Anybody have a really fussy 16 month old?

Mikaila - posted on 12/17/2010 ( 26 moms have responded )

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My little one is constantly upset lately! I cannot figure it out and it is driving me nuts! She is a very calm baby by nature. She hardly ever cries for anything, but lately she goes from laughing to crying in two seconds, without the slightest sign as to why. I took her to the doctor just four days ago because she had a fever for a couple days. They said everything looked fine, nothing was abnormal, and they couldn't explain the fever. She doesn't want to eat, I just dont't get it? Is it a stage or is something wrong?

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Blythe - posted on 12/31/2010

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Mine 17 month old has been showing the same type of behavior. She is cranky at times, throwing temper tantrums, and being generally difficult. I'm attributing it to a change in her nap schedule. She is going from the two naps to just one in the afternoon. I think she's tired. I'm not sure what to do about it, but know that you're not alone.

Christine - posted on 12/30/2010

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I don't know aboutthe fever, but my son has been super fussy, ugh!!! Meltdowns, and crying for EVERY little thing. He's driving me nuts!!!! He wasn't like that at all!!!!

Katie - posted on 05/11/2013

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Molars, molars, molars. Fever, crankiness, and grabbing ears, are all typical signs for molars coming in. We just finally got through this stage with my 15 month old.. Unfortunately, it took 2 months for all 4 molars to come in :(

Ashlee - posted on 12/28/2010

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@Frenika... google 'Roseola'... it's a viral thing where your child has a fever for about 4 days then a rash will appear... nothing to be too concerned about - just keep up the panadol and give lots of cuddles...
@Mikaila... it's possibly teeth or something - does she settle after a medicine dose? My 17 month old son was always cranky off and on too, but when he started crawling, he was a bit better and he only started walking at 16 months, and has improved heaps since. I think he was frustrated at his lack of mobility - is your child walking? I'm sure it's just a phase so give her lots of cuddles :) I also try to be understanding with Jamie, but I try not to let him whinge and cry too much, depending on what he wants! :)

Chelsi - posted on 01/05/2011

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Mine was exactly like this at about 14 1/2 mo. - not eating, fevar, scratching at his ears and very up/down mood swings.....2 weeks later both top molars had cut threw!!! I would bed that's what's going on!

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Jessica - posted on 11/28/2012

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Please, please please please re-consider your stance on slapping and spanking. Spanking and hand-slapping are left-overs from a generation that didn't have the understanding of chiod psychology and development that's available to moms today. Please do a bit of research - Dr. Sears is a fantastic place to start - http://www.askdrsears.com/topics/discipl...

Erica - posted on 11/28/2012

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i have a 18 month boy that is doing this and has been since his last shots. i cant put him down bc he wont stop crying. i thought at first it was just his teeth but now i dont know

Mikaila - posted on 01/04/2011

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My daughter also likes to throw things. There are a few things that you should try. One: dont react, dont even look at her. She is probably playing these games to get your attention. With my daughter, if I react she will continue to do the same thing, when i dont react, she gives up. Two: Get down on her level, eyes locked with hers (sometimes I have to firmly hold my daughters chubby cheeks bc she refuses to look at me) and tell her very firmly that it is NOT ok to throw things. She will understand this. She has heard by this point enough of the english language to understand. If she continues after that, take her hand in yours and give it a firm slap. This is not for the purpose of hurting her, but to let her know that she was not supposed to do that. Three: I dont know what your stance on spankings are, but it has been successful for me. Again, not for the purpose of hurting her, but she has to learn the discipline of self-control, bc the lack of self-control later in life might bring her worse consequences and perhaps embarrassment. Which is our desire as mothers for our children not to experience, as much as possible. So if you feel comfortable enough to spank her once or twice it will definitely send her the signal that it is not a game to throw things, and that you are in charge, not her. Hope it helps, good luck with your little energizer bunny :)

Jessica - posted on 01/02/2011

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my 17mth old is the same way , she also loves to through stuff and say uh oh it drives me crazy. To me i think terrible twos early cus if she doesnt get her way is when it happens like she wants to run and play and i need to get dishes done so i put her in the play pen and then she screams usually no tears just screams but if anyone has any ideas on how to stop the throughing things please let me know.

Jennifer - posted on 12/30/2010

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I feel your pain! My daughter is 17 months old today and for the past week she fits your description above PERFECTLY. She had a bit of a runny nose which is gone now, but she's unhappy, barely eating, etc. I just can't figure it out. My mom happens to be here for the holidays and she thinks the incisor teeth are coming in. From what I have been told those are the worst teeth to cut. I'm hoping she's right and that my sweet little angel will go back to being happy again soon.

Tia - posted on 12/30/2010

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Tammy, have you considered chiropractic for your little guy? My daughter was the same way. Lasted 2 years and then my husband convinced me to let him take her to his chiropractor and after 1 adjustment she was a new woman. Completely changed her demeanor. Turns out she had some lower back issues that was causing tummy trouble and constipation. I felt horrible that I hadn't agreed sooner. When my youngest was about 2 months old he started having the same symptoms and I wasn't going to wait 2 years again. We took him in as little as he was and the problem was fixed in a couple adjustments. He's the happiest guy I've ever met now. We take all three of our children now and their immune systems have never been better. They don't get sick as much as they used to and if they do it doesn't last nearly as long. I know I sound like a commercial but I just want every parent of a fussy baby to know chiropractic can help. Make sure you find a chiropractor that practices the Gonstead method. It's the method that's proven to work the best. It helps if he or she is good with kids too.

Amanda - posted on 12/29/2010

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my daughter doesnt have a fever but yes..i believe it is a stage she is going through. she is very whiny and clingy and crabby. most of the time just for me? i dont know y. she is fine for her dad but as soon as she sees me she starts to cry and i have to hold her for a while. i am the one that plays with her and bathes her and feeds her and spends all of my available time on her and yet she is the crabbiest with me?

Julie - posted on 12/29/2010

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My son went through his terrible 2's between 16-22 months and actually from 2 until now (he's 3&1/2) has been quite a pleasant experience. My daughter who is now 17 months seems to be following the same path. She is starting to get a bit tantrum like and her mood shifts every 5 seconds. So, if it is from being sick hopefully it will run it's course and get back to normal and she'll start eating normally again etc. But if she still doesn't get sicker and the attitude stays the same just know their is a light and attitude adjustment just a few months a way.

Rebecca - posted on 12/26/2010

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It possibly might be teething. Rosy cheeks? Hands in and around mouth? Fever? The lack of appetite is common with teething and so is the crankiness.

Melissa - posted on 12/24/2010

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As with the other posts, it is most likely teeth...We have gone through this with, our almost 18 month old, every few months. He seemed fine for almost 7 months and then I saw a big change in his behavior. He went from fussy to angry and frustrated.I checked his mouth and sure enough his gums were swollen and within a few days 4 molars popped out. We are now going through a month of ear infections and two different antibioitcs...ugh..the joys of motherhood!

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it is most likely either molars(which do mess with their ears and balance) or maybe eye teeth I'm told they're the worst since they start to come in and then go back down alot. my daughter is getting them right now she's 17 months. she spits out all of the food I give her (unless it's something she really wants) and sometimes she claws her tongue like there's a hair in her mouth but there's not. And she's super cranky, diaper rash, red cheeks, she hasn't gotten a fever yet so far as I can tell but she has gotten a fever when teething before for about 4 days straight but her teeth then came in pretty fast. so it didn't last long. for fever you can try lukewarm bath but get them out before they shiver.... this does work I did it for myself not too long ago at the very least it made my skin stop hurting. and I got to sleep faster. and tylenol. (I was told that you can give them motrin too and over lap with the tylenol since motrin is every 6 hours and tylenol every 4. by a doctor, but I haven't tried it. and you'd probably want to check with your own dr. first. good luck hopefully she gets better soon

Cleide - posted on 12/23/2010

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She may be going through her terrible twos a little earlier. And for the fever, she might have more teeth coming.

Frenika - posted on 12/22/2010

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A few weeks ago my son had a fever for three days. It would fluctuate from 99 to 103 degrees each day. Every night I called the doctor and they told me the same things each night. Finally on the last night, his fever got to 104 so I brought him to the doctor the next morning. Surprisly, got to the doctor and his temp was 98.7. Each day my son played the same and ate the same. Even when his temp was 104 he played. The doctor said that he most likely had something that starts with a Rh. Unfornately, I don't know it off hand. With that a child will have a fluctuating fever for a few days then on the last day the child will have a rash. There is no medicine to give because it just goes away on its own. I can't be certain that my son had that but he did have these mysterious bumps for a day.

Christa - posted on 12/22/2010

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A raised temp could be teething which explains mood swings, love cuddles and bonjela should fix it and if it doesn't dirt itself out with in a week or so I would be back to the doctor.

Tammy - posted on 12/21/2010

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My son has always been fussy right since birth, the first 5 months nothing but crying then the crying happened a little less but he has always cried more than the average baby and I think he still does.

Kay - posted on 12/20/2010

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My lil girl is going through the same thing at the moment, tummy upset and temp slightly raised but docs said theres nothing wrong that they can see. She is fussy with her foods and very clingy. Hope this phase passes soon! The last reply by Janet is a very true one that they become more dramatic if u play to their little mod swings and tantrums. Took me a while to figure it out tho ;). Good luck for all other mums going thru this with their little ones

Janet - posted on 12/17/2010

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My daughter went through this off and on for about 2 weeks before her fever stuck for 4 days and we got in to see the doctor. Before that it would only be for half a day of fever here and there and random bouts of fussiness. It ended up being an ear infection and she also sprouted 4 molars. Not sure if the 2 were connected or just a big coincidence, but after being on antibiotics she's back to her normal self. I also found that the more I "played into" her "moods" the more dramatic they became. Instead I tried to engage her when she was calm and happy and comment on the positive instead of the negative, which helped A LOT. At this age they love an audience and we try to ignore the bad behaviour and focus on the good.

Shaunna - posted on 12/17/2010

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My son has been really fussy, too. I suspect there might be another tooth coming in, but he doesn't like to let me look for them. Or he is going through a growth spurt, and hurting? I don't know... but sometimes it is frustrating.

I am sorry to hear that your daughter has been under the weather, though. The not eating seems to be a stage -- at least my 3 year old goes through phases like that. If the doctor says that nothing is wrong, I would just keep a close eye on her. Keep track of any oddities, and take her back in if you can pinpoint exact things and if she doesn't get better in a few more days. I hope she does!

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