Please Help! Bathtime is a struggle!

Terri - posted on 05/23/2009 ( 20 moms have responded )

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My daughter Kaysha is very nearly 4 months old and has been having regular baths, every other day, since she was born. The problem is she hates it and I don't really know why. She has never had a bath without screaming all the way through and it is really distressing! At first I thought it was because we had a long and difficult labour, 34hrs, and I thought that the water reminds her of the experience. I have tried reassuring her by talking and kissing her when in the bath, holding her extra tight, playing with the water before and during bathtime but nothing seems to work. The temperature of the water is right so it's not that. She knows when we getting ready for the bath and she is a happy bunny singing and laughing, its literally as im lowering her into the bath she starts and doesn't stop til she is sittng on my lap with the towel wrapped round her.

I'm thinking about taking her swimming but not sure if this will help and really don't want to make the situation worst than it already is.

Any advice, suggestions please....

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Sarah - posted on 06/28/2009

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i weas wondering how it was going too. i'm really glad its changed. its the same with my son he absolutely loves bathtime now and i didn't change anything .. now he can have a proper splash around and i can put in toys .. before there was no point as he was in and then out.

Skye - posted on 06/27/2009

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hi there i was just wondering if you have hopped into the bath with your little one, all 3 of my babies loved the bath so i dont really know how you feel but thought this might help..

Terri - posted on 06/16/2009

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Thanks everyone for the tips and advice! I'm glad to say that bathtime is one of our favourite times now!! Phew lol!!

I started with taking her in the bath with me and having the water temp warmer than normal, she didn't take to it at first but having me in there with her definately helped comfort her. I allowed her to nurse for a few mins the first time we bath shared to calm her down, also having some of her toys in there helped. The next day when we where having our bath I nearly fainted when she had a lil giggle lol. The next day she started splashing! I carried on bathing with her for about two weeks, singing songs and playing little games so she enjoys the whole process. Then I started bathing her in her bath but in the front room infront of the tv instead of in the bath tub. This helped as I could get closer to her so she felt secure. Then her bath went back into the bathtub and she was fine with it, splashing more than ever! I think that as she was just starting to sit up by herself help alot aswell.

Amanda - posted on 06/15/2009

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my mom gave me this advice, and it worked WONDERS! i started showing with my daughter when she was 4 months. the water stays the same temp since its running, and she loves the way it feels on her back. also, i hold her very close to me, so it calms her. she used to scream bloody murder when it was time for a bath, but this is quick and easy. when shes done,i hand her off to my hubby who then wraps her real tight in a towel (a big one too) and i finish my shower. try it out

April - posted on 06/14/2009

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Thanks Mandy... just today my hubby said something about the kitchen sink :) I tried it once before and she didn't do so well with me but I think I am willing to try it again!

April - posted on 06/14/2009

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Terri,

It has been a few weeks since you posted this... any luck? My 5 mo old absolutely hates it as well. Unfortuately we don't have a bath tub (only shower) so we hop in with her just to get it over with quickly. We had an infant tub and she hated it as well. This summer I really want to take her swimming too and I am afraid she will hate that as well. Just wanted to know if you've had any luck....

Kendra - posted on 06/12/2009

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My son hated taking a bath to so i went to Kohls department store and bought a little thing that covers them and looks like a bath towle/ wash cloth thing and its called a bath luve . . he LOVES taking baths now! They are shaped like ducks, fish, and stuff like that!

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We fill our tub up and my husband gets in with her... Zita loves it! She floats and kicks while my husband just supports her a little bit... Maybe if you or your husband get in with her she'll feel more secure.

Clare - posted on 06/12/2009

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my baby don't mind her bath, but just kinda lays there and don't do anything but don't mind the water on her face.

Mandy - posted on 06/12/2009

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bath with her. i did this with my son-now 5mo, he hated baths from birth. i bathed with him for about a month, and only bathed him once-twice a week as they dont get dirty as babies. now he is happy to have a bath as long as i sit him up and not lay him down. much easier to bath him not screaming! robbie would cry as soon as he touched the water.



good luck and all the best for you and your little munchkin.

Kawailehua - posted on 06/12/2009

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i don't want to scare you but my first born HATED baths till she was almost 3!!!! it want's so much the bath...it was the washing hair...but she screamed bloodly murder from the moment she needed to bathe...just thininking of it freaked her out! I never figured it out...she only grew out of it! All the other tips the moms gave we good ones....bathing with her might be the best one and warmer water. I have one kid who likes COLD bathe water, one who likes warm water...and my almost 5 month old likes it HOT! hotter than you'd think for a baby, but everytime I try cooling it down he screams...and make sure the bathroom isn't drafty. The bathing on the counter in fron of a mirror might be helpful too...my son LOVED being able to see me washing him....not so much himself but that fact that there were two mommies I guess seemed funny to him :) Good luck in it all....jsut try everything and anything....you never know what could fix the problem...and remember they usually grow out of it...how long???..who knows, but they should eventually.

Jessica - posted on 06/11/2009

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My baby hated the bath until we started helping her sit up in it now she loves it. It is harder to do and takes two people for us but hey you cud always try.

Angela - posted on 06/11/2009

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Hang in there. It does get better. My son hated the bath would scream and shake the whole time when he was 4-6 months. Then when he started sitting up on his own he cried when I would take him out. Taking a bath with her will give her the comfort she needs. And I always had a little space heater in the bathroom when I would give him a bath too. Good Luck! It really does get better. And if you have any more they maybe totally different. My daughter that is 5 months loved the bath since she was first introduced to it....course she loves watching her big brother in the tub....as long as he doesn't slash her...lol

Claire - posted on 06/10/2009

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my baby didnt like baths so u filled my bath with water half the lenght of my middle finger so its not to deep and he loves it he splashes and kicks and now i love bathing him its so funny to hear him laughing and makein his funny noises lol

Terri - posted on 05/25/2009

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I haven't tried taking her in the bath with me, sounds like a good idea, I will have to try that. I agree that the water does seem a bit too cool, but I was scared not to follow the bath thermometer, nervous 1st time mum lol. But yeah, I'll try warmer water too. She definately doesn't have a issue with being naked, she loves it lol!! Still planning to go swimming this week hopefully, I let ya know how it goes.

Thanks for the advice ladies x

Sarah - posted on 05/25/2009

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my son absolutely hates bathtime too .. a friend of mine said i thought babies love it as her 4 and a half month old daughter does .. but nooo he hates it.

were thinking of taking him swimming too.. but a bit scared .. maybe they might relax more cuz they have a bit of clothes on and your there.



sometimes he's ok in the bath (rarely) we have the heater on and the water really warm ..

we gave him a wash every morning to try and get him used to water .. he's not so bad with that.

maybe shes cold (even though the temps right .. i dont rely on bath thermometers too much .. as it always feels way too cold ) or she just doesn't like being naked .. i'd try having a bath with her

Amber - posted on 05/23/2009

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My son used to hate baths but no longer does. I use one of those little baby tubs and that goes well, but he only really enjoys a bath if I take a bath with him. Have you ever tried taking a bath with your baby. It is the only time my son enjoys bath time.

Niki - posted on 05/23/2009

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My son also HATES bath time. I now put his lille tub on the bathroom counter so he can see himself in the mirror. It seems to help him calm down.

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