Getting my li'l man to sleep in his own bed

Tisha - posted on 04/24/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )

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Hi, this is prolly a weird problem. My son is 21 months old and he still insists on sleeping in my bed. He'll sleep in his own bed for a couple hours but has night terrors and will drag his pillow and blanket out of his room and cry until he's in our bed. Doesn't really care if his father is there as long as I am. I have another one on the way right now due on his 2nd birthday and I know it's going to be difficult and need to get him out of this ASAP! Anyone have this problem or any suggestions?

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Marie - posted on 08/05/2009

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I have two girls and they both sleep in my bed one is five and one is two my oldest one never slept with me until the youngest one started. How do i break them both at the same time.

Keana - posted on 07/31/2009

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My son has never slept in his own bed. He sleeps with my husband and me. I put him in his bed when he falls asleep and then in the middle of the night he patters in my room and climbs up with mommy he does not want daddy. I will take any help anyone can give also. We tried letting him buy his own blanket and big kid bed but that has not helped

Jenn - posted on 07/22/2009

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Well, we officially switched Genesis back to her toddler bed. She is doing SOOOOO well! She doesn't even give me an argument or fuss. In fact, she loves it. My dad even got a toddler bed at his house for her & she is doing well with it.

So, temporarily switching back to the crib & allowing her to soothe herself to sleep really worked for us.

I hope things are better for you!

Blessings

Julie - posted on 05/27/2009

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try taking him back to his bed and rubbing his back or something until he falls back to sleep. If that doesn't work you can try letting him to sleep on the floor next to your bed rather than in your bed and hopefully eventually get him to going back to his own bed. Good luck!

Katie - posted on 05/20/2009

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Wow! I don't feel so bad in having this problem. Nothing is working for us though. I'll try these suggestions too. I tried the crib thing too, but that was worse than the toddler bed. I'll see if these work better.

Jenn - posted on 05/18/2009

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Update:
Genesis is adjusting quickly to soothing herself to sleep. I rock her while we pray, then I kiss her little head, tell her it's time to go night-night & lay her down. She cried pretty hard for the first couple of nights, but not really since then. I also darkened the coverings on her bedroom windows & this helped her a lot! Some kids sleep better with a brighter night light & some with none at all. I figured she'd like the night light, but apparently she prefers the dark! Who knew? :o) Just something else to think about.

I hope that your mission is going fairly well! I know it's hard to let them cry, but if you "know" that they're okay, then they need to learn for themselves that they're okay. If we always come running, then we give them reason to suspect that they're right in being afraid.

It really is a difficult line to cross, and every child is so different. Go with your gutt...mommies know their babies the best. But, these are the things that are helping us. I just wanted to share them with you.

When we "officially" switch back to the toddler bed, I'll let you know if my method worked :o) Ha ha...

Anna - posted on 05/06/2009

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wow I didn't think that a lot of people is going thru the same as me!!!! My 22 months old girl has a twin bed next to our bed but everyday I have a HARD time making her going to sleep without giving her my hand and sing for a long time. But then she wakes up in a few hours and come into my bed. Im so tired that I just let her sleep with us BUT I hardly have a good night sleep!!!!! I'll try to lay down with her before trying to change her with her 9 year old sister! I'm thinking that is going to be almost IMPOSIBLE!!!!!

Ann - posted on 05/03/2009

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We had this problem with our now almost two year old... My husband loved having him in our bed, I hated having my ribs kicked to death or a foot in my throat every night. We settled on laying him down in his bed and one of us laying with him until he falls asleep, then if he does try to get in our bed at night, we take him back to his room and lay with him again until he falls asleep... it took a long time (probably a month or so) but now he usually only wakes up once and yells out for us. He doesn't sleep in our bed at all anymore, and we all are getting a much better night's sleep. I think it helped that he saw his younger brother sleeping in his crib without being in our bed too... there wasn't going to be room for four of us in a king sized bed.

Tisha - posted on 04/28/2009

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thank you so much! He never would sleep in the crib either so I've been tryin to figure this out! And you're so right there is no textbook although I wish there were sometimes. My son has night terrors too so I'm afraid of letting him "cry it out" as my mother told me to do. Thank yous o much for your advise.

Jenn - posted on 04/28/2009

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I don't think it's weird at all! My daughter would be the same way.

We tried switching her to a toddler bed, but I just think it was too early for her. Some kids switch as early as 1 and a half. But, every child is different.

So, we temporarily switched her bed back to the crib. Instead of rocking her to sleep, we are kissing her goodnight, praying with her & then letting her self soothe her way to sleep. It's so heartbreaking to hear her fuss, but the time table of her fussing is getting less & less with every night. My goal is for her to go to bed, on her own, without us rocking her first. Once she does that, without any objections, then I'll switch her back to the toddler bed. It may take a week...it may take a month. Hopefully sooner than later, but I'm going to go at her pace & not what the other kids are doing. Each one is different...There certainly is no text book! I wish you many blessings! I'll let you know how it works out for us :o)

Heather - posted on 04/28/2009

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My son is also still in bed with my husband and I. I just had our second son in Feb. and it has been interesting with all of us in a queen bed. So I don't think it is a weird problem and if you figure it out I would love to know how you did it!

Veronica - posted on 04/26/2009

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i have the same problem he is going to be 3 in may and i can get him to sleep only for half the night and all i do is put on a movie that he likes and he well falls asleep to it and then let him in when he wakes up of try to get him back in his bed. try getting him too pick out s night light or getting him something special that he has picked out.try too make it small or something soft that you can pack around. or try putting his bed in your room it may work . let him decorate his room

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