Jennifer - posted on 03/03/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )
Jennifer - posted on 03/03/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )
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Sandra - posted on 03/06/2012
We've always coslept with the little ones and transitioned them to their own beds when they were ready. My first and second sleep on their own full time (13 & 10). My third and fourth (6 and 4) sleep with us part time and sleep with their siblings in their shared rooms some of the time. Interestingly, my 4 year old sleeps on her own more easily than the 6 year old. They all go at their own pace!
Alison - posted on 02/16/2012
My daughter is 2 1/2 and just started sleeping in her own room about a month ago. I painted it fresh, got her new fuzzy blankets and nice sheets, and also a ladybug that lights up and puts stars on her ceiling when it is dark. It made it special for her. She loves the ladybug and knows that she can only look at the stars when she is in her own bed. Either my husband or I will lay with her in her bed until she falls asleep. We don't read books or anything because they just get her excited, we just lay quietly until she falls asleep and sometimes I rub her back. She does end up in our bed a lot of nights, but I think as long as she falls asleep in her own bed at the beginning of the night it is fine. Eventually she will grow older and just stay in her own room all night.
Laura - posted on 05/07/2010
I had someone suggest to me, back when i was first trying to get Abby to sleep in her own room to start by bringing her toddler bed into the bedroom and laying it next to my bed and making her sleep on it from then on, then SLOWLY easing it out of the bed room and into her room. Sounded good, and i've heard good things bout that approach, but Abby ended up sleeping on it in the living room for about 2 months lol, then somehow wound up back in my room...she just totally refused to let us ease it past the living room and into her room ( which, in case you hadn't guessed, is on the opposite end of the house from my room). but once we got her the "special" daybed, she was eager to make the change (even if it didn't last...which i blame more on the sleeping spot of her brother than anything) and speaking of which...if anyone has suggestions on how to get my son to stop sleeping on the floor in front of the door ( he picked that spot about a year ago when we took down the crib and put him in the toddler bed) for the first 6 months of it, we still would lay him down in his bed, tuck him in and leave, sometimes he'd even sleep for a bit in the bed, but ALWAYS wound up moving to the door, when his sister was still sleeping in there, I would even move him back to his bed when i put HER to bed (he'd be sound asleep for the move) but by morning was back at the door. finally (after almost a year of that) just gave up and moved his matress to in front of the door so at least I didnt have to worry bout spiders and what not crawlin on him with him layin on the carpet. so anyways, I would love some suggestions on how to put an end to him blocking the door all night.
Laura - posted on 05/07/2010
ha...my daughter's 5 1/2 and still sleeps in my bed...tho part of that is because she shares a room with her 2 yr old brother and he sleeps against the bedroom door (and is a light sleeper) so it's hard to get her into her room after he's gone to sleep, but anyways, she started sleeping in my bed around 2yrs old, then i finally got her to sleep in her own room from 3 1/2 to 4 years, then somehow, she wound up back in my bed again, and i'm clueless what to do. but for other parents trying to figure out how to make the initial transfer, what worked for Abby in the beginning was a special "big girl" bed (very pretty day bed) that she picked out herself. In her case, she was afraid of the dark and nightmares, so we had her grandma make it "special" to ward off the night mares. So, let them pick out their own bed if it's possible, then tell them there's something special about it (like it will keep monsters away if that's what they're afraid of at night) or just tell them it's a bed for special, big kids and they "GET" to sleep in it. It may also help if you cram yourself into the new bed for a few nights, to help with the transition.
Carla - posted on 05/05/2010
Wow! I am so sorry for all the moms having troubles with your toddlers sleeping in their own room and their own beds. Ok I will tell you my story! I read the book No cry Solutions when my daughter was just a baby and in a way it change my attitude towards the way I school my daughter. I always had bad nights for the first year and half because she would call in the middle of the night but usually it was to change her diaper and as long as I left all lights dimmed and was as quiet as possible she would go right back to sleep. When she turn 18 months I got the toddler bed and celebrated the transition with her of being a big girl and she continue to sleep in her room in her bed. Yes I remember nights that I have to continue to take her back to her bed but after a few nights I would say 3 she stopped and to this day she sleeps on her own bed with her little pillow that she has as her security blanket. I do have a routine before bed. Book with a bottle and we wash our teeth and after we pray and then she gets into her bed on her own and asks for her song which is a song we sang to her since she was a baby that is as short as 2 sentences. Trust me is not too long to do this routine and it works miracles for them. Children love Structure and routines and this makes all the difference towards sleeping on their own! Good luck everyone!
Jamie - posted on 04/29/2010
When in doubt try SUPERNANNY.COM they have a few tips for bedtime that I put into effect for my daughter. I modified it for my family. Big fan of no-cry method!!!! For starters I put her bed in my room,because she was used to being in there anyway plus didnt want her waking up the baby! I hold her hand and sit with her till she falls asleep and once shes out I just put her arm around her bear and she hugs him tight and falls the rest of the was asleep! NO TEARS!!!! Its great!
Marinda - posted on 04/29/2010
I feel the same way. And I got myself...or the baby..in a bad habbit of having to rock her to sleep. She can't, or won't just lay down and fall asleep. So every night I start at 8:30 and some times it can take up to an hour of rocking before she falls asleep. Then I bring her up to our room and she'll stay there asleep all night. But when I try to put her in her own room, eventhough she's sound asleep.. she always wakes up. I don't know how she knows !!
Edith - posted on 04/29/2010
i have the same problem. he refuse to sleep alone, at times i let him share the bed with us when he fall asleep take him to his cot but he will wake up in the middle of the night and its not everyday that you will have the strength to go back and forth you end up leaving him to have his way. i wonder when he will sleep alone willingly
Loralie - posted on 04/22/2010
Wow I'm glad it's not just us - our 2yr old daughter will happily sleep in her own room in her own bed for her day time naps - but come night it has to be our bed with the whole "cuddles" till she asleep or has "toons on.. its a nightmare but I do think half the issue is we're too soft - if we didnt cave in or could handle the tears. I blame my partner ..... it has to be someones fault :0) like I say to him I dont want a 5year old too scared to sleep in their own bed but his argument is equally true they only this little once and they are so soft to cuddle up to :0)
Marinda - posted on 04/07/2010
my daughter has been sleeping in our room...but in her own bed for over a year. She started off in our bed and that became too much so we put a toddler bed right next to our bed and it works..she sleeps all night. About 2 months or so ago I put her bed in her room and fixed the whole room up in disney princess stuff..that she loves. I tried for 2 weeks and couldn't get her to sleep more than an hour at a time. All night long..every hour she'd get up and cry and I'd put her back to bed and she'd fall asleep only to wake up all over again. After 2 weeks of me not getting any sleep I put her bed back in our room and she's slept all night long every since. I dont' even know how she knows what room she's in once she falls asleep ???
Kristin - posted on 04/05/2010
My son will only sleep with us. He was sleeping through the night fine in his crib but last summer he learned how to climb out and he did not transition well to the toddler bed. He will fall asleep in his room if someone is holding him, but will wake up within a couple of hours and come into my room into my bed. And since I have to go to work, I don't have the energy to put up a fight and bring him back into his room an go through the ordeal of putting him back to bed in there.
Triana - posted on 04/02/2010
Have you thought about putting something like a couch in her bedroom? Perhaps getting her a daybed and setting it up like a couch and seeing if she will sleep on that? If you know someone with a day bed have her try that out and see what she thinks. Just a thought
Renee - posted on 03/18/2010
I wont let her sleep on the couch at night because I am afraid she will get into everything. She usually sleeps through the night once my husband leaves the room. If she does get up, she just comes into my room and climbs in bed with us. (We put a gate up so she can't get to the living room, she knows how to open doors and I don't want her leaving the house, we have a sliding glass door that she can do like perfectly)
Jennifer - posted on 03/17/2010
SHE TAKES HER NAPS ON THE COUCH AT MY MOM'S HOUSE AND IN MY HOUSE AND NOW I LET HER SLEEP ON THE COUCH AND FOUND THAT SHE HAS BEEN SLEEPING THROUGH OUT THE NIGHT.. FOR SOME REASON SHE FINDS COMFORT ON THE COUCH SO I LEAVE HER THERE AND MAKES MY NIGHTS A LITTLE LESS STRESSFUL
Renee - posted on 03/17/2010
I have this problem too. My husband usually sleeps with her until she falls asleep then I wake him to come to bed ( i tend to our new baby). She takes her naps on the couch where she can be in the same room as us. She is afraid of missing something.