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Heather - posted on 10/02/2010 ( 27 moms have responded )

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What age should I take the blankie away? My son never took a paci but needs his blankie at bedtime only. He is 21 mos old.

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April - posted on 10/01/2011

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Why do you need to take it away? I can't forsee a scenario where he will be taking it to college with him and if he does, the peer pressure will surely cause him to stop sleeping with it. I think people worry too much about these things. Kids outgrow things in their time and it's not hurting him. I have an 8 year old daughter who still likes her blanket that she's had since a baby she sleeps under it at night but she doesn't carry it around during the day. My 7 year old has a stuffed animal she sleeps with. I'm waiting to see if and what my 16 month old might get attached to. In my opinion, having a security item is great for traveling and going to grandma's. It's seems to make them feel at home wherever they are. I wouldn't worry about it.

Liz - posted on 09/26/2011

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i found a great way of getting rid of the bankie in a painless way, for a while before u are going to want to take it cut about an inch off all the way round once or twice a week until it gets so small that u can attach it to a keyring, i did this with mt 14 year old she still has her bit of blankie

Martha - posted on 10/05/2010

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my son would only take a pacifier for first 3 months then he started sucking on any soft blanket he edventually narrowed it down to one ,i had to buy him another that was the same and it took a week for him to accept that one too. he sucks on it before bed and nap tme and during the day wen he needs down time-the sucking thing i think is weird so does everyone else but he likes it.

Melissa - posted on 10/05/2010

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My son is about the same age and him and blankie are pretty much inseparable (though he has quite a few different ones - they're all just as special to him). I think that for comfort things like that you should let the child give them up in their own time. Often forcing a child to give up something that gives them comfort will cause more problems later on; they may regress in other areas where they don't have problems now etc.

Stephanie - posted on 10/05/2010

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My son has a special stuffed bunny he likes to keep with him, he's 20 months old now and we simply tell him that Bunny can't go everywhere he goes because Bunny might get lost or hurt. We allow him to bring his bunny to his grandparents' houses and on car rides, but if we're going into a store or restaurant or something we tell him that Bunny needs to wait in the car. Sometimes he gets a little upset, but usually he lets Bunny take a nap in the car and wait for him. I don't plan on taking it away from him, he'll give it up in his own time (just like he did with the paci at 9 months and the bottle a few months ago).

My mother did the same with me and my teddy bear. Teddy was allowed to come with us, but he had to stay in the car if we went anywhere I might misplace him.

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Jane - posted on 03/19/2012

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i still have my "lovie". i haven't used it since i was a toddler, but it was an important part of my life. i think if they have a lovie or a blanket, let them have it for as long as possible. i think pacifiers needs to be given a timeframe. but lovies, give more slack. limit it to the bed/crib or doctor's appts or long car rides, keep it in their backpack when they start pre-school.

these types of things help them transition into other parts of their lives. he'll stoop using it when he doesn't need it anymore.

no need to rush the process of growing up.

Perri - posted on 03/19/2012

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my daughter absolutely loves her lovey (it's now a tattered and torn teddy bear). Part of me wanted her to stop clinging to it...b/c it sent all of us into a panic when she lost teddy...part of me doesn't want her to stop loving her teddy b/c i know one day she will cast teddy aside which will be another sign that my daughter is growing up "sniff". A friend of mine gave my daughter the cutest personalized book called "My Teddy Brings the Circus to Town" and my daughter's teddy is literally the main character in this book! It's so cool. My daughter loves this book and sometimes we bring the book in the car instead of teddy which makes both of us feel good. Teddy is safe at home and she enjoys reading about teddy's adventure when we are out and about. the website on the back of the book is www.DreamMeUp.com .

Ashley - posted on 10/25/2011

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My son, almost 3, has a blankie that he's been attached to since before he was 1. It was actually a throw of mine, but he claimed it for himself. He wants it throughout the day when he's tired or just watching tv or relaxing, and he HAS to sleep with it. It's the ONLY blankie he will use. It's an adult throw, so I've thought abt cutting it in half and saving half for when the other half is tattered, but I think he would be highly upset abt that. When we go somewhere, he'll have it in the car, but that's where it stays when we go out, and he takes it to school with him. I dnt really see where it's been a problem as it's a comfort thing to him, but I've wondered myself how long he'll be attached to it!!

Heather - posted on 10/12/2011

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Thank you, Melisa! We don't take the blankies everywhere we go anymore and he only uses them at bed time. When he turns 3, I will explain to him that big boys don't need them anymore. Wish us luck! lol

Heather - posted on 03/29/2011

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Thanks, Ashley and everyone! Now he is wanting it more. When he is playing, I try to run it to the laundry room to wash it. That's always fun. lol

Ashley - posted on 03/27/2011

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My son is going to be 3 and still has his blankie. I have taken it away a few times to get some distance and it went over fine. The problem I have is getting him to stop sucking his thumb when he's tired.

Michelle - posted on 10/14/2010

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My twins both LOVE their blankets, I have two of each so that one can be in the wash whilst the other is being loved. My daughter sucks the corner where there is satin edging - it is so gross, but she loves it. I never let the blankets leave the house unless they are going to nap when we are out. I try to take them away during the day and just have them for bed, sometimes more successfully than others. I think it is ok, I asked their Doctor and she said as long as they don''t take them everywhere she could not see a problem with it.

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My daughter doesnt have a blankie or toy or anything - when she is a little tiered she will drag a reciever around but its whatever is lying around & its not often. When she does that I know she is REALLY tiered. Also she may pick a doll or soft toy to have with her for night bottle & storry but by bed time its been ditched already. She is 21 months.

Casaundra - posted on 10/09/2010

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yep I agree again, I just never had anything like that, but I was also an only child and just dont understand some things...sometimes I have a hard time letting him be 22 months old ya know....:(

Lisa - posted on 10/09/2010

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His blanket is his safety while you are gone. The blanket serves as a replacement for you when you are not available to him. Taking it away would give him stress and anxiety. I seriously know people who are in their 30's and 40's and still have their special little stuffed animal or blankie. In my opinion, he needs it! :)

Casaundra - posted on 10/09/2010

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yeah I agree and hes ok if we take it away like before we go into a store or g&grandpas house...blankie stays in the house and or in the car only..."our germs"....pluse with the new baby, Elias, its probably nice for him to have something at his disposal since mommy isnt...

Amanda - posted on 10/09/2010

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I think at this age, let him keep the blankie. At least he doesn't have the paci (which you would have to get rid of at this age). I dont see any harm in letting your son have his blankie if it is him comfort blankie. There are alot of transitions and milestones that toddlers are going through, and Im sure he clings to his safety object - blankie for comfort and stability. The blankie is always there, every day. Toddlers like things they can predict, and this would be one of them. I hope this helps. I just wouldn't take the blankie away too soon.

Lina - posted on 10/09/2010

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my daughter gave up her pacifier soon but when it comes to her blanket i am having still a hard time. She has a favorite blanket which is she doesn't have on her hand, she won't fall at sleep. and is the first thing she asks for when she wakes up. I have to wait till she falls at sleep to wash it. I guess is there safety blanket and they will get over it at their own time.

Casaundra - posted on 10/09/2010

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Ohhhhhh my son is the same, except that hes wanting in to be with him everywhere.....on the floor layed flat to play on, while hes in the high chair, in the car...hes proud of it and I'm not sure how much longer we should let him do this for. Now I just had a baby two months ago; both are adjusting very well but I think that with the change in household environment it might be a comfort....any changes in your house?

Shy - posted on 10/08/2010

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My 21 month old son and his blankie go HAND IN HAND! Can't leave home without it, and I'm completely okay with it. It makes him feel safe and happy, so why interrupt it? At least that's my view on it. I'm just going to let him go around with it until he's ready to let it go.

Leah - posted on 10/07/2010

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My kids all need their blankies. The oldest is 4 next week and she still needs hers. I think it's fine because we limit it to in the house (or at Grandmas). She never carries it around anymore and just needs that thing to cuddle to go to sleep.



My 20month old twins also have their blankies and quite frankly I hope they use them as long as they want!! They both sleep so well that I refuse to do anything to upset that!!! For my sanity more than anything.

Tiffany - posted on 10/07/2010

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I agree to just let him have it. He won't take it off to college. My sister's fiance took his son's blanket away from him and I think that sounds awful to take away the thing that comforts them the most (besides his/her mom!)

My kids are all attached to their blanket and that is the one thing that can't leave the house, especially as we enter germ season!

Jane - posted on 10/06/2010

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never! it helps them self-soothe, less work for you. if anything, i'd go get another one and keep it hidden away for if or when that one gets misplaced. i have extra "lovies" for our kids. i take those when we travel and so if we loose their lovies, we have them b/c it makes for a great bedtime for them or if they are sick, it gives them great comfort. i limit it to their bed/crib only. if that thing gets lost-forgeti it, nobody sleeps, including us! also, it is good for them to have something they find comforting that is only theirs.

Melissa - posted on 10/06/2010

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I wouldnt take it away just limit it to at home and dont let him take it in to stores, etc. at some point. my son is 20 mo. and has a blankie but it still goes everywhere. By 3 or so I will limit it to at home or bedtime. I slept with my blankie until I was about 12, which is a bit old I know, but I turned out all right. haha.

Heather - posted on 10/05/2010

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Thank you. I don't see it as a problem right now but like to see what other moms think and do. : )

Melisa - posted on 10/03/2010

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My daughter is 4 and still has her special blankie.. my son is 20 months and is following in her foot steps and likes to have his blankie when he sleeps. I think as long as he's not trying to take it everywhere he goes (like my daughter does) then its fine. I think its comforting to them to have a special blankie at bed time. - hope this helps...

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