Potty Training

Alysen - posted on 08/04/2010 ( 29 moms have responded )

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My daughter Amara has NO desire to potty train! I've tried making it a game and bribing... now what? My son was SO easy.

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Melissa - posted on 12/14/2010

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My daughter is almost 3 (in January) and has been potty trained since she was 28 months. I worked with her while i was on maternity leave from work. I let her run around with out a diaper or pants and put her potty in the living room where she spent most of her time. I also set a timer and every 30 min. it would go off and she sat for at least 5 min reading books and singing songs. When she went potty she got a sticker on a chart. When the chart was full, we went to the store and she got to pick out a new book. As the days went on i slowly made the chart bigger and the time between longer so she had to go potty more often before getting the reward. Once she got the hang of going potty when she felt she had to go, she only got stickers when she was dry and went on the potty.
Once she was in training pants, she had to keep them dry for 3 weeks with no accidents then we could go to the store and she could pick out another book and her own pack of big girl undies. She was very excited about that and was fully (except at night) potty trained before starting back at daycare after my 6 week leave.

I also happen to work in Child Care with 21/2-3 years olds. So I see potty training all the time. We use the same timer technique there as i did at home. It is very useful becasue after a few times the kids remember that when they hear that sound, it is time to go sit and try again.
A very important thing to remember if your child is in day care or babysitter or even grandparents for the day or few hours. Keep communication open. Make sure to talk about how you do potty training at home and what techniques you use and find helpful and not so helpful so your childs caregiver can use the same as you are at home. that will help make your childs potty training much more successful and less stressful on your child. Ask the caregiver to let you know if they found something that seems to work or not work with your child also. NEVER force your child to start potty training, as that could turn them off of the potty training process and delay things. Let them work at their own pace.

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Maria - posted on 01/10/2011

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I know the feeling my son will be 3 tomorrow and he wont go enless there is a man around and during the day it is just him and I what am I suppose to do?

Sara - posted on 01/08/2011

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i started potty training my daughter when she was 15 months old, that didnt go well, i tired the little potty chair and she would go in it but mostly just in her panties so i gave up. i was tired of cleaning pee out of the carpet. we kept trying and still same results. so i pretty much gave up saying shell do it when shes ready i cant really push this. one day in august/september 2010 i decided to try again and she got it. i had put away her little potty chair and just had a seat to go on the big potty and a stool.
the first week i hid the dipers and had special big girl panties (pull ups) she only wore them when we went to town, we live 30 mins from town, and at night. the 2nd week only pull ups at night, by the 3rd week she wanted to wear panties to bed so i let her and shes never had an accident. shes gonna be 3 on the 16th. so it took a while for us. but i just started way to early.

Torrie - posted on 12/27/2010

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yes please help.... my two year old almost three lil boy will do it for about two days then give up. he wont tell me when he needs to potty and when we catch him getting ready to he screams and runs away,

Amy - posted on 12/08/2010

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Tyler has some special needs, and that combined with his strong personality, I just knew that if Potty Learning was AT ALL important to me, he would never train. So I gave up. I really thought he would train over the summer, but he didn't. Then this fall/early winter he started stripping off all his clothes all the time. So I just stuck the little potty out in the living room on a towel for him to use whenever he needed to go. I think the biggest problem Ty and I were having was that when I was encouraging him to go potty I would sit him on it. He prefers to stand to pee. I never would have guessed that. So when he's home and naked, he uses it. When we are out and about, he wears a diaper and is ok with that too. I feel like we're making progress at his pace, which isn't the same pace *I* would like to be at, but that's ok :)

Knedra - posted on 12/07/2010

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Might sound mean (dont mean it to ) tell her to go toilet dont ask ! ! If she wets it wont last long cause they hate the wet feeling .

But really why would they go toilet when they have conveniant nappys and traing pants

Knedra - posted on 12/07/2010

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The best advise i have is ...Once you take the nappys off go straight to undies DONT put nappys back on ! ! They learn cause they dont like the wet feeling

Rebecca - posted on 11/06/2010

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hi all my daughter will be 3 in jan i ave been potty training for about 6 wks now ... when i ask her if she wants to go she says no but if i sit her on the potty she will go iam i dong something wrong .. or not please help ... xxx

Samara - posted on 11/05/2010

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My girls one is almost 3 and the other just turned two are both potty trained. I just gave them M&Ms every time they used the potty and at the end of the week bought them a surprise. Now they are wonderful with it, barely have any accidents and sleep in big girl panties!

Amy - posted on 11/04/2010

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well...I've just resolved to advice from a friend of mine who runs a daycare: "when she's ready, she'll do it." UGH! (that's from me! :) )

Heather - posted on 11/03/2010

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My daughter had a bit of a relapse when her new baby brother came, and we've been fighting with her ever since. Recently I tried a new approach. She like Disney Princess, so i bought several "princess Items. When she gets up in the morning if she goes potty she can wear a "princess shirt" if she refuses then she has to wear a "non princess shirt" This works with spoons and cups, she has to go potty before each meal, and Pajamas to potty before bed. As the weather cools i intend to get her a princess jacket and more. It does seem to have made an improvement.

Tai - posted on 11/03/2010

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im having the same problem...we are doing a game and a reward system and its still not working. i can get her to use the potty only half the time and thats only when i MAKE her sit on it! sorry im not much help but at least you know you are not alone:) good luck!

Nikki - posted on 10/17/2010

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there is a 3 day potty training system i think i can email it to u. my daughter had no desire at all and i started this and with in 2 days she was doing #2 in the potty it was great!!! if you want me to try send me a message i can't always find my way back here

Stacey - posted on 10/16/2010

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i have twin girls and both mines were fine with a pee on the toilet but amy just would now poop so i sat down on the floor beside her and gave her a cuddle and she went now she asks for a cuddle all the time though lol

Amy - posted on 10/11/2010

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I know what you mean!!! She goes pee pee no problem. Poop, well, she flat out told me she won't do it. I've tried making it a game, rewarding behavior, spanking her, making her clean it up herself - she does not care. Yesterday she pooped in her pants twice. I was so mad and frustrated, that I went outside, picked up some landscaping rocks and smashed them on the ground with all my might. Can't wait til she's a teenager! :)

Corisande - posted on 10/11/2010

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Hi there, I can see why you are trying to get Amara potty trained... with the twin on the way. I don't even know why I first looked up your profile.. I now know why I had to.. My neighbor has one daughter and twin boys. They are already quite some older. Amara is just a few days older then my son Justen, who I recently potty trained. The is how me and my neighboor got to potty training conversation. She told me how she desperately tried to get her daughter potty trained and without her pacifier before the arrival of the twins... and nothing worked. She tried everything, but no luck pretty frustrating she told me. Especially when her daughter decided to be the big sister when the twin had arrived. the day they were born her daughter refused diapers and had thrown her pacifiers in the bin! And my neighbour thought: NOT NOW!! Please.. but in the end all worked out. So in their own time, they'll be ready for it.

Amy - posted on 10/07/2010

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Thanks for all the great advice! I've just resorted to my daughter cleaning up her own poopoo accidents, and she'll go poop on the potty when she's ready....I've tried ALL of your suggestions: stickers on the potty, special underwear as a reward., snack rewards, etc. She has come right out and told me that she will NOT go potty on the toilet. She's also told me "next time I'll go poo poo on the toilet. TOTALLY FRUSTRATING!

Sheena - posted on 10/07/2010

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I have no other ideas, just want to offer encouragement. Mine potty train very early but have to. Their acid content is so strong it burns, so we have never had a problem.

Estelle - posted on 10/07/2010

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Hi all I started potty training my daughter when se was 1y and 8months. She did sit on her potty but was hard. I got a tip from my mom. Start training them with a bag of toffees. Thy will then start doing there business in the potty and if thy do thy may get a toffee as a reword. Then after a few weeks u stop giving them toffees. My daughter is now off nappies and I’m very happy he is sleeping thru the night with out wetting her bed. But be carful do not give them any thing to drink before thy go to bed
Hope it will work for you 2

Sharon - posted on 10/07/2010

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My son is very funny about the potty training thing. First off he won't use a potty, he has to use the big boy toilet. He did well when I started training him 9 months ago, but he still isn't fully trained yet. Most days he will go #2 on the toilet but getting him to pee is a different story. If you ask if he needs to go, he says "already did" meaning he went in his diaper or pull up. He has definitely taken a step backwards since his little brother arrived, so I am hoping he gets back in the swing of it soon. I have now started to let him choose stickers and put them on a piece of paper on the fridge when he goes!

Amy - posted on 09/09/2010

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I set a whole day dedicated to just me & my daughter to go on the potty. I began by giving her lots of liquids. Then, after about 20-30 minutes, sat her on the toilet. I had a stack of books, and I just read to her, talked with her, while she sat on the toilet. This took some time...and finally she went. we then celebrated. I repeated the liquids and again sat her on the toilet, read to her, etc. took most of the day, but it got her on the road to going potty.

Mary - posted on 09/01/2010

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hello, I had lots of trouble potty training with my daughter and took like a year and a half! With my son I decided not to push until he was ready and he started to go to the toilet, so I showed him the potty and his sister showed him what to do on it. He didn't like sitting on it to begin with, but we persevered with it, in his time, and he then just went straight into big boy pants and only had a few accidents. we decided not to go down the treat route or bribing him to do it, because that is teaching him bad habits and only do something to something back. He is now going to nursery and am slightly nervous about him having accidents there, but have put in some changes of clothes and the nursery handle this sort of thing brilliantly from when my daughter used too have accidents. Just let them do it in there own time, don't get stressed wither as that puts pressure on them and causes problems. just relax and have fun, it will all happen in good time!

Pamela - posted on 08/28/2010

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HELLO ! heheh I started my son on the 2nd of Jan and like Amanda said he did really well day 6 and we were having just one accident a day since then Ive started back at work he has been sick a few times and has started daycare. after trying and trying I am now taking a step back and letting him decide! he doesn't talk very well so unless I remember to take him he wouldn't normally go. now he is in pullups and some days he will come and tell me and others days he wont some days he will try to take himself other days he wont, I was always against pullups but if it means more stress for us Im willing to go with it. I do wish he would hurry up
, I still encourage him and if he does something good its a big high five aren't you a big boy ! but generally he doesn't give a SHITE about being a big kid it don't matter to him and until he does I think Im fighting a loosing battle he will get there ! end of September we have a long weekend so Im going to try my best to encourage him that we do poos and wees on the potty. We will also be working with his little brother who is 17 months and is telling us when he needs to go already.

He does really well at daycare and when we are out and about but at home its a no go zone as he knows he can just poo or wee in his undies and mummy will clean it up ( although for a few months now he has had to help us clean up )

Calina - posted on 08/25/2010

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I'm having the same issue. My son has already figured it's much easier to potty in his pull-up than actually going to the pot. It doesn't help that his home reinforcement is little more limited than daycare, since he gets home kind of late from school and usually its bedtime, but I'm just wanting suggestions to make it more interesting for him. Candy and things like that I try not to use because he'll be dependent on it, I made a song to sign, but now he just sings it whether he's actually used the pot or not ;) -- THIS IS MY FIRST TIME, so I'd like some "Vet" tactics to try out :)

Amanda - posted on 08/25/2010

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We started potty training our son after the 4th of July! He did really well in the begining but now he only does it when he wants candy or when me or my husband go into the bathroom and have to go too!

Megan - posted on 08/20/2010

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You could reinforce positive influences by inviting her in whenever you go to the bathroom and make it a potty party. Playdates with other friends who have made the transition kind of go in that same vein - "Wow, look at the cool potty chair Xyz has! She must be using the potty!" You coud also go the naturist route (if you live in a warm climate) and let her run around with no pants, then direct her to the potty when she starts to go.

Bethany - posted on 08/06/2010

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i need help on this subject too. i have twins and 1 of them is just not getting the hang of it at all. my other 1 is very good, i think she will be off nappies soon. i was kind of hopeing that my other 1 would copy her sister, but she is not. it is very very hard going. i know how u feel.

Marline - posted on 08/05/2010

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I took stickers of my son's fav Ben 10 and decorated the potty and it worked :-) or maybe try buying one of those small seats that fit inside the pan and see if she will budge, if she does'nt then dont worry it will happen, children do things at their own pace.

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