My almost 1 year old still wakes up 2 or 3 times a night!

Cori - posted on 01/03/2010 ( 50 moms have responded )

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Hi! I am wondering if anyone has any suggestions. My little guy is still waking up 2 or 3 times a night. I do breast feed and I have tried the Cry it out theory, but doesn't seem to work, he will just wake up 20 minutes later screaming. He has slept through the night a couple of times. I have tried feeding him food right before bedtime etc. Any input? Thanks ladies!!!

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Jo - posted on 01/11/2010

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oh my gosh, I feel so sorry for all these little babies being left to cry it out. seriously!!! how would you like it if the only way you could tell people what was wrong was to cry and you were left in your misery!!! I have NEVER left my son to cry it out, i used gentle sleep training methods and i teach other Mothers to do the same thing every single day and all htese methods work, without CIO! and my baby and all these other babies sleep through the night. babies cry for a reason, whether its comfort or pain or whatever, its up to us to work with them. they arent trying to outsmart us at all, a baby needs to be taught how to sleep properly from the beginning and if they dont (ie they are being fed to sleep or whatever) then thats OUR fault for not doing our job properly. and after all that time you then take it away from them and expect them to not protest!! they are only saying "hey whats going on here? i dont understand, this isnt how things are usually done!" and you leave them alone with no understanding. when my son wakes in the night and is unable to get back to sleep i go in, i pat him on his back until he is calm (not asleep, just calm) and then i leave, but i work with him not against him. The Secrets Of The Baby Whisperer by Tracy Hogg have all the techniques i use, and they all work 100% garaunteed, theres no excuse to leave a baby to cry it out on their own, there are other resources out there.

Natalie - posted on 01/07/2010

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My daughter, Paisley, was waking up a couple times a night. As soon as I stopped breast feeding, she slept through the night. She was a week away from her 1st birthday. It did happen naturally. I think part of our success was not making a big deal out of it. Everytime she would wake up I would calmly (even if I was exhausted) go into her room and tell her, it's bed time Paisley. Then I would give her her binkie and blanket lay her down and quickly turn my back and walk away. There were a couple times she cried. I would let her cry for a while then again go in and do the same thing I did before. Reminding her that she was ok and that it was sleep time. I also went back to work when she was 4 months old so I know she had some separation anxiety. Reasuring her that I loved her and that she was ok really helped. Good luck!

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Kathy - posted on 02/09/2014

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My one years old baby girl dosen't sleep thru the night i geaved her milk water anything i just tried it and she's still crying every night and when i put her in my bed she sleep what should i do please help

Bec - posted on 02/08/2010

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good to know that im not alone on this...lol....I have only just got my one year old sleeping through the night, but sometimes still wakes once. love everyone suggestions thou.:)

Angie - posted on 02/04/2010

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My one year old is breastfed and she wakes up two or three times to nurse throught the nite but will only nurse one morning and one afternoon feeding, my thought is she is just trying to get the calories she needs but doesnt want to slow down during the day to get it done!

Tsitsi Nicole - posted on 01/26/2010

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Try and increase his activities during the day. With mine he gets up once or twice during the night I warm his milk, and change his nappy then he sleeps right through. He goes to nursery Mon-Fri so those are the nights he wokes up once. He gets up twice on Saturday and Sunday i think due to less activities at home. Try bathing him with Jonhson and Jonhson night time bubble bath before his night bottle etc. then put him to bed. If it works for me, it might work for you as well.

Cori - posted on 01/12/2010

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Thank You all for your very helpful comments! I truly appreciate it!! We are going to start with the cry it out and be consistent!! Wish us luck, I will keep you posted! Good luck to all of you also having those sleepless nights!

Cori - posted on 01/12/2010

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Quoting Meagan:

Poor little guy how can you let him cry for 45min and not do anything? I can understand 5 min (to get attention) but I've realised a baby cries for a reason and feel that as his comforter should at least check on him.. I read once that a parent also just left their child to cry after a few exhausting nights and were so relieved when the child eventually stopped screaming - in the morning when they never heard their child, when to check and it was eaten by rats! So whether its a moan or cry regardless what time I at least just peak into his room to make sure he's ok and if he's really unhappy and crying will do anything i can to help.


Of course I check on him, he is right next to my room! I think It is harder for me than him! I am not ignoring him by any means, he is very loved and spoiled! That is the problem:)

Cori - posted on 01/12/2010

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Quoting Jennifer:

Well...my daughter, who turned 1 yesterday did the same thing and I have to tell you my husband and I made the decision a couple of weeks ago to let her cry it out. It was awful but we did it and for the first week and a half she would wake up every now and then and cry but these past few days she's slept through the night. You have to just keep letting him cry...even if he wakes up a half hour later...don't go in there. He'll eventually get it. Trust me...I have been trying to get her to sleep through the night for months and I'd let her cry one day and then get her the next...it doesn't work...you gotta just keep the consistency! It'll get better....let me know how it goes!!!


You are right! Cosistency is key! They learn fast! I am not consistent! Ok! I'm gonna do it...wish me luck, I'll let you know:) Thanks for the advice!

Cori - posted on 01/12/2010

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Quoting Jahje:

I just dealt with the same thing - my new years resolution made early was to get my son sleeping through the night before he turned one. We read Good Night, Sleep Tight by Kim West and did her gentle cry it out method and it really worked. After 2 weeks Gavril is now sleeping mostly through the night (wakes at 5 - 5:30 still) and I don't feed him anymore. I tried so many things and really wish I had read this book months ago. You do have to some cry it out and the first few days were really tough, he cried so much he sounded like he had been up screaming at a concert with a little horse voice. But after day 4 it got so much easier and last night I put him in his crib awake left the room and he fell asleep on his own with zero crying! Now after sleeping almost 7 hours straight myself for the first time in a year (or two) I am so much happier. And he seems happier too (and still loves me).


Thank you!! very good info!

Sarah - posted on 01/11/2010

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My daughter is one (as of Jan. 3) I nursed her until she was 11 months. At about 8 months we let her cry it out (she is a very healthy 22 lbs at 8 months she was around 17lbs) and she made it from 7 at night to 5 in the morning...when she was 11 months old I stopped going into her room at 5am and after about a week she started sleeping through the 5 am time as well. Now she sleeps from 7 pm to 7 am, no waking up at all! Once in a while she will stir here and there, but she goes right back to sleep. I would do baby steps, stop going in there when he first wakes up, and he will start to sleep through. My daughter still takes 2 naps and sleeps 12 hours+...I am not lucky, I just trained her to sleep good. I also am rested, which makes those play filled days, nothing but wonderful!

Sarah - posted on 01/11/2010

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It is hard but the only way I could get my youngest to sleep through was letting her cry 2 or 3 nights of ignoring & we have not looked back since she was 8 months now she only wakes if there is somthing wrong she will be 1 on the 17th
good luck!!!

Kambriah - posted on 01/10/2010

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Oh my goodness! I seriously thought I was the only one in this boat, as all my friends babies sleep through the night. I too tried the cry it out method, but wasn't successful on my part. My little one is teething big time, so I think that is why she is waking. Also, she is a gassy girl, so I give her a little gas meds before bed to ease her belly. This seems to work as she sleeps until 5:30pm now with just one waking about 30mins after going down, do to some burps. I am reducing it little by little as the doctor instructed, to make sure she doesn't get used to it. Hopefully this helps her. It sure has helped me, I thought I was a horrible mom for a while there. I hope this finds you in a better situation with sleep and your baby. I am with you all the way. Good Luck to Everyone with this situation, you are definitely not alone.

Shawna - posted on 01/10/2010

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My daughter also slept through the night very early on. However, here recently it has become an every night thing that she wakes at least 2-3 times a night. She will be 1 year on the 23rd January. Is this maybe something they just go through?????? I have another one on the way due in May, hope to get this figured out before the new baby arrives.

Maddy - posted on 01/10/2010

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my one year old was waking up 2-3 times a night... i tried the cry it out theory when she was 9 months, then again at 10 months, then again at 11 months, by the time i tried it at 12 months, she was actually ready i think. i started by giving her water in a bottle instead of milk, which still calmed her but helped her tummy get used to not getting filled up, and after 2 days of crying it out, for all of 2 mins twice a night, she now sleeps through the night!! now if i could only re-adjust my own sleeping patterns accordingly!!!

Carrie - posted on 01/09/2010

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My daughter still wakes at least 5 times a night to breastfeed. Bedsharing has saved my sanity- all we do is roll over and she nurses back to sleep. Most of the time I barely wake up. She's only a baby once and she'll sleep better when she's ready. Ignoring her cries is not an option for us.
If you absolutely have to get your baby to sleep through the night there are better ways to go about it- you don't have to let them cry it out. Try the book The No Cry Sleep Solution.

Jennifer - posted on 01/09/2010

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Just keep it consistent...he'll figure it out. My doc actually told me to go in there and give my daughter her pacifier and then walk back out...I've read in books that by doing that they will continue to wake up. We did it the hard way and just let her cry or find her paci on her own...it took about a week and a half to two weeks but she's finally figured it out! Actually she woke up a couple of times last night/really early this morning but went back to sleep after a minute of crying.

Alicia - posted on 01/09/2010

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My son just turned one on Jan. 7th and he has had his own strict bedtime of 9pm since around the age of 4mos maybe. But now he has decided to try to test our patience and try to get out of going to bed at that time even if he is dead tired. And as much as you may hate to hear it repeated...all you can do is let them cry it out, because it exhausts them and they do give up eventually. He has gotten better b/c we play hard before bed and make sure that he had a full dinner prior to playing. I heard that if they aren't getting enough play time and interaction it can cause boredom therefore not wanting to sleep. I hope it helped and it wasn't just rambling on my part! Good luck!

Sharon - posted on 01/08/2010

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My son will be one on the 12th too. Maybe it has something to do with their astrological sign:-)

Sharon - posted on 01/08/2010

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I have followed everyones advise about crying it out. Tonight is night three. He woke up like usual and cried for a bit but actually went back to sleep. I gave him cereal right before getting him ready for bed then a bottle before finishing him off with my boobs:-) I am hoping tonight will be easier and maybe we can sleep thru the night by the weekend;-) That would be amazing!!!!!

Christine - posted on 01/08/2010

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My daughter just turned 1 yesterday and at about 9 months we finally started working on sleeping through the night. I hate to tell you the only thing we tried was letting her scream. The first 2 nights were rough, she got up several times. But by the 3rd night she figured out no one was coming in to check on her so she just had to sleep until morning. It was terrible for me, but so worth it in the end. My doctor explained to me that although I was breastfeeding, at this age they don't need to get up to eat, it's just out of habit and you need to break that habit. So I hope this helps! And may you not have many more sleepless nights ahead! :)

Melissa - posted on 01/08/2010

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Yeah I have a almost one year old too that still wakes up one maybe two times a night. I wish I could help but I would love for my little guy to sleep through the night aswell.

Nikki - posted on 01/08/2010

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My son, who turns one Jan. 11, also wakes up at least once a night. About two months ago, I stopped breastfeeding because he would not go to sleep unless I nursed him, and when he woke in the night it was the same deal. I was exhausted and depressed! So we let Dad take over night duty and did the graduated method (Ferber's book) of letting him cry a bit, checking on him but not picking him up, letting him cry a little longer, etc. I cried as much as he did! After a week he could put himself to sleep, and now he hardly ever cries when we put him down. One problem solved. Now the night waking. I will try some of the things you all have suggested, like giving him water instead of milk. We already do white noise, a night light, teddy bear, and a bedtime routine of dinner, bath, book, bottle, bed.

Jenn - posted on 01/07/2010

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try white noise~ whether a machine, cd, running heater/fan. it'll help cover up outside noise & can help baby sleep more soundly :)

Samantha - posted on 01/07/2010

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oh my gosh I know how you feel!! My son will be 1 on the 12th and Im going through the same thing as you. If you find a solution please let me know lol

Shaylee - posted on 01/07/2010

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My son wakes up like that to.Iv found that if I feed a heavier meal one hour before bed then as he is falling asleep a warm bottle (or sippy cup).Still I go along the idea,he will do it when he is ready.Even though the lack of sleep doesnt get any easier I know.

Sharon - posted on 01/07/2010

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Jennifer, Thanks for the encouragement. I made it thru last night with him screaming a few times. It broke my heart and hurt my boobs but I know it will be the best for all of us once he sleep thru the night. I will keep you posted. You make me feel like there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Thank:-)

Lyndal - posted on 01/07/2010

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I started working when my daughter was 8 months and that's when we began having sleeping problems because she was missing me so much. She had been sleeping through the night, or wanting to be fed only 2 times, but after work began it was 5 - 6 times a night. I was exhausted completely and by Thursdays you couldn't even talk to me.
Now we've had 3 weeks holidays and during the holidays instead of leaving her in our bed or putting her to sleep in our bed I put her to sleep in her own bed and after she'd feed she went back to her own bed (though it's still in our room and will be for a long time cause I don't feel need or pressure to give her her own room).
I've been back at work this week and she still gets up 1-2 times a night but it's because she's hungry yet she's still asleep. I lie with her in my bed and feed her from both sides and then put her back in her bed.
I am happy with this and I think for her age it's fine. I don't mind at all. It works for us. If I wasn't working I wouldn't mind if she got up 3-4 times a night. But since I am I'll settle with 1-2 times.
She'll sleep through the night when she's ready and as long as I am not over-tired and I can function at work I'm cool with it.
I think it's better just to be calm and let them sort it out themselves but I do find that having her sleep in a lovely, comfy bed, making it soft and pleasant to sleep in, is a good way to eventually get them to sleep through the night. It was never going to happen with her in our bed cause she becomes so focussed on 'the booby.' : P

Jennifer - posted on 01/07/2010

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Meagan...that's a little extreme don't you think...obviously they were living in very poor conditions. Trust me...it wasn't easy to let my child cry but she is proof that it works and that after a year of waking up 2-3 times a night we are both sleeping better. Also...she is much more enjoyable during the day because she's not tired.
Sharon, I did have to let her cry for an hour a few nights but it was on and off it wasn't screaming for an hour straight. She was tired and needed to learn to fall asleep on her own. It'll get better but it takes a week or two.

Meagan - posted on 01/07/2010

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Poor little guy how can you let him cry for 45min and not do anything? I can understand 5 min (to get attention) but I've realised a baby cries for a reason and feel that as his comforter should at least check on him.. I read once that a parent also just left their child to cry after a few exhausting nights and were so relieved when the child eventually stopped screaming - in the morning when they never heard their child, when to check and it was eaten by rats! So whether its a moan or cry regardless what time I at least just peak into his room to make sure he's ok and if he's really unhappy and crying will do anything i can to help.

Jennifer - posted on 01/07/2010

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Sharon, my daughter is still nursing as well. My doc told me that if she's only nursing for a minute or two on each side when she woke up (which she was) then she's using me as a pacifier. So hang in there...Caelyn now goes to bed between 6:30-7pm and sleeps until 7-8am. She's now my best sleeper!

Amanda - posted on 01/07/2010

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Someone may have posted this but "Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Child" is an amazing resource... My oldest wasn't sleeping through the night at 10 months and I was almost crazy with deprivation... my other two I started on the books plan from about 4 months and they put themselves to sleep and sleep all night... My almost 3 and almos 1 year old sleep from 6:30 to 6:30 and take naps

Tiya - posted on 01/07/2010

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Okay so from reading the last couple of statements I'm guessing the answer to my question above is to let her cry it out. I will consider letting her cry it out as well... which I'm sure will hurt me more than her. wish me luck.

Tiya - posted on 01/07/2010

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I'm having similar problems w/ my daughter who will be 1 on the 23rd. I haven't figured out a solution but the comments above seems to be useful. I am also struggling with getting her to go to bed without nursing before (I did it with my oldest but she was very easy to ween) any suggestions???

Vanessa - posted on 01/07/2010

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my child is almost one and she didi the same i have got her into a retion now i feed her about 8.30 then bath and then i put her to bed in a sleeping bag now she sleeps all threw the nite and i let her cry for about 20 mins then she just got used of me not going to her she just plays herself to sleep

Sharon - posted on 01/06/2010

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My almost one year old (next week) has been waking up every two hours for months. I am also breastfeeding and after reading all of these posts am determined tonight to let him cry it out. As hard as it is, everyone seems to have the same underlying information that being consistent and letting them cry is the way to go. Good luck for both of us:-)

Emiko - posted on 01/06/2010

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wow...this is a popular thread...i too am going through the same thing. i am geting ready to work on the crying it out method. the hardest part since i am nursing still as well is that i know sometimes it is just for comfort since i am at work all day. good luck to you and i am interested to hear what works for you. she will be one at the end of the month on the 26th.

Jennifer - posted on 01/06/2010

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Well...my daughter, who turned 1 yesterday did the same thing and I have to tell you my husband and I made the decision a couple of weeks ago to let her cry it out. It was awful but we did it and for the first week and a half she would wake up every now and then and cry but these past few days she's slept through the night. You have to just keep letting him cry...even if he wakes up a half hour later...don't go in there. He'll eventually get it. Trust me...I have been trying to get her to sleep through the night for months and I'd let her cry one day and then get her the next...it doesn't work...you gotta just keep the consistency! It'll get better....let me know how it goes!!!

Alex - posted on 01/06/2010

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your son could be having bad dreams. my daughter is going to be one this month she has slept through the night since she was 6 weeks old but re cently she wakes up screamming and when i go in there it looks like shes alseep so i just pick her up tell her its ok give her the binki and put her back down quickly so she doesnt think its ok to get up. i recently started not going in there and she seems to figure it out her self now. well good luck with your son i hope you get to have some sleep soon.

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Hi! My little one was waking up very often during the night. I do also breastfeed. One night I just tried with the pacifier while caressing on his back (he sleeps with us on the bed). He calmed down without breastfeeding, for several hours! I tried the same the next night and it worked again! And all this lasted about 3 or 4 nights. Now my son wakes only once during the night, I am ok with this and I breastfeed him (his surely hungry) and then he wakes up in the morning. Try it, it may help you as well!

Mahmoos - posted on 01/05/2010

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hi.my baby ahmad still wakeup every 1-1:30 houre.some time just want me to hold him,some time want to drink water,some time just cry and sleep again alone.i asked the doctor yesterday she said some babies are active during the day so they keep dreaming at neight so they dont sleep well.they are like this and we have to accept them in there way.maybe they will sleep better soon.

Jahje - posted on 01/05/2010

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I just dealt with the same thing - my new years resolution made early was to get my son sleeping through the night before he turned one. We read Good Night, Sleep Tight by Kim West and did her gentle cry it out method and it really worked. After 2 weeks Gavril is now sleeping mostly through the night (wakes at 5 - 5:30 still) and I don't feed him anymore. I tried so many things and really wish I had read this book months ago. You do have to some cry it out and the first few days were really tough, he cried so much he sounded like he had been up screaming at a concert with a little horse voice. But after day 4 it got so much easier and last night I put him in his crib awake left the room and he fell asleep on his own with zero crying! Now after sleeping almost 7 hours straight myself for the first time in a year (or two) I am so much happier. And he seems happier too (and still loves me).

Skie - posted on 01/05/2010

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Hi, I had a sleep mid wife come to my home her advice was similar to the cry it out theory expcet the thing that worked the most was the hours in which she advised that a child my sons age (who is 1 on jan 11) should be awake for which was between 2.5hr and 4hr - no longer except you needed to look for the tired signs and put him straight into his cot awake or not. That then spiralled into 1 sleep a day, sometimes a large one and a small one but better sleep at night. He too sleeps wakes alot except I am silly get up every time. But when am exhausted and do ignore him he goes straight back to sleep. The trick is not to give them the A grade comfort they are seeking, give them B grade comfort.. B for boring. They will soon learn that night time is boring.
Hopefully it helps a little.

Lauren - posted on 01/04/2010

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The advice that our doctor gave us that worked like a charm was to STOP feeding him in the middle of the night. It resets their clock somehow. She suggested giving him a bottle of water, instead of milk, which worked like a charm because he hated it. Also, to help reset his clock she told us we could give him some Benedryl before bedtime to help him sleep through the night. We did that for about 1 week and it really worked. The first couple of nights he woke up and cried, but fell back asleep because he was so tired from the Benedryl. The first night he cried for 45 minutes, the second night he cried for 10 minutes, and the third night he didn't wake up at all!! These kids are smart!!! Ours had trained us to get up and feed him. When he realized that we weren't going to do that anymore he started sleeping through. GOOD LUCK!!

Shanna - posted on 01/04/2010

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My little girl was sleeping through the night at 4 months old but the past 3 months or so she is up 1 or 2 times most nights. I am still nursing her so I feed her and she goes right back to sleep. She has a morning nap and sometimes an afternoon nap, most days not. I have been really frustrated too about her waking at night. I try to fill her tummy the best I can, but I don't think that's the reason. I guess it will change sometime soon, I hope. She will be 1 on the 23rd.

Amanda - posted on 01/04/2010

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My son will be one on Jan 20. He use to sleep from 8p to 8a....and he would put himself to sleep......now its like he has gone back to being a one month old again....he screams and has to be rocked to sleep.......i found that not lettin him sleep much during the day seems to work the best..if he takes a nap i make sure its around noon or one and that he doesn't sleep past 3.......then hes up the rest of the day.......he also eats cereal right before bed and i found that if u warm it up it seems to help too....good luck

Denise - posted on 01/04/2010

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hi, does he sleep much during the daytime, if so it could be making him more alert and restless during the night..try keeping him awake 4 a few hrs b4 bedtime, so he gets really tired n he will prob sleep straight throu.. he may b getting teeth 2, so that could b making him restless aswell.... if my daughter is restless during the night i usually turn the nursey chimes on, the pretty lights normally grab her attention n she will fall bak asleep.. the glow warm seems 2 b interesting 2 her aswell.. hope this helps you..

Ashley - posted on 01/04/2010

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hey my sons one on the 19th of this month :) for the past 2 months he has slept pretty much every night through the night but before that got up heaps! there wasnt much i could really do about it. so we waited n he did it wen he was ready :)

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