pregnant with 2nd

Mazee - posted on 11/26/2010

hi, i would just like like to congrajulate all the preggie mommies right. my son is two years old and was born on the 28th of july. i have been trying for number 2 since January and nothing has happened n now i am starting to feel desperate. any advice?

Beth - posted on 11/08/2010

We're expecting our second in January, and my daughter loves the idea of the baby in Mommy's belly. She rubs it and sings to it! For a while, she would say that she had a baby in her belly or that my husband had one in his belly, but as my stomach grew, she started to figure it out. Still, she has NO IDEA about how much her world will change when he comes out!! I'm thinking that when I set up the nursery, I'll talk to her some more about the baby coming out of mommy's belly and sleeping in the crib, etc. We'll see how it goes!!

Heather - posted on 11/05/2010

We also just found out we are expecting baby #2. Weve told our son that mommy has a baby in her belly and he will rub and kiss my belly and say baby, but I dont think he quite understands the whole concept. I also went out and bought a small baby doll (as much as my husband despises it) and have started working with him on the you have to be nice to the baby and not hurt the baby! This way when his little brother/sister gets here next June he will already know you have to be nice. He seems to be doing well with the baby doll, hope it is the same with the new baby.

BTW....I love the idea of getting a new gift from baby when baby arrives!

Rebecca - posted on 10/31/2010

There are LOTS of children's books about getting a new baby in the family, too, that might help your son explore some of the different aspects of a new baby. They're written from a child's perspective and may help him start asking any questions he might have. Also, the repetition of reading it, might help the reality sink in.

We just found out a couple of weeks ago that we're expecting out second (my son will be 35 months when the baby comes). We've already told him, but he doesn't grasp it in any way. However, I've already been scoping out books I might like for him to have when the pregnancy starts progressing.

Congrats, and good luck!

LesLee - posted on 10/21/2010

I also got my first one who was 2 years and 7 months when the second was born a gift - he loved fish tanks and fish (Nemo), so we decided to get him that, he was instantly friends with his baby brother. To this day he says its his gift from his baby brother. The gift is a way of not making them feel threatened by the new-comer.

Novieta - posted on 10/21/2010

We told our son mommy's belly is big, because a baby is growing inside of it. I don't think he really grasps the whole pregnancy thing though. So we just kept it at that.

Sometimes when my husband is talking to my belly, Moreno wants to talk to it too. But that's basically it. We're not making a big deal out of it.

We are thinking a lot of how to deal with it once the baby is born. I can imagine him getting a bit jealous over this new baby invading in our house. And he also has to move rooms, so yeah, we're started putting him in a big boy bed early on in the pregnancy. We're trying to finish his new room asap so he can adjust to his new room before the baby arrives. And I also already bought a lot of small gifts to give to him when we get visitors for the baby once it's here. I'm giving everyone a gift to give to him, so he doesn't get jealous by everything the baby will get. lol

Brandee - posted on 10/05/2010

We are planning to start trying for number 2 in June 2011.. That way our children will be 3-4 years apart.. I don't plan on telling our son until the second trimester.. that way the pregnancy is more stable and my belly will probably be showing.. I don't think he will understand unless he can see a difference in my belly.. Just my plan, but I don't think there is a given "right" time to tell them.. You know your child and should tell them when you are comfortable and ready to play 20 questions!!

Nichola - posted on 10/04/2010

Thank you all great ideas...i really like the baby getting hayden a present:-)

Anita - posted on 10/02/2010

something to think about is getting Hayden a present from 'the new baby' when he comes to visit for the first time as majority of your time will be taken up with the new baby, older siblings often have a hard time dealing with the new baby taking all Mummies attention and often hold a grudge or start hurting the new baby to get some of Mummies attention too.



My son was only just 14mths when my daughter was born so he didn't realise as much but we still bought him a present from his sister and we'll do the same when we have another baby. I involved my son constantly throughout my pregnancy and we taught him to rub my belly and say Sissy which made it easier when she was born to explain Sissy is here now :)



Good luck, no 2 children are the same but I hope you have an easy pregnancy and that Hayden bonds well with the new baby :)

Katrina - posted on 09/28/2010

hi my little boy is 2 and ive just found out im pregnat with twins i have been telling him that i have 2 babys in my belly he just walks around saying 2 babys and he loves the idea of rubing my belly as well i have 6 kids all up not including the 2 on the way but with all my kids i have done the same and with my other son he is now 4 he used to have a bath with me and he liked the idea of washing my belly he thought he was washing the baby he coped really well after i deliverd the baby as well let him help you as much as possible with everything you do for the new baby and everything should be good but good luck

Stephanie - posted on 09/28/2010

My daughter was born on the 15th of July 2008 and Ive been telling her that there is a baby in mummies tummy and she will have a brother or sister soon.. Well.. She doesnt beleive me. She always shakes her head and says "NO way!!" hehe. I dont have an answer but im really interested to see what people suggest!