My 2 yr old is going through a phase where she only wants daddy. Help?

Leslie - posted on 02/03/2011 ( 10 moms have responded )

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Some days she will let me do things but mostly she will only let daddy feed her dinner and clings to him. It's been really frustrating for both of us.

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Michelle - posted on 02/17/2011

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I totally agreee with Michelle....I wish my children would want their daddy to do more for them but it is always mommy this mommy that....lol....THey are with me all day and I have 3 little ones...Wouldnt trade it for the world thou....Hope it all pans out....:)

Michelle - posted on 02/16/2011

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Also something that may be affecting my daughter with how she acts around me is that I am pregnant and am trying to tell her about the baby in my belly. ever since she realized there was a baby there she wont give me a kiss good night but she will lift up my shirt and kiss my belly. its kind of funny but still makes me sad that she wont give me kisses sometimes. the past few days she has been more affectionate with me than normal which i dont mind a bit =]. so hopefully this is just a phase they are going thru and soon they will be momma girls.

Leslie - posted on 02/16/2011

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Oh my gosh Michelle you are the only other mom I know that is going through this (it's usually kids only want mom)! It's hard! Makes me feel useless at times. When my daughter is at her grandparent's she acts the same way and doesn't want to leave with me when I pick her up. I hope it gets better for both of us soon and that this is just a phase :) Thanks so much! Keep in touch and posted!

Michelle - posted on 02/15/2011

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my 2yr old is also like this. when daddy is home its all about him. but also when i pick her up from my inlaws after work (they watch her 4 days a week) she refuses to go with me. her grandpa has to put on his coat and take her to my car or else she will throw herself back and start hitting her head on the floor throwing a fit. when she does this it makes me feel real upset since i work 10 hour days and feel on those days i only see her for breakfast and bedtime.

Sarah - posted on 02/10/2011

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I apologize, it's not normal for me to respond in a negative way I took what you were saying the wrong way and again I apologize. I read it the wrong way, obviously :) I was in a moment of stupidity.

Lisa - posted on 02/10/2011

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Wow, OK. I'm looking back on my own post and can not find anything on there that suggests you let your child run the household. I have no idea where that came from. I agree that both parents should have a hand in the raising and disciplining kids. I'm just saying that we as moms often feel the need to take on all of the tasks or we have spouses that feel WE need to do it all. So if you have a kiddo that wants Daddy to do more for him/her and Daddy is gladly willing to step up, consider your self one of the lucky few mothers out there. Kids go through phases and before long, Mom, you'll be hanging the stars and the moon again. :)

Sarah - posted on 02/10/2011

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You're welcome Leslie :). And you are right Lisa I will want the days back of my sweet little angel during those moments, but no point in driving yourself to the breaking point if you can share the parenting duties and stress with your spouse. You both made this beautiful person, even if they are grumpy at times, so you both need to have both hands in with the raising,and all that that comes with. So unless I'm taking you wrong I'm not about to let my two year old control the house just because "maybe" someday she "might" get mad at me or grow up and be the strong, independent and respectful person I raised her to be.

Lisa - posted on 02/10/2011

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Enjoy the break, it's only temporary! My tot is very close to me as we are home together all day every day. Sometimes I wish I could just relax and let Daddy take over some times. It seems frustrating now, but one day you'll both wish for this when she acts like she doesn't need either of you and wants to fly on her own. :)

Sarah - posted on 02/09/2011

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Hello :) I'm going through some of these things with my two year old as well. It's part of the terrible twos. She's testing the rules not trying to be a pain just figuring things out :) We just had my daughter to the pediatrician for her usual check up and these are the things the pediatrician told us. If she just wont let you do anything for her and only your husband, ours is the other way around, I leave the room so she has no other choice but to let daddy do it or it just isn't happening. My husband has no idea how to put her hair up (typical thing :) but there are times where she refuses to let me do it, I started telling her if she wont let me do it she isn't going to go bye-bye, usually works.
I do try to reason with her when she does things like that but she usually has her mind made up whatever the problem is. So, first I decide if its really something to argue over because we all know that a tantrum is really not something you wanna deal with :) but if she is keeping your husband from doing something because she is being stubborn, I would have him just go about what he is doing and ignore her fit or whatever it is she does if she doesn't get what she wants. if its something as small as who gives her her dinner I would just have you be the only one to feed her for a few days, eventually if you don't give in she will realize that this is not something she is going to win. Good luck, I feel your pain :)

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