My 4 year old refuses to wipe herself after bathroom! Any Ideas?

Kristina - posted on 07/03/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )

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She will go to the restroom and sit on the toilet yelling through the house for me, she also refuses to do things with comment "I cant do it" any ideas how to stop this behavior?

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Sonya - posted on 11/25/2012

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Get kandoo flushable wipes for kids.Then maybe they will feel more confident in wiping wen they do #1&2.Toliet paper tends to stick to them an can cause irriatation from the broken up tissue.

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Cindy - posted on 11/26/2012

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How do you know she does that at daycare? Are you there to watch?

My now 6 year old never had an issue with #2's and cleaning himself - has been since he was 3.

My 4 year old is a different story. We finally removed the toilet paper from their bathroom and gave them a stack of wash clothes. They both find it easier to use a wash cloth with warm water then to have TP crumble on their bums. They both rinse out the clothes and put them in a laundry basket. But - I have 3 bathrooms, and I wash clothes everyday. Adults and guests have T.P.

"Independence starts at the bath, if they can wash themselves there, grabbing the right amount of T.P. should be easy." It's a nice theory. But do you want to get poop in your hands - no.

Every kid is different - and maybe there is a reason. Maybe you're being played or maybe they need the help and the "day care" is not telling you the truth.

Laura - posted on 11/03/2012

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my daughter is 5. she will be 6 in december. she wipes herself just fine in school but thats just for number 1 of course but when she is home its mommy wipe me, wipe me mommy. i can see me having to wipe her if she does number 2 but why cant she wipe if its just number 1?? i know exactly what u mean kristina

Laura - posted on 11/03/2012

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my daughter is 5. she will be 6 in december. she wipes herself just fine in school but thats just for number 1 of course but when she is home its mommy wipe me, wipe me mommy. i can see me having to wipe her if she does number 2 but why cant she wipe if its just number 1?? i know exactly what u mean kristina

Cathrine - posted on 08/23/2012

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ignore the pleas she will continue to call and get you to do it aslong as you give in and do it praise her by saying your a big girl now you can do it yourself kids will continously say they cant do it because they know mum or dad will give in but don't give in be strong reasure her she's capable of doing it herself and she'll soon stop calling out to get you to wipe her

Christine - posted on 07/06/2012

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My almost 4 year old (ok she's 4 in a week) went potty and wiped just fine when she was in daycare and now that she's home with me all of the time she calls for me to do it. We've finally gotten her to take the control back to do it herself. I've been telling her that when she's 4 she will have to do it herself. I think she wants the attention and some time where we're together alone (I have a 9y/o too) so this might be why it's changed. I think it was a control thing for her too, to see if she could get me to do it.

The only thing I've done is positive reinforcement with "way to go" and high fives and telling her how proud I am that she's a big girl. She's worried she won't be able to clean well enough when she does #2, so I'm onto working on that. The best thing that worked for her was praise, my oldest, bribery was what worked.... a sticker or small treat or some reward to get her started worked before I set the praise phase into action.

Good luck with it....

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