Hello to the group!

Emily - posted on 08/14/2009

Hello Jen,
I am a 32 year old mother of a beautiful little girl. I didn't find out about her until 4 days after sending out our wedding invits. My husband and I both were told we would never have kids,my husband was told in the Navy 15 years ago and my self 10 years ago. We have been together for 5 years and not being able to have childern was one of the first things we talked about. We figured we were ment to enjoy each others company for years to come and even talked about adoption. As you can imagine we were shocked and overjoyed by the news.

Due to my health proublems I had a very hard labor and delivery. I had such trouble that I ended up with 3rd degree tearing and had to have 97 stiches. I was in so much pain I couldn't enjoy the first few months with my daughter. Thank god we own our business and I am able to do most of my bookkeeping from home, and if I need to run to the office I can take Isabella with me.
I had to laugh at my dr. she said my delivery we be that of a 45year old woman and I would proubley need assistance. I told her more and more of us mama's are waiting to have kids and if you all can do it so could I. The good lord blessed us with beautiful girl and I was going to go through what ever I needed to. I still suffer from side effects of my tearing and POS. I have some days when I can't hardley move with out pain but all I need is to see my beautiful baby girl smile at me and it makes it all better.
I hope all is well with your family and thank you for sharing your story. Us January mama's have to sick together.
Emily

Jennifer - posted on 08/12/2009

Hi Jane,
Thanks so much for your note! Yes, I had the extra tests (couldn't get enough of those ultrasounds! Would've had one every day if I could!) including an amnio. I needed the peace of mind. I had enough anxiety about having my first baby, I didn't need anything else to worry about.

A few months after I had my baby I had to go see my regular dr for a general eye problem--I hadn't seen her in over a year. She pulled up my records and said "oh, wow! I see you had a baby!" Then she looked at me and said "did you have it naturally?" I thought she was asking if I'd had a C section and then I realized she was asking if I'd conceived naturally or had fertility help. I thought, geez, am I that much of a rarity, a 39 year old who conceived naturally? Made me feel really old.

I know exactly what you mean about the weekends--I've always enjoyed them but they have special significance now--two whole days with my baby boy! My priority is being with him and I avoid anything that will interfere with that time--he goes everywhere with me and I have to admit, I don't really want to have visitors or take him to visit family or friends b/c I want him all to myself, I've missed him so much during the week. Selfish I know. :-) Yes, I'd rather be at home with him, but I make the best of it and try to enjoy the time we're together. I didn't know, before I had him, that it would be so difficult to leave him!

Thanks again, it's nice to know there are others out there who understand and can relate. I'm sure you're a great mom too. :-)

Jen

Jane - posted on 08/12/2009

hi jen,

i'm an "old" mama too - did you get all of the extra ultrasounds and tests too? we have a 2 year old and a 6 month old and i swear that sometimes when i'm walking up the stairs i can hear my bones creaking. i turned 40 two weeks before our little one was born. we weren't married until our 2 year old was 6 months old. we went to city hall one day, kept it simple. i had to return to work when she was 6 months and it broke my heart every day. but she was just fine. thank god the childcare industry is what it is now. if i had to leave her w/someone i'd rather it be w/an accredited group of people who want to be working w/kids instead of someone who just needs the money. i was laid off just as i had found out we were pregnant again and i've had no luck finding a job in this past year. so the upside is that i'm home, the downside is that we're minus an income. believe it or not, i still want one more. but that's in negotiation.



the time you had at home w/him was just fine and try to focus on all of the time you have w/him when you are home. i'd rush home to nurse her after work and when i came home on fridays i'd grab my daughter and not share her w/ANYONE until monday morning. i used to call it the "brittney standoff" but w/out the cops or paparazzi involved.



you are a great mom!