - posted on 09/03/2012

My 5 year old talks horribly to me. No punishment seems to work. Spank him, "that didn't jury", take a toy away, "when you go to sleep I will get it back", etc. He embarrasses me in public. The whining is constant. I am at my wits end and don't know what else to do. We homeschool so he is not in the school setting. He is mean to his older sister also.

Amy - posted on 05/06/2012

OMG. My 5 yr old ds is so mouthy! He is very defiant. Slams doors, yells at us and hits his older brother whose 7. I hope it's a phase, or maybe just a Capricorn thing :). He's a pistol!!

Amy

Lindsay - posted on 02/26/2012

My son is doing it too. I just tell him that he may not tell me no.. I'm the boss and what i say goes. When he's ready to speak more politely I can listen, but until then I will ignore his words. When he's whining I tell him that I have no idea what he's saying because I don't speak whinese, but if he can ask me or talk to me nicely I will be able to understand. Even if it's something he wants and I still say no I tell him I know he's sad and I know he wants XYZ, but that's not happening today. If he throws a tantrum I just ignore it and walk away. The average length of an ignored tantrum is about 2-3 minutes- if you feed into it and continue to talk to the child while they tantrum you drag it out. Then when he does speak nicely I lay on the praise super thick, "wow what nice words you're using. I really like it when you talk to me so nicely. I can understand EVERYTHING you said. I know you REALLY want to (fill in the blank) but we can't do that today because (fill in the blank), but we will get to do that another time. I know you're sad. It's hard when you have to wait, there will be other times when we can do that/ get that." BIG hug and a kiss and tell his how proud of him I am. It''s all about POSITIVE reinforcement and letting them know they are heard. I also say, " I already answered that question and the answere was (balnk). You may ask me another question, but I'm not talking about that anymore now." And then just ignore the cries and tantrum. That being said, he still tries to get away with it. And it's SO HARD not to yell and scream and throw him in timeout because he's annoying the hell out of me with the incessant whining and crying and talking back. It just takes a lot of consistency.

Nina - posted on 12/21/2011

My son is the same way. He goes to preschool but the kids in his class seem so nice! He was with the same kids last year and it was never a problem until a couple months ago. I take away toys, put him in timeout, and I've even tried soap in his mouth and nothing works! It's very frustrating (especially when we are out in public and he yells at me when I ask him not to do something!)