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Nancy - posted on 04/27/2013
Hello ladies. I am new here. Stumbled on this site while researching SIDS sites through a search engine. I lost my youngest son, Jack Thomas Horton from SIDS. In fact today is his birthday, he would have been 14. He was born April 17,1999 - June 12, 1999. I am on a mission after noticing that there are a couple different sites that make fun of babies who die of SIDS. There are a couple petitions to have them banned (one of which I started), because Facebook will not just close them. They have been reported by many people but facebook claims they are not violating anything. I of course disagree! I wanted to share the two petitions to ban these pages with you ladies. We need your voice...we need your votes! Our children should be remembered in peace and love, and never in vain! Please join me in signing both petitions...speak on behalf of all SIDS victims, and their families. Thanks for your help! Please also share with all of your friends... strength in numbers, if you know what I mean.
Trudi - posted on 03/29/2013
Hi Gina sorry about hearing you lost your baby to sids. I am now a grandmother of a 3 year old and one on the way. l lost my second born son Brent to S.I.D.S 23yrs ago he was 9 weeks old he died on good friday. I also lost my 4th son Luke to S.I.D.S 19yrs ago, and he was 7 months old. I never could beleive that l lost one son let alone two. Because l lost Brent, l would constantly check my babies when l put them down to sleep. l remember when l put Luke down, l checked on him only 5 minutes later and he had stopped breathing. straight away l tried CPR, while my partner called an ambulance. The ambulance arrived probably 5 or more mins later,it felt like forever. l only remember them trying to bring him back, and watching a small monitor for the heart all l saw was a flat line,they also injected his heart, and nothing, l prayed the line on the monitor would change but it never did, my son passed away and there was nothing that could be done to bring him back, i remember going in an ambulance with me cradling my son, we walked thru a corridor to a room, l remember everyone just looking, l was in my nightie,with vomit all over me holding my son. when we went into the room l just held him, washed and changed him, and a priest came in and blessed Luke, the staff also took a foot print and cut a tiny piece of hair for me to keep.l stayed with luke for many hours l didnt want to leave him, but eventually l had to. We drove home ,and not long after getting home the childrens hospital rang and asked if we would donate Lukes heart valve. I was heartbroken but l said yes. l remember l l could do was cry my heart out, it takes many years,and you never really get losing your child suddenly, l still have a cry now and then when l think about losing them, And l feel so sad when l hear about a baby dying from S.I.D.S becausev l know what the parents and family are going thru undiscribable pain, I also worked with a lady that lost her son to S.I D S, and she could not handle his death and she was a diabetic that needed injections, and she didnt look after herself and ended up in a coma and passing away her heart was that broken. When l lost my second son to S.I D S l ended up in hospital, l had taken a whole lot of sleeping tablets, but lm glad lm here,life goes on, l have three lovely sons and one grandson, life will get better in time
Jeka - posted on 09/21/2012
I have. It was the worst experience of my life. My little girl was 3 months old when she died, that was almost 3 years ago now. I still think about it and miss her every day :'( I found this page on FaceBook today that just made me burst into tears. It's so sick and cruel, I just can't stop crying. It's called "SIDS is funny because babies DIE". How can they even allow such a page?! I'm a grieving mother and they just laughed at me. Can I have your guy's support in protesting this awful page? Here's the link to the page: "http://www.facebook.com/pages/SIDS-is-Funny-because-Babies-DIE/535715669788965". Thanks guys ♥
Jeanette - posted on 09/19/2012
Hi iam a mother or three my third baby girl was born may 7,2012 and i lost her on august 12,2012 to sids. It is so very hard and still is i miss my baby girl so much each and every day i always wounder why and i guess i will never really know why. I pray every night and thank god that i got to hold my daughter see her kiss her and tuck her in bed for three months i know my daughter is now in heaven an angel and one day i will get to see her again. a beautiful healthy baby girl nothing wrong with her perfect wieght and her lost was so unexpectid never did i think this would happen.
Stephanie - posted on 08/20/2012
I gave birth to my beautiful baby girl on May 5th 2012 and She didnt wake up sunday morning June 24th 2012 at 7 weeks old its very hard and i'm 17 my baby girls name was Annabell Grace she was so smart holding her bottle at 2 weeks and rollin on her side at 3 weeks its unbelievable and very hard :'( it was so unexpected she was so healthy and perfect life and God just aren't fair:,( im sorry for your loss and i can say i know what your going threw prayers to you
Robin - posted on 01/26/2012
I AM sorry for your loss babygirl~~ I feel that your baby must have been really special for God to bring her home. He needs to pick his beautiful little flowers for heaven too. I lost my son at 21 years old in an accident at the beach. I wish I could rewind everyday. The only peace I have is knowing God loves him too. YOU need to know you are God's child. Over time I realized that my son was his in the beginning and his in the end.
I am so glad to have had him the time I did. I got to know my son. You held your baby and loved your baby and your baby felt the love you gave him. His eyes so trusting and full of God's love and trust. He is where we will someday be again. He is there with my son. I picture my son when he was young chasing butterflies in the fields as he did here. Your baby is beautiful today as he was yesterday. Love lives on and God is love. Rest in Peace baby. MOM Rest knowing he is with his maker. The one who loves him as we do.
Don't be angry. I was hurt and it turned to anger for a while. But, knowing what I just told you helped me to get through it. I could not have got through it without my God. Footprints .. God loves you and he will lift you up and help you through all of this. http://www.circleofmoms.com/july-2009
Natalie - posted on 01/07/2012
Unfortunately there are a lot of us out there. We are part of a club that no one wants to join, but once your in there's a lot of pain and sorrow. There's a lot of support from other SIDS parents as well, so I hope no one feels completely alone in this difficult journey. I lost my third child Anthony to SIDS on Oct 24th 2006 a few days shy of 3 months. He was a premie and he had so many issues at birth that there were times we didn't think he would make it. After a few weeks he came home and everything was great......until he suddenly stopped breathing. We were looking at him when it happened and managed to get him to hospital in enough time. We begged the doctors to give us a apnea monitor but the refused, stating that it was an isolated occurrence and it was his Pneumonia that caused him to stop breathing. The second time it happened was a week later but we weren't so lucky the second time. My son shares your son's birth month in July. I hope that everyone here finds peace and just know that although we may not understand at the moment.....all things happen for a reason. God bless and if anyone would like to talk please feel free to.
Heather - posted on 08/05/2011
I lost my sweet boy at 7 months this past St. Patricks Day. he went to nap perfectly normal and happy, was unconscious when his daddy went to get him up, and had no pulse by the time the ambulance arrived. he had a fever of 106.7 we still have no answer as to what cause this and probably never will. It was completely unexpected and every day is a struggle especially when his 2.5 year old sister calls for him
Nichole - posted on 08/04/2011
I lost my lilttle brother when he was 1 month and 5 days old. It was hard. It has now been 19 years and it is still hard sometimes. if u need anything send me and email. if u have questions about sids... I'll tell u everything i know....
Amber - posted on 03/10/2010
My baby was born at 31 weeks gestation, the placenta tore away from the wall we almost lost her, a few minutes more and my daughter would not be hear. I had a great doctor that caught my condition in time. She was born on July 10, 2009 also. I can't even begin to imagine life without her and what you must be going through. I am sorry for your loss and I will keep you in my prayers.
Rebecca - posted on 03/06/2010
I was a lucky one and was able to bring my little girl back. She flipped from her side to her tummy at 3 weeks old with a pacifier in her mouth and her lungs weren't able to hold her 7lbs body.
I am so sorry for your loss.
Nicole - posted on 03/06/2010
my deepest condolences to you and the other ladies here that have lost a child!!! i think i would loose my mind if i lost John!!
i think what you need to do is ask your peadiatrician and a fea other peads how many cases of SIDS do they know about and have heard of in their years of working as a pead.
thats what i did as it has been a fear of mine since i was about 9/10 and first learned of SIDS and my doctor told me that she knew of two cases. one passed away in Maternity unit in the hospital soon after birth and the other was a drunk women who slept with her baby in the same bed and most probably rolled over the baby in her drunken state.
Rekha - posted on 02/05/2010
hi Gina, My condolences to you and your family.
In answer to your question, I lost my first born (not to sids) but to a condition which to this day the doctors cannot tell me what it was. She was born 28/02/2008 and died at 18 days. She wasnt premature or anything, but she had a lot of complications. The doctors said to us we could either let her slip away peacefully, or they could carry op after op and make her suffer. It was our call. It was the hardest decision my husband and i have ever had to make. I totally know how you are feeling as i have been through the same thing. Its hard. Its very hard. even now i have times when i think of her and have to cry uncontrollably. The best advice I would give to you is allow yourself to grieve, that is what helped me through the darkness. Another thing..... your baby is up in heaven smiling down on you. As i know mine is. Be strong.
Sarah - posted on 02/05/2010
so sorry for your loss;-( my sister's 1st bub Ethan, died from sids it was the hardest thing i've ever had 2 deal with he was a healthy bub 8p13oz born no signs at all, he was 5wks 3 days when he died that was 14 yrs ago on the 28th of march. I don't know if u have other kids but my sister has gone on 2 have 6 more kids! & they r all so special, i think an experience like this just lets us know precious they are & how blessed we are 2 have just 1 moment with them.....
Ashley - posted on 02/05/2010
i have lost a baby due to miscarage, and at the time i couldn't imagine it would ever be any harder to loose a child, then when i had my daughter i realized that every day you have them you love them more. i am so sorry for your loss stay strong and know that you have an angel to protect everyone that you love. god bless.
Kate - posted on 02/03/2010
l understand your feeling of helplessness, your need to take care of your child but not being able to. The pain you feel from having empty arms since you can't hold your child, even though your profile picture shows other children. The times you worry about if he's warm even though you 'know ' he can't feel cold. The panic that you don't know 'how ' he is where he is. How insane you feel at 2 in the morning because you can't check on him. l've lost a child. l'm sorry the sun comes up every morning and you have to go on for your other kids when all you want to do is die to be with him. That's how we deal with it, that's how we go on.
Carmel - posted on 01/27/2010
im sorry for your loss u are in our prayers. My Mother lost her first child she was born still born at 7 months 34 years ago. And to this day still talks about her. We vist her grave and my siblings and i talk about if she was here. i dont know whats it like to loss a child but keeping there memoriey alive was good for us and my parents.
Take Care xxx
Emer - posted on 01/24/2010
im so sorry4 ur sad loss i lost a baby 3yrs ago she died at birth she was fullterm& her death was so sudden i now have a 2yr old& 6mth old im ere if u ever want2chat talkin helps hun my thoughts r wit u xxxxxx
Monique - posted on 01/23/2010
Gina, I am so sorry sweetie. And to the moms that have lost a child my heart goes out to you. I watched my aunt lose 2 out of 3 of her children. Her only daughter age 20 and oldest son 27. I also watched my best friend go through 2 miscarriages before she finally had her beautiful baby girl. These two women showed me that no matter how old your children are, it's never easy to lose them. To be honest, I haver seen it get easier either, but I guess the important thing is that you keep their memory and get all the support you can.
Liz - posted on 01/23/2010
I am so sorry for your loss.
My first son Brennan was born on july 6th 2008 and passed away from sids the next morning. My second son Mason is now 6 months old.
I have found some great communities on 'circle of mums' for people who have lost babies to sids. It helps to chat with people who have been through the same loss. Just type SIDS into the search engine and there are so many to join.
I only get on here about once a week but if you ever want to chat please look me up.
Cheyanna - posted on 01/22/2010
I am so sorry to hear about your lost. i know it must be hard to deal with that each day. i have never lost one like that but i did have a miscarriage and that was hard enough. your baby and my new baby would have been the same age. he was born july 22 2009. i am so sorry if you need a friend i am here. cheyanna
Chloe - posted on 01/21/2010
my son would be just ova two however he died only 24 hrs old he was born at 26weeks gestation however was very ill n i was told he wuld probably not make it through the nite i now have a 6 month old son n i got told it gets easier it doesnt but u are able to cope better with time
Krissy - posted on 01/21/2010
my friend lost her little girl and i was 8 weeks pregnant after having 2 miscarrages previously and i was so worried. i still am and every day i think of my friends little girl and it hurts very much , one minute they are there the next they are gone. with my son i had and angle care with a breathing monitor that goes off everytime they stop breathing for 20 seconds or more and i can tell you every time it goes off my heart is pumping out of my mouth and i get teary. i have it for my little girl , as does my friend who now has a little boy. she and i are always cheaking on our babies 'just in case' the monitor doesnt go off. we both know how it feels and i accually have tears now, she was such a beautiful little girl, and it just hurts so much, it does get dimmer but never ever goes away. you can let it effect you and consume you like it did my friend until one day she reilsedd that we had been there all along hurting just like her. they have a private 'memorial' every year for her and this is when thye allow themselves to morne how old she would have been, and all the other important things that only you think about ,like coulor of skin, hair what she would be like who she' be like. but all in all it doesnt matter about that but it makes you feel just a little closer to her for that sole day. i hope the hurt dims enough for you that you are able to as horriable as it is and sounds move on with him in your heart always and forever . oxox your in loss
Tammy - posted on 01/21/2010
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I have not personally as well so I could not imagine what you are going through. My heart and prayers go to you and your family. There is a mom that I know that lost her baby last week and the baby was 7 months as well.
Tonya - posted on 01/20/2010
My condolences sweetie for your loss. I haven't personally lost a child but my cousin and I which shared a birthday passed four months later to the day with SIDS also. I can't image the hurt but keep praying and you will see everything happens for a reason.
Mikayla - posted on 01/19/2010
Sids usually happens within the 1st 3 months, i have not been as worried now my son is 6 months, but hearing that it has happened to nearly 7month old, breaks my heart.
you now no your child is safe and nothing can ever hurt them now x
Stacey - posted on 01/19/2010
I'm so very sorry for your loss. A friend of mine's baby died just shy of 7 months of SIDS and so with my July baby I've been very paranoid..checking on her constantly, making sure everything is away from her while she sleeps.
Amie - posted on 01/19/2010
Sorry for your loss. My grandmother lost a son when he was 4 months old and a friend also lost her son at 4 months. My son was born July 12, 2009 and I have feared the same would happen....he sleeps on his tummy and has since the beginning...he prefers it that way...and everyone kept telling me to put him on his back...he didn't sleep very well or for long on his back, so I was one of those moms who checked on him ALL the time...he is 27 wks now and moves around so much that I am not worried anymore.
you are in my thoughts and prayers for your loss.
Jodie - posted on 01/19/2010
Hi, I lost my daughter Emily (second eldest triplet born 5.7.2009) to NEC (dead bowel). I have two other beautiful babies but they are a constant reminder of my loss. I feel your pain. People say to me that it gets easier. I don't know when I am supposed to feel at ease about losing a child. Please contact me if you want to talk. I find talking about my daughter helps me.
Christa - posted on 01/18/2010
i am sorry for your loss. my cousin died from sids at 5 months. my son was born july 12, 2009 & i was worried that he wouldn't make it to 6 months & he did. its hard to say what causes sids but i will keep you in my prayers. i am here for you if you would like to talk.
Amy - posted on 01/18/2010
i am so sorry for your loss....i hope that you are able to find some peace and solace though that he is in heaven and will always be with you and watching over you. our little girl leigha was also born on july 10th, 2009. we will say a little prayer for you and your family tonight.
Mikayla - posted on 01/16/2010
im really sorry to hear this, i really couldnt imagine what i would do if this happend to my son, i was so worried about it as my bother died at 8 weeks from sids, its so unexspected, out of the blue, everything is is just fine and then something awful happens, and its not even somthing you could have prevented. you could follow all the recomendations to help prevent sids, but it could still happen.
i really hope you understand that yu couldnt have changed anything to stop it from happening, i know its easier to say, i think that f it did happen to me i would be going over and over what i did that night and if i should have done anything differnt.
im sure it doesnt look like it know, but over time it does get easier, you will never forget, but you will learn to cope with what has happened.