19 month old having Troubles with development...Need some advice.

Carla - posted on 10/08/2010

My daughter is 20 months nd was 4 weeks early and didn't start walking till 19 months, I too was worried she hadnt started walking but they will on there on time. Is she holding on and walking? She doesnt talk much yet either. She says a couple of words only. If you still have concerns talk to your doctor or find another.

Jane - posted on 10/06/2010

get a new pediatrian. if the one you have isn't answering your concerns, they either aren't educated on this and they should be or they aren't responsive to your concerns and they should be.

Katrina - posted on 10/02/2010

I see from your posts you went back to the doctor. I was concerned from your initial post because it does indicate some delay in her development. My son is small too and slow to gain weight, a picky eater - but his dad is too. My second is 7 months and 19lbs already, my fisrt was 19lbs at age 1, so they are all different, but I am glad the docs have picked it up. I hope they are helpful and sensitive to your concerns!

Tami - posted on 09/30/2010

So glad you got answers and hope it has eased your heart & mind!? I hope she gains weight on the pedia sure.

La - posted on 09/29/2010

My daughter was not meeting language, cognitive, or social milestomes by her first birthday so we discussed it with her doctor and he referred us to Early Intervention services. They evaluated our daughter and she now receives occupational therapy twice a week to help develop the areas she is lacking in. I live in NJ so I don't know if other states have Early Intevention services also, but I would assume they at least have something comparable. Good Luck.

Tiana - posted on 09/29/2010

Thanks for your feed back. I also have a almost 3 year old daughter who she is around, so I would figure that helps but it hasn't much. She has a few appointments set up for this month for her speech and a few other specialists appointments. So we will see what they say, I just hope I can get some answers, she may just need an extra boost in meeting all her milestones.

Shiloh - posted on 09/24/2010

my 20 month old has just really started "talking" he didn't really say much until he was in day care for a while n then i think he just picked stuff up. I am no doctor but i would see someone about the standing and stuff. being premature might have a lil to do with everything. just keep an eye out. try reading more and making play dates for her.

Tiana - posted on 09/21/2010

Well we took her in to the new pediatrician today and we gave him our concerns. Sure enough she is way way off the charts for her weight,height, and head circumference. She weighs 15.5 pounds! Which is way to small for her age. He showed some concern but the main concern he had is that her head was so small and not growing as much as it should be, he said because of that, their is need for concern so it wasn't just me being worried. He said he wants us to give her pediasure and to come back in a month to see if shes made any progress on growth and weight if not he is going to set up some appointments and tests so we can find out what exactly is wrong with her and why shes not growing. So October 22nd we go back in to see him, hopefully we can get some more answers than.

Angel - posted on 08/31/2010

Please let us know what the new Ped has to say!! I hope all goes well for you.

Crystal - posted on 08/30/2010

Go see another Pediatrician, and continue to do so until someone is willing to do some testing. At that size, with developmental delays, I would be concerned. Best of luck!

Rachael - posted on 08/29/2010

Find a different pediatrician--ask your friends for recommendations. Your baby may need some early intervention, which you should be able to get for free (they can help her learn skills she is having difficulty with). My baby was also 5 weeks premature. He also stopped gaining weight for about 3 months. I added fats to his diet: butter, olive oil, and whole milk yogurt (not the lite or 2% fat yogurt) made a difference. I made pancakes with banana and cottage cheese added in and put melted butter on them and sugar-free syrup when he wanted it. I made rice pudding by cooking rice until very soft, then adding butter, milk, cinnamon and brown sugar and sometimes some egg and cooking it until it was thick but soft. He gained 2 pounds eating lots of these things. Contact your local birth to three organization or call the local hospital for recommendations for pediatricians and other resources. Or your local Planned Parenthood, daycare centers, Human Services Department (where you get foodstamps, etc.) would all have information for you.... Go with your instinct that your baby might need some assistance and find out now, before her opportunity to meet milestones or gain weight becomes more difficult or impossible.

Tiana - posted on 08/29/2010

She's not progressing at all as far as walking or standing, she will stand on her own holding on to stuff but never has tried to get up on her feet without the help or support of an object. I can get her to stand alone by holding her hands and than slowly letting go ounce she gets her balance but she only stands for a minute or so than sits down never longer. Her talking she seems like she progresses some but still no actual words its more like a 6 month old cues pretty much. And as far as her wieght she hasnt gained in over 6 months or so, I mean shes tiny prepared to most children her age height wise seems maybe about right but her weight just seems way under to me, but I don't know could just be that she was premature as most say. She only weighs 16 almost 17 lbs. and most even preemies her age are at least at there 20-22 mark in weight by now. But she has an appointment the 8th of September(was the soonest they could get a new patient in) with a new pediatrician so hopefully I will get some answers.

Thanks for all the feed back.

Sarah - posted on 08/29/2010

I would also find a doc that will answer your questions! Alot of times 2nd children do things slower but sometimes there are problems too! Is she regressing or just not progressing?

Jerica - posted on 08/29/2010

my 19 month old son was born 6 weeks early. my best advice is to talk to your pediatritian. most preemies catch up with the peers (the ones that arrived at their due dates) by their 2nd birthday. my son walks, and is saying a few words. but every child develops differently. if your pediatritian shows any concern, i'd go with them and what they suggest. such as seeing a specialist.
good luck

Liz - posted on 08/27/2010

Tiana,
I also have a 19 month old that was a premie also... She does talk a little and walk and all but my son on the other hand was really slow at talking. He was quick on physical things but speech is still an issue he is almost three and my daughter probably out talks him.. You daughter could have the same thing its a stran of autism. Really go get another ped. and talk to them because it gives you a little easy at mind but also if is a ped like mine they well give you the support centers that can help you with all of it :) Have you ever heard the saying " The longer your baby crawls the smarter he/she will be:)" Good luck with everything!

Melissa - posted on 08/27/2010

I'm gald to hear that you are changing doctors and if the new one won't answer you questions in a manner that leaves you without worry find yet another doctor. I can't say much about the walking/talking since my daughter walked at 12 months but she also wasn't premature. I think the best thing would be to find a good pediatrician and get a real answer. It may be just late blooming but it may not so you need to get answers and don't settle until you are satisfied

Tami - posted on 08/27/2010

add this to my previous comment. Also if you are concerned about weight try carnation instant breabfast as a daily suppliment to help her gain weight. but again this isnt something to truely worry about in a premature child just make sure they stay within the right percentile of their age group, but they do tend to be on the smaller side most of their lives me daughter is now 5ft 7in and 120 lbs all through school she was accused of having an eating disorder and she ate 24/7 she just grazes instead of eating big meals. I was concerned about her weight as well and fortunately had an awesome pediatrician who put my mind to rest and said if I was concerned about her eating just to leave snacks at her level (walker tray, coffee table and so on) so that if she was hungary she could get to them

Tami - posted on 08/27/2010

Premature babies tend to devolop at a slower pace than other children, my youngest was premature. 2nd children also develop slower than 1sts because you are more singularly focused on a 1st child so they tend to develope faster. also have you watched the interaction with your other child? I had 2 girls who were very close in age and my youngest didnt do anything for herself because the odest did everything for her! even talking, she would point or make hand gestures and the oldest child jumped to get or do whatever she needed, she didnt start talking right away but i knew the oldest child understood the gibberish and even as she got older and was saying words the oldest would still translate to whomever was listening and this became a pattern until we put a stop to it gradually by making the youngest have to get what she wanted or ask for it, It truely wouldnt hurt to get a second opinion but I wouldnt be too concerned or stressed out about it because children devolop at their own pace and in different ways the trick is to learn not to compare, you are judging your 2nd childs developement to the 1st and its never the same : )

Tiana - posted on 08/26/2010

Thank you for your reply, my oldest didn't walk full on until she was around 16 months, that's why I wasn't so worried till now. I will be looking for another pediatrician this week so hope I can get answers soon.

Joanna - posted on 08/26/2010

My 19 month old doesn't talk real good either,she can say a few things. She says "kitty, dog, oh no, da, mum, get, stop. But for the not walking yet, I would take her to a different doctor and I would continue to take her to different doctors until I got an answer. I only have two kids but I have lots of kids in the family and worked at a daycare and have never seen any one go past 14 months without walking. some kids are just late bloomers.

Laura - posted on 08/25/2010

I think maybe the best thing for you to do is to see someone about these problems especially about the walking, standing and weight situation! My daughter is 19 months old and she doesnt really talk much either ive read by alot of mums on here that its quite normal ! i hope you can get some professional advice soon and it all works out for you and your little girl. good luck!