My son is almost 7 months old and wont sleep in his crib...

Stef - posted on 08/03/2009

Yeah that seems like it would have worked. I have tried to do something like that and as soon as he notices me or my hubby isn't beside him he wakes up screaming and wont go to sleep unless we are there beside him...

Jennifer - posted on 08/03/2009

my son did the same thing and my husband didn't help any when he would put him in our bed at night. so to get him out the easiest way for me was to let him fall asleep in my bed then I would take him to his crib so he would wake up in there n now he is fine he puts himself to sleep in his crib.

Mandy - posted on 08/03/2009

sorry, didnt mean to post it twice, my computer was telling me it didnt post the first time

Mandy - posted on 08/03/2009

i would strongly advise not to let him cry to sleep. my son goes to sleep in my arms then i lay him down in his cot. i enjoy the cuddle time i get with him.



read Dr William Sear's book "the baby sleep book". it helps parents and babies find a healthy attitude to sleep and gives ideas on what will work best for your family.



i have dont the cry it out method to a certain degree. my 6 yo now has behaviour and learning difficulties which studies show may be linked to excessive crying as a bub. this doesnt mean that if this is what you choose your sun will have the same problems, but it is something to think about.

my 6 mo sleeps with me for half the night and i have now taken one side off his cot and joined it to my bed so i can get ot his easier during the night and he sleeps ALOT better.

i will never d the cry it out method again after reading some of the problems it can cause. i can email you the studies i have in fornt of me, if you would like.

my email address in

mandy_123_14@hotmail.com



would be glad to help if i can.

hang in there, it will get easier. as they grow and develop tey go through rough patches.

Mandy - posted on 08/03/2009

ok. i would have to disagree with the "cry it out" method and strongly suggest you find another way to get bub to sleep without resorting to this. there are other ways to get a baby to sleep happily.

studies have shown that the stress from this causes the child to have abnormally high levels of the stress hormone cortisol and lower growth hormone levels. these imbalances inhibit the growth of nerve tissue in the brain.

i could go on and on about the studies that have been done on this. i admit, i did this to a degree with my older son and he has alot of behaviour problems and some dr's say he has mild adhd, which studies have shown can be linked to persistant crying as a baby.

my 6 month old baby sleeps with me, but i have taken one side off his cot and put it against my bed, so my hubby and i have our own space but i am not up all night as my bub is right next to me.

As for sleeping with your child forever, i dont know many 10yo children, or any for that matter, who still sleep with their parents.



everyone worries about and wants their children to go to sleep by them selves and sleep all night, and while i agree that it does get exausting putting robbie to sleep in my arms and having him right next to me for half the night, i wouldnt change a thing. having him happy all the time and crying as little as possible is the most important thing.



read Dr William Sears book "the baby sleep book". He pretty much says figure out what works for your familyand baby and helps to encourage a healthy sleep attitude for you and your baby.



hope this helps.

Kellie - posted on 08/02/2009

I agree with Michelle. It is very difficult, but it's the only way that worked for either of my girls. I would let them cry, go in at 15-20 minutes and reassure until calm then leave again, the next time 20-25 never longer than 25, as we wanted them to trust we were going to meet their needs when they cried. It may take a long time, but after a few nights it should get better. The worst thing to do though would be to start this process, and then give in, as it will teach your son that crying in bed will mean getting to sleep with you, thus making screaming a winning tactic.

Michelle - posted on 08/02/2009

The only way to get your baby to sleep in their own bed is to make them sleep there. Yes, there will be crying involved, but it's better than having to sleep with your kids for years to come. We had a really difficult time getting our son to sleep in his bed too.

If you use a pacifier, make one the "bedtime pacifier". It stays in the crib, and they only get it when it's time to sleep. We also chose toy safe to sleep with and put in the crib with him. When it's time to go to sleep, we'd give him his bedtime paci, the toy, tell him "night night" and leave the room. We'd let him cry for about 15 minutes, then one of us would go in, put the paci back in his mouth, roll him over (sometimes a change of position is all it takes now), pat his back for a little bit to calm him down some, tell him "night night" again and leave. Rinse, repeat, as many times as necessary, until he fell asleep. The first week, he'd cry for about an hour or a little over all totaled up.

The biggest mistake ever, is taking them out of the crib and letting them sleep with you just so they'll stop crying. Yes, we did take him out of the crib sometimes to calm him down, but we never left the room with him. I'd usually sit in the rocker with him for about 5 minutes to let him calm down for a bit. Once he was calm, I'd lay him back down and start the process over. We never just gave up on trying to get him to sleep in his crib and let him come to our room. (That's not to say I don't occasionally sleep with him in my bed. I love napping with my baby.)

Now, he'll usually cry for about 10 minutes before falling asleep on his own. He just has to cry for a minute. He does it with naps too. He does it if he falls asleep while I'm holding him. So that's normal for him and it doesn't bother me to hear him cry before falling asleep anymore. I do listen to make sure the cry doesn't change to one of panic or pain though.

Stef - posted on 08/02/2009

It is a tough one. Like I don't mind sharing my bed with my son but I just don't want him in my bed forever... Like he'll sleep on my bed without me, but as soon as I put him in his crib for a nap or for the night he's wide awake and cries and cries til I take him out. I leave him to cry for a about half hour then I can't stand to hear him scream anymore so I take him out. And I can't put him in a toddler bed til his 15 months. I don't want him in my bed til he's 15 months.

Hannah - posted on 08/02/2009

I think this is a tough one. I have a 2 yr old also that I have had in my bed his whole life. Now with a 6 month old too it is a little crowded. My 2 yr old will sleep in his toddler bed during the day. I make sure he starts the night in there too. I love sleeping with my babies, but sometimes it is really exhausting. There is a good book called The Baby Whisper that has a lot of good advice.