Disipline already? Anyone else feeling the twing of independance? what are you doing about it?

Jessica - posted on 02/06/2010

I am soo glad I am not alone. My daughter is very independent and strong willed. She throws temper tantrums daily! her tantrums include throwing herself to the floor kicking and screaming. It is soooo bad. If you try to pick her up she throws herself back and smacks. It is horrible and we are at a complete lose as to what to do!! we ignore her when she is throwing a tantrum but she follows us and continues throwing it! lol We really need help too!

Faith - posted on 02/05/2010

i give my son timeouts in the play pen. i will let him there till he calms down anywhere from a few minutes to 10 minutes when he has a tantrum. hes already almost 1/2 my size at a year and throws himself back. im afaid that if i continue to hold him i will drop him. for doing things like playing w/the computer or dvd player its no more than a few minutes though

Aleya - posted on 02/04/2010

My daughter is starting to do the same thing. do you have a play pen that if he miss behaves you can tell him its time out spot. i started to do this with my daughter and it works for me I only leave her there for 2 minutes. you can always try the corner method or the time out chair.

Natasha - posted on 02/03/2010

yay not the only one. my little girl will be 13 months on the 23 and she has a temper. when you take something from her she flings herself backward screaming and sometimes hitting her head. when you try and pick her up she will push herself out of your arms.



what i have found to be best at this point is remove them from the situation no matter how many times and distract them with something new. she usually gets over it within a couple of mins because i dont pay attention to her little fit once i take her away from what she's doing or give her something to do if she is being cranky usually she's back to herself in no time.



should be interesting to see how it plays out once they can talk back and run away LOL

Cassie - posted on 02/03/2010

We are having the same problem compounded by the fact that we have a 5 month old to who is learning the bad behavior along with her brother! I started keeping a squirt bottle around and when he starts doing things he isn't suppose to we squirt him, if that doesn't work theres time outs, a play pen in the bedroom with no toys and he gets 2 minutes. At first it didn't seem to work but I am slowly seeing progress!

Amy - posted on 02/03/2010

I've tried to just smack his hand and say no and he just looks at me and smiles and usually does it again haha This is a kid where spanking and any kind of physical consequence isn't going to work... Im wondering if maybe I should start doing time outs? obviously for 30sec to a min... nothing too long and stick him in a corner to remove him from the situation and also show him that he can't do what he is doing because sometimes when I say no he'll look at me and smile and then continue to do what he was doing which seeing as he used to listen to the no at 10months I know he understands... haha what do you guys think about time outs? too early?





I also haven't had a tantrum in a while... what I did was pillowed a little area *he used to head butt the ground* and whenever he would start to tantrum I would put him down there and tell him mommy is leaving until he calms down *haha boundries are hard to have with a 1-year-old but this will help him learn he can't bulldoze mommy* and then I let him go until he is done which usually was shortly after I left.. he would follow me calmed down and then I would figure out what he wanted! I taught him some signs to help with the figureing out what he wanted! Helped too haha...

Sola - posted on 02/03/2010

My son started to do the same thing but I would smack his hand (not hard) and say 'No' (always down at his level so we're eye level with each other) and within seconds he stopped. That was a couple of months ago but after a few times I no longer had to smack his hand I just said 'No' and he stops on his own but at the same time I would talk to him and try and distract him with other things so that's a biggy. We never got to the biting, slapping, kicking or screaming bit and we haven't had an episode for a couple of weeks .
It worked with my 2 girls and it's going the same way with Jnr.

Amythyst - posted on 02/02/2010

Very glad to hear that other moms are dealing with this. My daughter throws massive temper tantrums almost daily. She throws things pulls hair, bites, scratches pinches, screams until she turns purple, you name it. We've tried everything, now we just repeat that we can't understand her when she's crying and when she pulls hair bites etc. say ouch no hurt etc. If she continues to do it we put her on the floor or in her crib for a few minutes to scream it out and then try again. Distraction works too if she's acting out because she wants something she can't have we try to entice her with a ball or something. Other than that we're also at a loss as to what to do.

Riche - posted on 02/02/2010

OMG glad to know I am not the only one out there with this problem. Mine throw the kicking and screaming tantrums, throws things, and slaps at my face. She is sooooo independent and strong willed! I just keep standing my ground and tell her no and remove her from the tempation. As for the slapping at me I get the very serious face and voice and tell her we don't hit people. I know she understands what she is doing already by the expression she gives me when she does it. So just hang in there and remind him that you are the one incontrol.

Nikki - posted on 02/02/2010

my daughter is more toddler than baby too. She wants to do EVERYTHING we do and pushes her limits when balked. She hasn't thrown tantrums except maybe once, but I try to be firm and tell her "no" and don't let her do what I'm trying to teach her not to do. I would just be firm and not give in. I know it's not much advice, but I think it's important to NOT give in when they throw their tantrums.