My daughter turned 2 yesterday and she still doesnt talk... should i be concerned ....

Michelle - posted on 01/11/2010 ( 37 moms have responded )

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Kara is the youngest, she has 1 9 year old brother and a 4 year old sister. Kara understands everything you tell her and is very bright but does not speak. she points . health visitor has told me not to respond quickly when she points but to repeat words like cup juice and give her it but its not helping. M y friends have kids her age and they are starting to talk in sentences...... dont know what else to do...is it just something i wait for to happen naturally when Kara is ready????

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I wouldn't be too concerned yet... Children do not adhere to the timelines we set out for them! They all do things when they are good and ready... see my post under the "Speech" thread for my daughter's story :)

Tracy - posted on 02/10/2010

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Have you contacted your states' early intervention program yet? It would be a good idea to have her evaluated if you haven't already. She may qualify for speech therapy. My son did not speak a lot of words up until now and just started saying "mama" after his second birthday. He now knows many words and phrases (although not completely understandable). It's a really good sign that your daughter understands really well. From what I was told by my pediatrician, there is more of a concern when the child has poor receptive language. I was given the same advice as you and it took a while, but eventually it paid off. Don't give up!! Good luck!!

Shannon - posted on 02/09/2010

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My son doesnt talk much either. Its bothersome because you know that they should and i have talked to numerous people about it and they all wanted to tell me the same thing...he s the 2nd child and they are always slower...hes a boy and they are slower. BS!!! It is very frustrating and i was asking the doc and she was all like yea well he says the words but not in front of her....but i told her that they are not clear. She kept telling me that hes ok for his age. I was not convinced and i think that its his ears. For the first year of his life he had a ton of ear infections...summer came and there were none. BUT i took him in a few times for a possible infection and it was noticed that he had fluid but it was able to move so she did nothing. At his two year she noticed the fluid again and we have another appointment to check again. My point is...if you dont advocate for them...who will? If it is bothering you take him in again and again...express your concern until they check it out. He may not be hearing as well as he should and that could be the problem. Your his MOM...you do know best. Things will all turn out ok. Hes NOT the only one.

Sarah - posted on 02/05/2010

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I have a 3 year old that just wont stop talking she's a chatterbox, and then a 2 year old that really doesn't say much at all. She doesn't put words together too make sentences only says single words I think that the fact that she was severely anemic when she was younger has put her behind a little but she is catching up over time. Good luck and don't worry too much they all progress at there own pace =)

KESHA - posted on 02/04/2010

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OMG IM GOING THROUGH THE SAME THANG BUT KIND DIFFERENT MY DAUGHTER SPEAKS BUT HER WORDS ARE CLEAR BUT SHE IS ALWAYS TALKING... THEY ARE WANTING HER TO SEE A SPEECH THERAPIST AND I SAY THEY SHOULD JUST GIVE HER TIME. BUT I HAVE A LIL BROTHER WHO JUST TURNED 3 ON THE 17 OF JANUARY AND HE JUST STARTED TALKING SEPT LAST YEAR... I THINK THAT BABIES NEED TIME TO DEVELOPE CAUSE SOME CAN DEVELOPE FASTER THEN OTHERS.

Michelle - posted on 02/01/2010

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thanks everyone for your comments and help. Kara has now been referred to a speech therapist so just a case of waiting for an appointment. she is nwe becoming very frustrated and angry when trying to communicate with us cos we dont know what she wants but is ok when she can show us but when she cant she gets very upset.

Lisa - posted on 01/22/2010

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It is hard not to compare your children I know, because that just comes naturally. You are not saying one is better than the other, you are just comparing. That said, if your dr isnt supporting you you dont have to wait for him to refer you to help. My dr told me to wait, but I knew that he should be talking. At 18 mos I had the program in my state (CT) come out to the house and evaluate him. It is all free.

Stephanie - posted on 01/22/2010

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She may be nervous or shy. I've heard of other children doing that, I think you should make her some play dates with other talking children her age and if it doesnt help in 6 months or so talk to your dr about a speach therapist, or she may have a hearign problem.

Christy - posted on 01/21/2010

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I noticed at 16m that my daughter wasn't talking yet. So I found a local agency that could help Called Early Intervention. It's government run so its a free service. Every 2 weeks or so a speech therapist comes out and works with her and does activities. And it has made all the difference. My daughter will be turning 2 in 2 days and she can now say many many words. So google local early intervention companies in your area and set something up. She may be fine, but my policy is always better safe then sorry. I'd rather take care of it early so there's not an even bigger problem later. Good Luck

Lea - posted on 01/21/2010

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It does sound to me like she has a speech delay since she understands things. Does she say no words at all??? Look at the guidelines for how many words she is supposed to be saying. Maybe you can start playing games with her that require her to talk more. Girls usually talk sooner than boys so this is a little weird.

Jenni - posted on 01/21/2010

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my son lucas just turned 2 on the 1st and he is saying a few words but i would not be to concerned because my 8 yr old did not talk till he was 3. so it is not a big deal. just keep repeating what she is pointing at and she will start to talk. i have a niece who is not even 2 yet and she drinks from a big girl cup and is almost potty trained and she is starting to say sentences. ur little girl will talk when she is ready to. so don't worry.

Lisa - posted on 01/19/2010

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My son will be 2 next week and he still isnt talking either. Same as yours he points and says ga or ah alot!! He understands everything and is very bright as well. One reason that I believe he is not talking is because he has his older brother to talk for him all the time. His dr told me to wait to call for help, but I didnt listen to him, and I called birth to three about 4 mos ago. They came and evaluated him and almost didnt accept him, but then I just mentioned that my husband was a late talker and that I had speech therapy also. They said that would qualify him for help. If you have never heard of birth to three, It is free and they come to my house once a week. They are really nice. Its worth a try to help promote her speech.

Quintessa - posted on 01/17/2010

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im struggling with the same problem but reading the replies helped and stay prayed up it will be fine

Ashley - posted on 01/17/2010

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I would just like to say that where your child is at is developmentally right for her age. No child is the same and therefore should not be compared to others. Since your child can understand what you say and if she follows simple directions then I do not think that it is a hearing issue. My observation would be, given that you have older children, is she does not feel the need to talk because her needs are being met in other ways. Do you or your older children do alot for her or provide a need, before she has the chance to ask. 2 year olds are a lot smarter then people think, i know i have one, and alot of times when there are older children in the house a young child will use that to their advantage. My advice would be to give her the opportunity to speak. Ask her questions and encourage her to answer. Have her repeat what you say and ask her to use her words to tell you. Ask your older children to do the same with her. Try not to push her to a frustrational level, that will only push to keep quiet more and most importantly dont give up she will get there. she will learn that she cant always depend on others to communicate for her.

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My (younger) brother had a big sister who always spoke for him. He was (is?) incredibly intelligent, and had no need to speak for himself! Just keep asking her "Don't point, tell me in words", and praising the other children when they give you good communication. Kara will soon get the idea that this is how the world works - and her first utterances will be perfect, long sentences, just like my brother's.

Jennifer - posted on 01/16/2010

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my daughter just turned 2 on january 1st and she doesnt talk either and i dont now what to do but my doctors are checkin her hearing and if thats not the problem then he is going to put her in speech therapy so dont worry take her to a dr or let her talk on her own

Stacey - posted on 01/16/2010

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Trust your instincts, Michelle! I work mainly w/ children ages 0-3 yrs. old as a speech-language pathologist. An early intervention speech therapist would be a great person to work with you and your daughter to discover specific learning strategies Kara may benefit from at this point in time. Based on your brief explanation, it sounds like your child would qualify for services if she is 2 and not talking at this point in time. Children should be using 50-150 single words by the age of 2.

Appropriate services for children 0-21 yrs. old with delays and disorders are mandated by law. Therefore, if you don't have insurance, your state typically funds the services. If you do have insurance, there is usually a sliding fee scale to help defer the cost, but every state's payment may be different. You can look into your state/county early intervention program or ask the pediatrician for a referral/contact info. The evaluation is usually free.

Early intervention services (i.e. speech therapy in Kara's case) usually occurs in your home (i.e. natural environment) at a convenient time for your family. Every child is so different. So, it is really important to find out what YOUR daughter needs by a certified speech language pathologist. Regardless of what some may say, research is clear that children do not acquire language late because they have older siblings (i.e. "talking for them"). Unfortunately, this type of incorrect old wives tail only contributes to frustration for the child and delays in accessing services early - when they are the most important!

Sounds like you are doing a fabulous job modeling routine words (i.e. eat, milk, water, up, read, etc.). Keep up the great work! Highlighting animal sounds and singing simple, routine songs with hand gestures are other great strategies (i.e. Itsy Bitsy Spider, Wheels on the Bus, Happy and you Know it, Monkey jumping on the Bed, etc) to encourage sound and word imitation. Sound and word imitation are building blocks to using single words.

Hope this helps. Good luck w/ everything!

Melissa - posted on 01/16/2010

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My daughter will be two on Tuesday from what I have been told they should have close to 150 words by this age. You don't have to get a referral from a doctor or anything just call early intervention. They will help her with her speech. Although she is bright this may cause fits and behavior issues mainly because she cannot voice what she is feeling. Although this isn't personally my issue I have heard of it before my babysitters son and my co-worker had the same issue. You may qualify for free preschool at an early age as well do to the speech issues. Find an early intervention center in your area they can guide you! Good Luck I hope all works out well.

Christine - posted on 01/16/2010

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My daughter's turning 2 at the end of this month. Just like your baby, she's also very clever and witty. And we're having the same thing, I don't think it's a problem. Pediatrician said that as long as she can express herself, there's nothing to worry about. Baby's just taking her time. And if this can comfort you, I even had a cousin who never talked until she reached her 4 years old.

Elizabeth - posted on 01/16/2010

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My son will be 2 end of this month and has just started to talk. For his age, he is way behind. Like your daughter, he can understand anything and follow directions, but does not use words properly to communicate. We have gotten a service called EDIS to come work with him on a bi-weekly basis. They have calmed my fears abotu anything being truly "wrong" with him and are also helping us to set goals for him, give us tips on how to help him communicate, etc. In 2 months he has gone from using one word to using over 30. I definitely suggest getting someone to evaluate you daughter. Take her to her doctor and have him give you suggestions for free services. He will also advise you to have her hearing checked out first and foremost.
I'm sure that in a few months, she will be all caught up on her own and talking just like her peers. But just for your sake and peace of mind, get her checked out.

Lisa - posted on 01/16/2010

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My little boy was 2 last Sunday, and although he can understand everything we say (from can you put that in the bin please to help mummy tidy up your cars), he still isn't talking. He can say the odd word (mamma, dadda, nanna) and amazed me yesterday when he said 'down' when he was at the table....he constantly babbles as if he's trying talk, however, the frustration is coming through because he's screaming when he wants something etc etc..... Anyway, I've started going down to his level and telling him to stop screaming, and to show mummy what he wants. I have noticed since I've been doing that that he's trying to form words. However, when I take him for his 2 year check, I am going to mention it to the HV (I'm lucky, I have an excellent one), and I'm sure she'll get the ball rolling... failing that, a visit to our wonderful GP should suffice! Its all new to me as my eldest was talking at 10 months!!!!! Hey ho, all children are different, so I'll just go with the flow and do everything I possibly can to help him get there. Good luck to everyone in the same boat and thank God for sites like this where you realise your child is not the only one!

Corry - posted on 01/15/2010

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I agree with Katie, the doctor is a great place to go! It looks to me like she feels she doesn't have to speak in order to get what she wants. She has two older siblings and they more than likely give in and get her whatever she is pointing to. It is extremely common for toddlers to do that! I've got 2 kids, my little girl just turned 2 on the 7th, and we had to teach her (the hard way) to use words when she wants something! It only took a week of us ignoring her screaming and pointing, we told her what to say when she wanted something and if she didn't say it then we didn't pay attention!
I also agree that teaching her sign language is a very good idea! My nephew wasn't able to speak until he was around 4 or 5 years old, due to a disability called Apraxia of Speech In Children. He's now 7, and he can finally speak clearly!

Sibrina - posted on 01/15/2010

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My 2 year old is pretty much the same however she has recently started tryning to say more and more different words I too was very worried but it seems as though she just chose to take her time she understands everything but will only say certain things if she wants too if I try 2 get her to repeat somethig she just refuses but sometimes I can get her to say it its funny she will say anything my 12 year old tells her too so I would give her a little more time if I were you some kids just do things at their own pace hope that helps some :)

Mary - posted on 01/15/2010

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my daughter will be two on the 23 as well. we started teaching her sign language. she did not speak at all. she would throw a tantrum every time you asked her a question. she would rather refuse the two choices givent than even try to make a sound or word. she was up to a dozen signs. we did signs for more, please thank you and a bunch of other ones an she did great. well i ended up in hospital for four days because of her anemia.. i thought she was slow in developing and apparently her iron levels were stunting brain development. she has progressed an entire year in the last three months. first with signs then words. try getting her to imitate animal sounds. make sounds ur main thing. i remember just recently sarina started with 'lello and purble' she would walk all over the house repeating these fun sounds. they will talk when ready. i have sarina registered at the speech therapist but my suggestion would be to introduce sign language if she is resistant to learning hoe to speak.. sarina was and is the stubbornest kid when it comes to learning things. but signing and rewarding her when she did it right really helped alot. you start by doing it hand over hand. signing yourself first and then taking and doing it with her hands. rewarding her because she 'did it' and then next time show and help her if she attempts.. hope this helps

Katie - posted on 01/15/2010

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My son is about to be 2 on the 23rd and He dose not speek either. Hes verry smart and verry selective on what he says. as longs as she is responding to what you say i would not worry... but if your scrared the doctor is a great place to go they will help set you up with a speech person.

Chrissy - posted on 01/15/2010

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It's going to take some time even in speech but it does help. A 18 months my son didn't speak at all. They started with some simple sign language like more, milk, and some others the added some sounds with that. He can now say a few words. Just keep pushing the doctors to help you!

Michelle - posted on 01/15/2010

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hi chrissy, i am due to take her back again this thursday and i am not leaving without proper help. they did say a few months ago she would be put on the speech therapy list if shes the same when she turns 2 but they were certain she would be talking away by now but shes not. im just soo frustrated cos ive tried everything, books, flash cards, i repeat things all the time etc

Chrissy - posted on 01/15/2010

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Don't let them bully you! Push for testing to find out why she is not talking. I did for my son that will be 2 at the end of the month and he is now in speech therapy. It is helping but he still only says a few words so it takes time.

Jenny - posted on 01/15/2010

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Don't worry too much. I have 3 children and my first hardly said anything at the age of 2 but my youngest (just 2) speaks in sentences. They are all different and they all level out in the end. Try not to worry and don't beat yourself up about what other children are doing!

Michelle - posted on 01/14/2010

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hi all many thanks to you all for the help, my 9 year old son had hearing probs as a child and had to get grommits put in his ears. however he talked but just didnt pronounced his words properly...he pronounced them the way he heard them cos of the liquid in his ears. My daughter who is 4 the now was a fluent talker at 18 months. My youngest however clearly hears everything i say to her but just refuses to talk and ive been to a health advisor 4 months ago for help and was told i am comparing my 2 year old to my 4 year old and im very upset cos thats not what i meant to do. im due to go back now but scared they will just accuse me of comparing my youngest to her big sister again!!!!!

Bobbi - posted on 01/14/2010

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My son turns 2 on Saturday. He does use some words regularly, but he tends to babble alot. I did have him checked out...but my doctor told me, as I already knew, that if he's babbling, he's fine at this age. While we all want our kids to be able to talk at an early age, I think it's better to let them be kids! I agree with guiding them to talk, and expecting them to at least try, but I miss the days when my 2 older kids talked like that...so I refuse to rush him this time, instead I will bask in the glory that is my son's incoherent babbling for just a little while longer! Good luck!

Louise - posted on 01/13/2010

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my eldest daughter had this problem and was refered to speech therapy, but by the time we got an appointment 2 months later she had started, only 60 words but that was a huge improvement. she is just about to turn 3 and has almost caught up with other children her age, so try not to worry

Amanda - posted on 01/11/2010

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My son does not talk other than a few choice words IE momma,dadda,no,stinky very few. He's had allot of set backs and ear infections out the ying yang! Back in August he went in and had the surgery to put tubes in his ears as well as remove his adnoids. He still is not talking but he is jibber jabbering which he never used to do and he is about to begin going back to speech therapy once a week. If it is something you are concerned about i would definatley discuss it and push the issue with your pedi. Most likely they will send you for an audiology test and/or to an ear nose and throat dr. Remember, your mommy and you know best! Our previous pedi refused to refer us for further testing and ignored it and after much research we found ourselves another (and IMO better) pedi. I hope this helps and I hope you get things figured out!!

-Amanda (Mommy to Jessica Nicole-6yrs and Elzie Joe III-2 yrs)

April - posted on 01/11/2010

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It could be that you and your other kids understand her well enough that she doesn't need to talk. I know of many stories like that. But you are obviously concerned about it so I would recommend you check into the birth to 3 program in your area. This is a federal program that provides therapies for kids up to 3 y/o, at no cost to families, for children who need them.

Lisa - posted on 01/11/2010

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I agree with the other moms. If Kara understands, there could be other reasons why she's not talking. Often it's just better to have them checked out....to discount other reasons.

My 9 year old wasn't even babbling by 18 months. I had him reviewed and he had some therapy for about a year. Nothing big. Just needed extra help to get him started!

Keep us posted on what you find out.

Rhonda - posted on 01/11/2010

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When my son was 2, he didn't have the required vocab for that age. What we did then was have his hearing tested by an ENT. This helped! What showed was that he did not have ear infection, but lots of fluid around his ear drum which made him hear like everyone was talking underwater, and therefore, couldn't annunciate words accordingly. He was scheduled for tubes in the ears, the correct medical term I don't remember, and his language came quickly after that. I am finding our daughter who is 2, to be the same way, and am waiting for a specialist appointment soon...hope this helps...I would be seeing the family dr. and recommend a hearing test.

Kimberly - posted on 01/11/2010

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my yungest just turned two yesterday too. happy birthday kara! i think if your worried have someone check her out. my oldest was talking as good as three year olds by 18 months. and my yongest is talking alot! not as good as my 1st. but verry well i think. she dose talk in sentences. and will say anything you ask her to say. sorry your youngest isn't. i hope you are able to see things turn around soon.

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