Is it normal to have behavioral issues at 4?

Beckey - posted on 11/02/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I really could use some help! My 4 year old is having some serious behavioral issues and isn't listening at all. Some of the things he is starting to say are downright rude and hurtful. Nothing seems to be working- I have tried time outs, early bed times, tried enforcing naps, taking toys away and not getting any treats. I have tried talking to him and have even tried more one-on-one time to see if that was his issue. None of it has worked and I don’t know what to do.

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Maureen - posted on 02/15/2012

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My boy saw behavioural specialists for biting, hitting, etc. He is usually a very sweet child, but has acted out. Tried the punishment methods - taking toys away, timeouts, etc. Not much worked - but lately been giving extra special attention when he has a good day - rewarding with a coin, or small gift, a lot of hugs and kisses. I think he is noticing that positive attention is better than negative. FINALLY!!! Good luck!

Helenbarth85 - posted on 02/03/2012

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I was having the same problem with my little man. We ended up talking him to therapy when he got kicked out of a daycare center. He has been GREAT ever since. He never said why he was being bad and not listening, but he said it helps that he gets to talk to Dr. Nicole - we can even call and she will call us back if he needs to talk. He knew what he was doing was bad - but always said ht just didnt know how to be good. He may just need an outsider to talk to, it sounds like he knows what he is doing is wrong - you want to get help now before kindergarden

Christen - posted on 11/08/2011

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well i also have 2 older step sons and we put them in therapy and while they were going its helpful. the kid undersztands there isnt judgement and he/she wont be punnished. if i was you and the swat didnt work, id do the therapy. like i said i did it with the older ones.

Beckey - posted on 11/06/2011

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Honestly, I tried a swat on the butt- he laughed at me. I am beginning to think that my only other option is therapy.

Christen - posted on 11/05/2011

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i went through that same thing with my 4 year old. she still bless her heart has her mother's attitude but she has gotten better. i did the stuff u did too and it didnt work. what she needed was boundaries and a swat on her but. not hard mind you but the noise is what got her. i alwasy said i would never spank my child but thats what finally helped./ now we can go into stores and on other family outings with very little if any fits. she also has frequent play dates and things that get taken away for unprefured behavier. so i recamend a pop on the butt. bout the only thing i can think of. unless u feel like looking into therapy.

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